Resilience in Positive Psychology: Bouncing Back & Staying Strong

Resilience in Positive Psychology

Resilience in positive psychology refers to the ability to cope with whatever life throws at you. Some people are knocked down by challenges, but they return as a stronger person more steadfast than before.

We call these people resilient.

A resilient person works through challenges by using personal resources, strengths and other positive capacities of psychological capital like hope, optimism, and self-efficacy.

Overcoming a crisis via resiliency is often described as “bouncing back” to a normal state of functioning. Being resilient is also positively associated with happiness.

Let’s Start at the Beginning: Resilience

Relationships play a vital role in building the resilience of an individual. This starts at a young age when we are heavily influenced by our guardians and parents. More resilient children tend to be raised with an authoritative parenting style, rather than authoritarian or passive parenting styles.

Resilience and Parenting Styles
Authoritative Parenting Styles Linked to Resilience. Image Retrieved by URL. Property of Wikimedia.

The authoritative parenting style displays the qualities of warmth and affection that also provide structure and support to the child. Baumrinds’ (1971, 2013) theory of parenting styles highlights why authoritative parenting is the ideal approach to raising a well rounded, independent, self-reliant, and self-controlled individual.

Opposing this is the authoritarian parenting style, that can result in rebellious or dependent children who experience frequent distrust and thus, tend to be withdrawn from others.

Lopez and Snyder (2009) explain several protective factors for psychological resilience, concluding that parenting style is just one of many factors affecting resilience.

Lopez and Synder also consider parental educational level, socio-economic status and home environment (organized vs. disorganized) as strong influences in the development of a child’s psychological resilience.

Many researchers similar conclusions about Baumrinds’ categorization of parenting styles. The type of relationship, as well as the type of person in the relationship, play big roles in the development of resilience. When positive relationships occur, well-adjusted and rule-abiding behaviors are valued; these influences strong positive effects on resilience levels.

Characteristics of resilience include cognitive skills, personality differences, problem-solving ability, self-regulation, and adaptability to stress. In early relationships and supportive environments, children can develop tools that subconsciously develop their psychological resilience and these aforementioned skills.

Lopez and Snyder mention these key protective individual factors as:

  • Positive self-image;
  • Problem-solving skills;
  • Self-regulation;
  • Adaptability;
  • Faith/understanding the meaning and one’s purpose;
  • Positive outlook;
  • Skills and talents that are valued by self and community;
  • General acceptance by others.

Environments for Growth

Our surroundings shape who we are, so it seems crucial to design places and institutions—like schools—that promote individual and communal growth. After all, structure and safety effect psychological resilience.

Factors such as public safety, availability to health care, access to green space, etc., all impact the development of an individual and a community’s resilience. The greater the social care and holistic environments, the more likely people will be exposed to the support structures that can help them when life “gets hard.”

Education is one major factor to consider. Schools could be epicentres of developing resilience, as well as safe spaces to practice and develop these skills. Prosocial organizations such as sports teams or clubs can also be hotspots of resilience-training. These environments enable individuals to develop a positive self-image, believe in their strength, and find the purpose amidst change.

A core part of the positive education movement is creating prosocial organizations and effective schools.

For a great example of how to implement resilience in your own environment, check out the Penn Resiliency Program that links well-being and resilience together. Penn designs the program to fit the individual needs, goals, and culture of organizations.

Researcher Dr. Karen Reivich offers a pool of resources in this program. Essentially, every program, workspace, school, etc., can benefit from creating a culture of resilience.

How Do I Become More Resilient?

Even if the environment you grew up wasn’t ideal to develop resilience, it’s never too late. Being resilient is not a personality trait: it is a dynamic learning process.

A major point in learning resilience is to take a perspective on things. In moments of stress, it might be useful to place your individual situation into a bigger context and grasp on its real severity, or the lack thereof.

For example, one visualization technique that can build resilience is to think of a recent challenge or “crisis” in your personal life. Imagine the place you currently exist and slowly zoom out of yourself. Slowly zoom out of the building you’re in, out of the place, out of the state, country and even continent. Then zoom out further—all the way through the ozone layer—until you reach the moon and you can see the whole earth.

Now think about your problem again: how big is it really? What does it look like from outer space?

It is not simple to “change our thoughts,” but it is often a key first step. Sometimes we need to zoom out, in order to recognize that in the larger scheme of things, maybe we are still okay. Maybe we even learned something from an uncomfortable experience and depended on the support of others.

Sometimes, situations will remain messy and difficult. Zooming out is not a “cure-all.” 

But overall, people who are resilient might exhibit a positive attitude that guides them through the obstacle. They shift the label of failure of something negative to something helpful instead. With feedback and motivation, we can each work to get better and “fail forward.”

Getting in touch with other people, helping them, and establishing positivity are important steps in learning resilience. In Harvard’s Positive Psychology 1504 course, professor Tal Ben-Shahar goes in-depth on the subject of resilience in positive psychology.

It’s not simple, but it gets easier with practice. So how do we encourage personal mindsets that influence our daily lives for the better?

Developing a Mindset That Fosters Success

Having experienced an explosion in personal development, success coaching, and lifestyle engineering, today’s world has never been hungrier for the glory of goal achievement.

Whether these goals stem from desires for fitness, entrepreneurship or some other domain, they all have one thing in common: a road paved with uncertainty, sacrifice, and setbacks. As such, it is key that you learn to foster a sense of resilience within yourself to ensure you overcome these setbacks to aid your rise to greatness.

Fortunately, given the abundance of empirical evidence, the methods for doing so have never been clearer.
Detailed below are a series of tools designed to help you cultivate resilience and in doing so prepare you for the road ahead.

Identify and Leverage Your Strengths

Using your character strengths is a good way for yourself to experience your competence. However, a lot of people don’t know what their strengths are. Something that you are good at comes easily to you, which is why you often take it for granted and don’t recognize it as a major strength.

Learn more about character strengths and take the VIA test for instance to find your strengths. It can also be helpful to ask people who know you well what they think you are good at. While you are at it, ask yourself as well!

Several strengths are associated with happiness, which in turn is a helpful state of mind to become more resilient. Science shows that consciously embracing moments of daily life and being fully present (mindfulness) leads to increased happiness.

“The good life is using your signature strengths every day to produce authentic happiness and abundant gratification.”

– Martin Seligman 

Character Strengths and Resilience
Six Character Strengths.

When times are tough, it’s easy to lose hope and optimism. That’s why we need to know our strengths, especially when life gets tough.

Knowing our strengths helps with greater vitality and motivation, a clearer sense of direction, higher self-confidence, productivity and a higher probability of goal attainment (Clifton & Anderson, 2001-2; Hodges & Clifton, 2004; Peterson & Seligman, 2004).

Many of us are unaware of what your strengths actually are. To find them, you could ask a close friend or family member to observe you closely for a day or two, or just review what they do know about you. When do you seem most engaged and energized? Why? This process can help identify your strengths.

Maybe write them down somewhere, or keep a tiny note in your pocket, to remind you of them.

You might also try to notice what you do uniquely, with this request feedback from other people. Maybe make it an exchange at work or a dinner gathering: have a list of strengths available for reference, and everyone chooses one strength to describe each coworker, friend, etc., at said event.

Strengths serve us well in times of darkness, as well as times of light. It’s time we start knowing our own and valuing them.

Learn to Perceive Obstacles as Challenges Rather Than Hindrances

According to the challenge-hindrance stressor framework researched by Cavenaugh et al. (2000), people who view problems with curiosity are more likely to solve the issue and move forward, rather than be defeated by the issue itself.

Why? Because when confronted with a problem, many people view it as an attack on themselves, or as a roadblock that prevents them from a goal.

This victim mentality hinders their progress, and thus weakens their sense of resilience. For example, upon receiving criticism by their boss, a victim may talk back to their boss in anger, deny or excuse the outcome of their work, or even complain about their boss to their colleagues.

Embodying this type of mindset sets people up for failure, which also means additional challenges may, indeed, break a person rather than fuel them forward. Consider this quote:

“Challenges are what make life interesting; overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.” – Joshua J. Marine

People with a challenge perspective view the problem as an opportunity for growth and as a chance to improve themselves. Unlike hindrance perspective, a challenge perspective allows people to see their problem as something that has happened “for you” rather than to you.

In some cases, the challenges themselves—especially with hindsight—are actually what provided people with meaning and the passion to persevere. This victor mentality encourages growth, which creates a positive feedback cycle by boosting resilience.

Referring to the above example regarding feedback from a boss, a victor may attempt to understand why the quality of work was not acceptable, request further feedback on how to improve, and maybe even seek advice from colleagues.

In turn, this humility might lead to admiration among staff, and a person who grows into leadership roles since they were willing to adopt a growth-mindset as someone learning along the way.

To summarize, when we acknowledge an obstacle, identify areas for personal improvement, and know our strengths, we position ourselves for meaning and success.

Focus on Progress, not Goals

Research published by the American Psychological Association (APA) in 2015 cited that “monitoring goal progress” is crucial in ensuring that your goals are translated into action. The following quote aptly summarizes why this may be:

“Progress is not inevitable. It’s up to us to create it.”

– Michael Bloomberg 

For example, in this APA study, when people report their progress publicly or even physically record it, they are more likely to continue towards their goals.

Digital advancements of our century provide us with the ability to share our journeys one a global scale. Caution is needed with this however, since posting our progress makes us apt to compare our goals and achievements with others.

When people compare themselves negatively with others, they are likely to feel discouraged and doubtful. At that point, all it takes is a minor setback to send you plummeting back to square one. If tracking and sharing progress, it is important to resist the natural urge to compare your goals with others. Try to resist this.

Instead, this APA study shows that acknowledging your progress, no matter how small, sends dollops of dopamine to your brain, thus rewarding yourself for your actions. This reinforces further action so when setbacks arise, we are much more likely to move past them.

In a sense, your sense of resilience thrives on progress. So remind yourself of the strides you’ve made, what fuels you forward, and how you’ve embraced challenges along the way.

“I don’t measure a man’s success by how high he climbs but how high he bounces when he hits bottom.”

– George S. Patton Jr.

Practice Your ABC’s

Described by Seligman and addressed in detail in Reivich and Shatté, the ABCDE model allows people to deconstruct a specific “problem” and understand how their “beliefs about what happened” caused them to feel a certain way, not the event itself.

This creates a greater level of awareness about our own reactions, so we can work to have the skillsets needed for a more healthy response to adversity.

The model is composed of 5 steps:

  • Adversity;
  • Beliefs;
  • Consequences;
  • Disputation;
  • Energization.

 

These steps help build resilience by recognizing unfavorable thought patterns, finding the true reason behind the emotions, recognizing the negative impact of these emotions, and learning to challenge them.

What if every time we analyzed a problem, we took less fault personally, and instead, adopted a lens that promoted growth and commitment to our goals?

By understanding the problem, our beliefs about the problem, the consequences of those beliefs, and the discrepancy between our believes and the problem itself, we are likely to feel energized and ready to embrace the next challenge more openly.

What are your thoughts after reading this article regarding resilience? Please feel free to leave a comment below. We want to leave you with the following quote:

“Life doesn’t get easier or more forgiving, we get stronger and more resilient.”

– Dr. Steve Maraboli

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About the Author

Seph Fontane Pennock, BBA, is the co-founder of PositivePsychology.com. Seph strongly believes that we can deal with most of life’s absurdities by leveraging human connection and challenging ourselves, instead of using dogma or pharmaceutical drugs.

Comments

  1. Mustapha

    The article is amazing; so many good ideas and inspiring quotes that I am thinking of using either as brainstorming or for reflection when training teachers on how to become resilient.

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  2. Nils Salzgeber

    Some great advice here, thanks!
    Any talk about resilience always reminds me of this quote from Joe De Sena:
    ““Spartan up!” The title of this book is a phrase I bark at people every day in one situation or another. Those two words have a simple meaning: stop complaining and get it done! “Spartan up!” is an attitude, an X factor, a way of life that I would sum up like this: Challenges make me stronger. Failure makes me work harder. Knock me down, and, sure as a shit, I’m getting right back up.”
    That’s resilience: Knock me down, and, sure as a shit, I’m getting right back up.
    Anyway, thanks again. And keep up the good work 🙂

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  3. Seph Fontane Pennock

    This article has just been updated – enjoy!

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  4. Luc Dumas

    Please read about the Cambridge Somerville Youth Study and tell from whoom and where your info comes from, please.

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    • Seph Fontane Pennock

      Will check it out Luc. Our sources are listed in the references section as always.

      Reply
  5. Betty

    As someone who has some BPD tendencies I can completely relate with the things said this article. Growing up, you could literally divide me to two different “Betties”, a very positive and open Jakyll-Betty, and an exiguous and down-hearted Hide-Betty, just according to how rough the past few weeks were. Having to deal with that as an adolescent was never easy and soon enough I found out that not only that the two Betties varied in their mood, but also in how the perceived the world. The happy Betty was less focused, less lively and did very poorly in academics. I just couldn’t focus for to long. I went from being in the top of my class to an average student at best. I even had a name for it – I called it “my blurry phases”, because that’s how it feels- like everything is less clear. Being healthy and satisfied in a spiritual way has more to do with just your every-day well being, important how it may be. It has the option to lift barriers in your mind making yourself not a “better person, just a much better “you”.

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