21 Couples Therapy Worksheets, Techniques, & Activities (PDF)

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What if I told you there was a magic recipe for making a relationship work? I’m sure you wouldn’t believe me, and for good reason!

It’s easy to see how difficult relationships can be. If there was a totally effective method for happy, healthy relationships out there, surely someone would have packaged it up and sold it by now, right?

Until we can find that 100% success guaranteed recipe for a perfect relationship, we’ll have to make do with what we do have – building our relationship skills, communicating effectively, engaging in activities that enhance our connection, and using couples therapy to tackle any of the big issues.

Read on to learn more about all of these great ways to build and maintain a great relationship.

Before you continue, we thought you might like to download our three Positive Relationships Exercises for free. These detailed, science-based exercises will help you or your clients build healthy, life-enriching relationships.

What is Couples Therapy and What is Couples Counseling?

“Couples therapy” and “couples counseling” usually mean the same thing. There is no difference between them on a technical level.

The only context in which it matters what the session is called is a legal one; in some places, you must have a special certification or license to practice “therapy” that is more difficult to obtain than the certification or licensing to practice “counseling.”

Whether you call it couples therapy or couples counseling, this type of engagement with a qualified professional provides couples with an opportunity to work through their most difficult or emotionally challenging problems.

These problems can range from simple communication issues or significant disagreements to substance abuse issues and psychological disorders (Bonior, 2017).

While couples therapy can be a great way to reconnect with your partner or mend the differences between you, there are many ways to make sure you keep the spark alive and the relationship healthy without seeing a professional. There are many resources out there that draw from theories or research in couples therapy.

It’s never too late (or too early) to start putting a little more effort into your relationship. If you would like to improve your connection, choose one or two of the activities and exercises described below to practice with your partner.

If you are a marriage and family therapist or couples counselor, consider sharing some of these activities and exercises with your clients.

Let’s dive in!


What Are the Best Relationship Activities for Couples?

Swapping Books as a Therapy ExerciseThere is no one “best” activity that couples can engage in to build a healthy relationship and fend off divorce or separation because each couple will have their own best practice.

For some couples, it may be engaging in a shared hobby together, like bike riding, playing a beloved game, or playing music together. For others, it may be the long talks they often have when looking up at the stars, over morning coffee, or lying in bed at night.

No matter what this activity is, the only things that matter are that the activity:

  1. Is something you can do together
  2. Is something you can do regularly
  3. Is enjoyable (or at least not unpleasant) for both partners, and
  4. Is something that allows you to communicate in a healthy and productive way.

These four criteria don’t narrow down the world of activities very much, and that’s how it’s meant to be. The prescription for a good relationship for one couple may not work for another couple, and vice versa. Each relationship is unique and should be appreciated and tended to as the unique connection that it is.

If you’re stumped on what activity might be best for you and your partner, the following exercises may be a good place to start.

6 Exercises to Learn More About Each Other

1. Icebreakers

The old faithful activity for bringing people together – icebreakers! I’m sure you remember these from school, training, or another context in which strangers are forced to interact or work together. This time, you won’t have to break the ice with a stranger; instead, you will get to know your partner a little better.

Even if you think you know everything there is to know about your partner, asking them some fun icebreaker questions is bound to produce at least one or two new facts about your partner that you didn’t know before.

Try asking them questions like:

  1. Tell me something weird about yourself.
  2. Tell me your favorite ice cream flavor.
  3. Tell me a wonderfully random childhood anecdote (Suval, 2015).

Feel free to get suggestions or ideas from actual icebreakers for this exercise.

Use this exercise whenever you feel the need to get a little more connected to your partner and be ready to learn some interesting new things!


2. The Game of Truth

Although you might enjoy watching Game of Thrones with your significant other, sorry – that doesn’t meet the four criteria! However, you can work in a game of another kind – the Game of Truth.

In this game, all you need to do is ask your partner questions and answer your partner’s questions honestly. The sole purpose of this game is to enhance your connection, so the content of the questions can range from the lightest topics (favorite television show or celebrity crush) to the heaviest (greatest fear or desire, meaning of life).

For example, you could ask your partner questions like:

  • What’s your biggest fear?
  • If you could be anywhere in the world right now, where would you be and why?
  • What’s a fond childhood memory that’s close to your heart?
  • Which song truly speaks to you?
  • Who is someone who inspires you? (Suval, 2015)

This simple game can get you and your partner sharing intimate and meaningful details with one another, improving your connection and building up your relationship base.


3. Music Shares

Music can be a deeply personal and intensely meaningful experience – one that can be difficult to share with others. While it might make you feel overwhelmingly vulnerable to share something so personal with your partner, it’s a risk that can pay off in a huge way. The reward may be a deeper and more connected relationship with your partner, something that is surely worth the risk!

Take some time to think about and listen to some of your favorite music. Find songs that resonate with your personal life story, showcase your personality, or articulate some of your most deeply held beliefs. Share these songs with your partner, along with an explanation of how the song relates to you and why you chose it to share with him or her.

This extremely personal exercise can leave you and your partner with much better insight into each other, into yourselves, and into your relationship (Suval, 2015).


4. Swap Books

Another personal (and possibly scary) activity is to swap favorite books with your partner (Suval, 2015).

What you love to read may convey some important messages about who you are and what you value to your partner and vice versa. No matter how well you know your partner, this exercise can reveal something about them that you never knew before.

Reading their favorite book is like getting a window into your partner’s mind; this is especially true in the case of a long-favorite book or a book from childhood.

Diving into something that had a profound impact on your partner in some of their most formative years is a fantastic way to forge a deeper connection.


5 Best Couples Therapy Books

Speaking of books, there are many excellent therapy books out there to help you learn about or practice couples therapy.

A few of the most popular books on couples therapy are described below.


1. Couples Therapy: A New Hope-Focused Approach – Jennifer S. Ripley and Everett L. Worthington, Jr.

Couple TherapyThis book is a rare find – one that speaks to both couples and their counselors, therapists, or religious advisors alike.

Couples Therapy outlines Ripley and Worthington, Jr.’s approach, expands on the theory behind it (note: approach also has a foundation in Christian beliefs), and provides assessment tools, real-life case studies, and resources for use in counseling.

You can find this book on Amazon, where it enjoys another rare achievement – a nearly perfect 5-star rating.


2. Couples Counseling: A Step by Step Guide – Marina Williams

Couples CounselingCouples Counseling is an excellent resource for therapists, counselors, and other mental health professionals who work with couples.

This book will walk the reader through a complete couples counseling treatment – from intake to termination.

With step-by-step instructions and evidence-based methods, tips, and exercises, this book can give a novice counselor the tools necessary to engage in their first clinical engagement.

This book is also very highly rated on Amazon, and you can read the reviews or purchase the book for yourself.


3. Clinical Handbook of Couple Therapy – Alan S. Gurman and Jay L. Lebow

Clinical Handbook of Couple TherapyThis book is a must-have for students and practicing professionals.

It covers the most popular and most effective methods and approaches in couple therapy, including the history, theoretical foundations, research findings, and techniques for each.

This updated text also includes information on applying these approaches to sensitive or complex contexts, such as blended families, LGBT couples, and separated couples.

It also aids the therapist in addressing clinical problems like partner aggression, psychological disorders, and medical issues. This newest edition of the Clinical Handbook of Couple Therapy can be purchased or reviewed on Amazon.


4. The High-Conflict Couple: A Dialectical Behavior Therapy Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy, & Validation – Alan E. Fruzzette and Marsha M. Linehan

The High-Conflict CoupleThis is the one book on the list that is intended for struggling couples alone, rather than helping professionals.

It is written specifically for couples who are highly reactive, or quick to argue, quick to anger, and quick to blame; however, any couple will find useful information in this book.

The High-Conflict Couple draws from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) to provide exercises, techniques, and tools that will help a couple improve their communication, rediscover trust, and address their problems in a healthy and productive manner. You can find this book on Amazon.


5. Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy for Dummies – Brent Bradley and James Furrow

Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy for DummiesFinally, a seriously good resource with a silly title and great information. You certainly don’t have to be a “dummy” to get something out of this book.

Whether you’re a student of couple or marriage therapy, a new practitioner, or simply someone who is interested in couple therapy, this book will be a valuable addition to your library.

Not only does it provide an overview of Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT), it also provides simple strategies, useful tips and tools, and interesting case studies to help you get the basics in this type of therapy. You can find this highly reviewed “for Dummies” book on Amazon.


7 Couples Counseling Exercises, Worksheets, & Techniques

If you don’t have the time or the inclination to read through a book on couples therapy right now, that’s alright. There are some quicker and easier ways, also backed by couples counselors and therapists, to learn more about your partner and improve your connection.

A few of the most successful exercises, worksheets, and techniques are described next (Gray, 2014).

3 Exercises to Improve Intimacy

1. Soul Gazing

This is an intense exercise that will help you and your partner connect on a deeper level. It can have a huge impact on your sense of connectedness, but it’s not for the faint of heart!

To try this exercise, face your partner in a seated position. Move so close to one another that your knees are nearly touching, and look into each other’s eyes.

Hold eye contact for three to five minutes. Don’t worry, it’s not a competition – you can blink! However, refrain from talking. Simply look into one another’s eyes, even if it’s awkward at first. If the silence is uncomfortable, choose a song that is pleasant to both of you or meaningful in terms of your relationship and hold eye contact until the song ends (Gray, 2014).

Even popular culture has developed insight into the power of this exercise. Here’s one video below by Glamour that may make you cry—in a good way.


2. Extended Cuddle Time

This exercise is just as simple—and fun—as it sounds! The instructions are simply to cuddle more often.

It’s easy to get distracted with a cell phone, tablet, or book at bedtime, but cuddling is actually a much better way to end your day. The chemicals that are released when we cuddle with our partner improve our mood, deepen our connection, and can even help us sleep better.

This exercise is intended to be practiced right before bed, but you can carve out any time of the day to cuddle if bedtime doesn’t work for you. The important thing is to get some one-on-one time, show physical affection, and enhance your intimacy with your partner.

Relationship consultant Jordan Gray (2014) suggests cuddling to a music playlist if you have trouble finding or committing to a regular cuddle session. You could also sneak in some cuddle time while watching a movie or first thing in the morning when you both wake up – the point is to work it in however works best for you.


3. The 7 Breath-Forehead Connection Exercise

This exercise is an excellent way to take your mind off of what is happening around you and focus on your partner.

To begin, either lie down on your side by your partner or sit upright with your partner. Face each other and gently put your foreheads together. Make sure your chins are tilted down so you aren’t bumping noses and stay in this position for a few breaths.

Breathe at least seven slow, deep breaths in sync with your partner. It might be difficult at first, but you will get the hang of it before long. If you and your partner are enjoying the exercise, feel free to prolong it – take 20 breaths together, or 30, or simply breathe together for a set amount of time. There are no disadvantages to feel connected with your partner, so go for it!

This close breathing exercise will put you and your partner into an intimate, connected space. Practice it whenever you feel the need to slow down and refocus on each other.
4 Exercises to Improve Communication

4. Uninterrupted Listening

Another simple but powerful exercise is called Uninterrupted Listening, and it’s exactly what it sounds like (Gray, 2014). We all need to feel heard, understood, and cared for, and this exercise can help both you and your partner feel this way.

Set a timer for this exercise (three to five minutes will usually do the trick) and let your partner talk. They can talk about whatever is on their mind – work, school, you, the kids, friends or family, stress – it’s all fair game.

While they are speaking, your job is to do one thing and one thing only: to listen. Do not speak at all until the timer goes off. Simply listen to your partner and soak it all in. While you may not speak during this time, you are free to give your partner non-verbal encouragement or empathy through body language, facial expressions, or meaningful looks.

When the timer goes off, switch roles and try the exercise again. You may find that one partner is much chattier than the other, which is totally normal.


5. The Miracle Question

This exercise is a great way for couples to explore the type of future they would like to build, individually and as a couple. We all struggle at times, but sometimes the struggle is greater because we simply do not know what our goals actually are – asking the “Miracle Question” can help you or your clients to clarify your goals.

This question helps both partners to probe their own dreams and desires, and learn about their partner’s dreams and desires. It can aid a couple in understanding what both they and their significant other needs in order to be happy with the relationship.

Therapist Ryan Howes (2010) phrases the Miracle Question this way:

“Suppose tonight, while you slept, a miracle occurred. When you awake tomorrow, what would be some of the things you would notice that would tell you life had suddenly gotten better?”

While either partner may give an answer that is an impossibility in their waking life, their answer can still be useful. If practiced within the context of couples therapy, the therapist can dive deeper into the clients’ unrealistic miracle with this question: “How would that make a difference?”

This discussion helps the client(s) to envision a positive future in which their problems are addressed or mitigated, and the therapist to learn how he or she can best serve their clients in the session.

If you are engaging in this exercise without the guidance of a therapist, don’t try to dive too deep into the answer if it is unrealistic or impossible. Instead, use this discussion as an opportunity to learn something new about your partner and plan for your future together.


6. The Weekly CEO Meeting

If you and your partner are leading lives jam-packed with activities, events, and obligations, this exercise will be a great way to connect.

This exercise provides you and your partner with an opportunity to interact as adults (no kids allowed) and without distractions (no phones, tablets, or laptops allowed).

Schedule a non-negotiable chunk of time (30 minutes is a good default) once a week for you and your partner to talk about how you both are doing, your relationship as a couple, any unfinished arguments or grievances, or any needs that are not being met.

You can start the exercise with questions like:

  • How do you feel about us today?
  • Is there anything you feel incomplete about from this past week that you would like to talk about?
  • How can I make you feel more loved in the coming days?

The answers to these questions should lead you and your partner in a healthy and productive discussion about your selves and your relationship. Make sure to do this regularly to keep on top of any issues and ensure that things don’t get swept under the rug or put on the back burner for too long (Gray, 2014).


7. Five Things… Go! Exercise

Another quick and easy exercise, this exercise can be engaged in anywhere the two of you are together. You only need your words and your imagination!

Come up with a theme for each time you practice this exercise – something like “what I’m grateful for,” “what I appreciate in you,” or “what I’d like to do with you this month” – and list five things each within this theme.

You could have one partner go first and list all five things, or you and your partner could alternate saying one of your five things at a time. However, you decide to do it, be creative and don’t be afraid to get silly with your partner!

As an example, you could ask your partner, “What are five things that you love that I have done for you lately?”

Their answers might be something like, “Taking out the trash, making a dinner reservation, getting my car detailed, cuddling with me, and watching my favorite movie with me.”

Once they finish their list, come up with your own answer to the question, such as, “Fixing the water heater, pulling weeds, sewing the button back on my shirt, telling me how much you love me, and kissing me goodnight each night.”

When you have both finished sharing your list, you can talk about your items, show each other appreciation, ask follow-up questions, or come up with more items together.

This exercise is a fun and engaging way to connect with your partner, learn something new, or reminisce over good shared memories.

Find out more about these seven exercises at this link (Gray, 2014).


Free Relationship Worksheets for Couples

couples therapy exercises gratitudeThere are many more resources out there for couples who wish to try new things and build their connection.

A few of the best free worksheets that can help couples enhance their bond are listed and described below.


About Your Partner Worksheet

This worksheet is a great activity for those in a relationship who want to make changes or solve some difficult relationship problems. It keeps the discussion light but reminds a couple of their special connection, while helping them learn more about themselves and their partner.

The instructions direct the couple to take turns asking each other a question from each section below or ask them all if they believe they know the answers.

The questions are divided into six categories:

  1. Fun and Games (example question: What is your partner’s ideal vacation spot?)
  2. The Future (example question: What are the most important items on your partner’s bucket list?)
  3. You and Me (example question: What does your partner miss the most about you when you are apart?)
  4. Other People (example question: Is there anyone who your partner sees as a role model?)
  5. Careers (example question: What are your partner’s friends like in the office?)
  6. Feelings (example question: What are the main feelings your partner has experienced today?)

Asking and answering these questions can help couples feel closer, learn about each other, and reminisce or dream for the future together.

Use this About Your Partner Worksheet.


Good Qualities

This worksheet can help you or your client to remember the good qualities in your partner, especially when there are problems or arguments within the relationship.

Sometimes all it takes to get partners working together to solve their problems is a reminder of why they love each other.

The worksheet is divided into four sections to be filled out by the client:

  • The good qualities which first drew me to my significant other were…
  • The most cherished memories of our time together include…
  • I appreciate my partner because…
  • My partner shows me they care by…

For each section, the client is instructed to identify at least three things that they love about their partner, treasured memories with their partner, or the ways in which their partner returns their love.

Click to see this Good Qualities worksheet and print it out for yourself or your clients.

3 Exercises to Improve Appreciation of Each Other

Appreciative Inquiry of Relationships

If you or your client are struggling in a romantic relationship, this is another good worksheet to try. When a couple is having trouble, it can sometimes help to dig deeper into the good stuff rather than on the problems they are experiencing.

Appreciative Inquiry (AI) examines what gives life to a relationship, through positive questions and respectful inquiry. A couple can use this approach to open up their past and look at their successes, potential, values, and strengths as a couple.

It will help the couple remember that they are a team with common goals, common desires, and common traits. There are five sections to fill out, with space below to record your answers:

  • Identify an Important Relationship – This AI worksheet is ideal for deep diving into family relationships and friendships as well as for romantic partners. Try to be as descriptive as possible with your answers, looking at the current state of the relationship and your feelings toward your partner and things between you.

  • Discover – This is divided into two steps.
    • First, a Celebration exercise in which you will recall a shared experience that you would like to celebrate. What was worth celebrating about this experience or moment? What is it that made it so positive? What qualities did you bring to the moment? What about your partner?

    • Next, a Maintenance activity in which you will reflect both on your own most positive contribution to sustaining the relationship, and your partner’s. What do you each bring to keep the relationship developing in a healthy way? What really works about that contribution?

  • Dream – Your next step will be to envision your perfect future together. Take some time to close your eyes and visualize how you would like things to be? What are your aspirations and dreams for your future together? What words could your partner use to describe you that would make you feel proud? Use the space beneath this step to describe your dreams.

  • Design – With your dream freshly written down, the following step is about designing concrete steps that you yourself could take toward that desired future. Think about your personal strengths and how those might help you in achieving your ideal relationship, then apply the same approach to the steps that you and your partner could take together.

  • Destiny – Use this important final space to lay out your intentions so that you can commit to them. Consider the rationale for each intention you will commit to, as this will help motivate you when any potential obstacles arise. Try to make these “Whys” as meaningful as possible by linking them back to your personal values, as well as why the relationship itself is so important in your eyes.

Filling in these blanks will encourage a couple to remember the good things in their relationship and commit in a meaningful way to positive change that builds on their strengths.

Click to see this Appreciative Inquiry of Relationships worksheet.


Apologizing Effectively

This is not technically a worksheet in the traditional sense, but it provides invaluable information about how to apologize effectively when either party has hurt their partner or damaged the trust in a relationship. For this reason, it is too great a resource not to share.

The four steps to effective apologizing are laid out as follows:

  1. Acknowledging – Whether you have hurt your partner willingly or unwillingly, you can begin an effective apology by taking responsibility and acknowledging the relevant offense. Demonstrate that you recognize your responsibility by “I” (“I messed up…” or “I am at fault…”). Acknowledge who has been hurt, as well as the nature of the transgression itself.

  2. Give an explanation for the offense – Explain both that you never meant to hurt the other person and that it won’t happen in the future. This worksheet also provides tips on how to distinguish between excuses and explanations for an effective, meaningful apology.

  3. Express your remorse – Naturally, we feel regret and remorse amongst other feelings when we hurt another person. Expressing the emotions that you feel – such as humiliation, shame, embarrassment, and so forth – can help your partner understand your recognition of the mistake. For example, “I feel really bad about what happened. For days I have felt embarrassed about how I let you down”.

  4. Make amends – Follow up your verbal acknowledgment and apology with actions that aim to fix the damage caused. Talk to your partner and see what they might consider a good reparation for the damage to your relationship.

This worksheet describes each step and provides tips for you or your client to follow the next time there is a disagreement, argument, or breach of trust.

To read more about these steps, you can view or download the Apologizing Effectively worksheet from our Toolkit.


Naikan Reflection

While this Naikan Reflection worksheet is something for each partner to work on alone, it’s still a great resource for couples who would like to build and maintain a healthy relationship.

The exercise encourages the reader to remember not to take his or her partner for granted. It helps to cultivate feelings of appreciation and gratitude while encouraging each partner become more aware of where they stand morally with their partner. Following these suggestions can help couples show their partners appreciation and inject some gratitude into their relationship.

Naikan Reflection is a Japanese method of self-reflection that features in therapy as three questions (Krech, 2001); on this sheet there is space for you to record your answers. Thinking back over the past 24 hours, and with your partner specifically in mind, reflect on the following:

  • What have I received? What support, care, and attention did you get from your partner? Did they say kind things to boost your self-confidence? Drive you to work or pick you up afterward? Was lunch packed for you? Feel free to list everything that you received from your partner over the past 24 hours.

  • What have I given? Did you ask them how school was? Did you call them just to say hi? Pick up their clothes or rub their shoulders?

  • What troubles or difficulties have I caused? Think now about the ways in which you might have caused any hassle or hurt for your partner throughout the day. Perhaps you snapped at them out of impatience, or pointed out something they forgot? Did you criticize some of their work, or forget to do something they were counting on?

One aim of this exercise is to cultivate your natural desire to help and care for your partner. By heightening your recognition of how much you really receive and offer in turn each day, Naikan Reflection is a useful exercise to boost your experience of gratitude and its benefits.


A Take-Home Message

This piece included a description of couples counseling or couples therapy and introduced several engaging, informative, and helpful exercises for making the most out of a romantic relationship.

We hope you found a few new ideas for how you can bond with your partner (or help your clients bond), but we also hope you got the underlying message—no relationship is perfect, but there are perfect ways of showing up for each other when it is hard.

No relationship is without an occasional problem, and even the best can benefit from some concerted effort on the part of each partner. Whether you are in a new relationship or going on your 50th anniversary, there is still more to learn about your partner and more new and interesting things to do together.

What do you think keeps your relationship happy and healthy? Have you tried any of these activities or exercises? What do you think is most important in a good romantic relationship? Let us know in the comments below.

Thanks for reading, and remember to appreciate your significant other. It will benefit both of you.

We hope you enjoyed reading this article. Don’t forget to download our three Positive Relationships Exercises for free.

If you want more, our Positive Psychology Toolkit© contains over 370 science-based positive psychology exercises, interventions, questionnaires, and assessments for practitioners to use in their therapy, coaching, or workplace.

  • Bonior, A. (2017, September 19). Should you go to couples therapy? Psychology Today. Retrieved from https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/friendship-20/201709/should-you-go-couples-therapy
  • Gray, J. (2014, November 18). 6 connection exercises for couples to build intimacy. Jordan Gray Consulting. Retrieved from https://www.jordangrayconsulting.com/2014/11/6-connection-exercises-for-couples-to-build-intimacy/
  • Howes, R. (2010, January 18). Cool intervention #10: The miracle question. Psychology Today. Retrieved from https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/in-therapy/201001/cool-intervention-10-the-miracle-question
  • Krech, G. (2001). Naikan: Gratitude, grace, and the Japanese art of self-reflection. Berkeley, CA: Stone Bridge Press.
  • Suval, L. (2015). Four fun bonding exercises for romantic relationships. Psych Central. Retrieved from https://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2015/03/14/four-fun-bonding-exercises-for-romantic-relationships/

About the Author

Courtney Ackerman, MA, is a graduate of the positive organizational psychology and evaluation program at Claremont Graduate University. She is currently working as a researcher for the State of California and her professional interests include survey research, wellbeing in the workplace, and compassion.


  1. Shulamit

    Thank you for this extensive write-up on couples therapy. I’m wondering what you think about the Gottman book for therapists about couples therapy, “10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy.”

    • Nicole Celestine, Ph.D.

      Hi Shulamit,

      I haven’t read this book personally, but we have recommended it elsewhere on our blog as an excellent resource (see here). Based on the Gottmans’ professional reputations and contributions to research and advances in couple’s therapy, I’m sure it’d be full of great advice 🙂

      – Nicole | Community Manager

  2. Jacqui

    This was very helpful because two years ago my husband cheated on me I found out by social media and being that I’m like a private investigator I find out a lot of stuff. Well needless to say I feel like I can’t trust him at all I’m trying to I really am but can’t figure out how to! Or how to get over it bc it happened more then once! I have given him chance after chance and some times I don’t know if I can believe him or not he broke my heart 100%. But I love him we been together for 13 years and married 11 years I love him to where I would give my life to him and want to believe him when he tells me he loves me and promises me the world. So I really hope these exercises work because I really want to be with this man till death do is part I take my vows seriously and we built a life together but it’s so hard because when he cheated I was very sick and I tell myself all the time if he loved me he would of never of done it to me especially because I was sick at the time. It just has made me a person I don’t like at all so I really hope that this can help us reconnect and help us get past all this and me trust him again or if it will let us know there isn’t any hope and we move on but in a good way not a bad one!!

  3. Fairfax County Marriage Counseling

    Hey there,
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  4. Alicia L.

    This post is so helpful, thank you! My partner and I were separated because of covid and it’s been really tough on him mentally. Once he informed me of his want to break up, I quit my job and flew over to him, but the damage has already been caused. I’ve been with him for about 2 weeks now, and while everything seems fine, there are times when I can feel his anxiety. He’s so used to keeping his thoughts to himself that I oftentimes don’t know how I can help. I will definitely try out the tips from this post. Fingers crossed!

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  7. Manvitha

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    • Nicole Celestine

      Hi Manvitha,
      So glad you found these resources helpful. Thanks for being a reader.
      – Nicole | Community Manager

  8. Innovative Counselling

    The best gift you can give to a newly engaged couple-send them to marriage counselling. Some Churches make this mandatory. All of the above mentioned can help to learn what your partner is expecting, your expectations, how to handle important issues, if you are compatible or if the marriage is not ideal.

  9. Sabina

    Loved your article and I am looking forward to try some of the exercises with my partner. We are going trough hard times after only 3 months of relationship because we moved in together very quickly and that has put a lot of pressure on our relationship. We are both wondering if there is a way back ( from all the fights and bad words said ) ? I want it to work and put all my energy in but i feel he is doubting the relationship is ever going to be good.

  10. Lisa Almanzar

    My boyfriend of 6 years off and on are going thru some hard times because of something stupid i did 2 years ago while we were seperated for almost a year. He says hes forgiven me but throws it in my face every chance he gets and in front of people. I love him and want to help him and myself get thru this and move on to either repair our relationship so we can move forward or call it quits. After reading this artcle it opened my eyes and helped me realize some issues that ive hidden for many years. We both need help but so limited on money. Its very hard for us right now. Any advice would be appreciated…. Im at my last hope.

    • Courtney Ackerman

      Lisa, I’m so sorry to hear about your struggles. I understand how tough it can be to have a healthy relationship after something like that happens, for both parties.
      I would strongly recommend couples therapy, but I get that money is tight! If there’s a way to make room for it in your budget, I would highly encourage you to do that. If you can’t, consider picking up a self-help book for couples, like The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman.
      Whether you decide to go for counseling, order a self-help book, or try to tackle it on your own, there’s one thing you really need to hear: whatever you did in the past, you do not deserve to be disrespected–especially in front of other people. I know it’s difficult to establish boundaries in an existing relationship, but I hope you will establish at least this one. He should never be allowed to drag out your mistakes and shame you for them in front of other people. That is a discussion that needs to be kept between the two of you (and a licensed professional, if you go to counseling). Tell him that this behavior is simply not acceptable, and seriously consider leaving the relationship behind if he continues to push that boundary.
      Best of luck, and hugs to you <3

      • C. Burke, CHP, LPaC, MFT

        Completely agree with your response 100%

  11. Jimmy Coleman

    Great information! I have used it to help my own marriage as well as in our couples counseling.

  12. Susan W. Kimani

    A very enlightening write up. Has real nuggets in it and very helpful i believe when practiced.
    As a teacher in church and a student in marriage and family therapy it will give me some mileage .

  13. Janet Ogada

    Very informative article. I will definitely use those strategies in helping my clients as a Marriage and Family Counsellor.

  14. Janet Ogada

    This article was so informative to me as a Marriage and Family Counsellor. I have learnt more on how to help my clients effectively.

  15. JOE & TONYA

    me and my wife are having a very difficult situation now and are on the verge of divorce. i dont want a divorce and want to save my marriage and my challege is to any proffessional that can please help me save my marriage and give us advise of how to save our relatationship and keep our family together.

    • Shelley McIntire

      Find a Gottman – trained therapist or read the books: The Seven Principals for Making Marriage work by John Gottman or his book, The Art and Science of Love. His work is backed by research.

    • Sara

      Hey Joe&Tonya, I could offer you my help. Feel free to leave me your Email and I will reach out.

      • Ami

        Hi Sara
        My fiancée wants to break up and I am desperately willing to try anything and everything to salvage our relationship. Please help 🙁

        • Nicole Celestine

          Hi Ami,

          I’m sorry to hear you’re having difficulties in your relationship. Psychology Today has a great directory you can use to find therapists in your local area. Usually, the therapists provide a summary in their profile with their areas of expertise and types of issues they are used to working with, and you can use filters to drill down to a marriage/relationship counselling expert.

          I hope this helps.

          – Nicole | Community Manager

  16. Maya

    My husband and I hit rock bottom and I went through a rabbit hole looking for good resources to offer guidance. This compiling of information was SOOOO helpful. I feel hopeful that him and I can find middle ground to work back to feeling connected. Thank you so much.

  17. relationship counselling in delhi

    i enjoyed your blog and i completly agree with you.
    Thank you for this great information and this is a complete article about couple therapy worksheets activities.

  18. Catherine Bares

    Thank you for this information. I am taking a trip with my husband of 33 years next week and I was looking for some positivity exercises to do before we get on the road and after we have arrived to our destination. Positive exercises are a huge part of my life but not “our” life. I am looking forward to the quality time and the connection that will result from implementing these ideas. Wahoo!

  19. Marie

    I think these are great suggestions and I am going to try some of them on my partner even if he don’t want to

  20. Michelle

    Intimate exercises are so helpful in every couple, read some tips in the internet and i learned a lot. 🙂

  21. Amanda Graham

    Great worksheets – how can I get hold of them please? Amanda

  22. Nicole

    Absolutely fantastic. Love the worksheets. Love the questions and activities. Very helpful. Thank you.

  23. Sharla Hood

    Wonderful materials! So nice to have free ways to get help and guidance through tough times. Thanks for taking the time to post. Hope to see more! Any recommendations for a good couples workbook?

  24. Vee

    Really comprehensive and user friendly article. Much appreciated

  25. Nuray Bartoschek

    Thank you for the very informative and helpful article in couples therapy. II will be happy to receive more material and worksheets please. Greetings from Turkey

  26. Emman

    Thank you for the practical and very informative article how to sweetened couples bond. I will be happy to receive more material in my email if you please.
    God bless.

  27. Gerard Talbot

    Excellent article and fantastic top tips, as a practicing psychotherapist I always like to find out my clients love language when I am working with them. There’s are 5 love languages and we all have a primary one, I found most of the conflict arises in relationships because we don’t know each others love language and I found when we learn to speak each others love language the relationship becomes a healthy one. I also keep in mind that every effort I make to helping relationships the relationship must want to be helped and I can not make it work, the work needed must be done by the people in the relationship so handing out worksheets or home work and these exercises/ homework is not being done then I can do no more.

  28. Salome Molwantwa

    Thank you very much i just hope that my partner agrees to this quests,
    i’m really inspired and willing to take a first step.

  29. Dr Parag Sharma

    Excellent article amidst changing relationship goals and family dynamics. Quite helpful especially in Indian subcontinent.
    Dr Parag Sharma, MD

  30. Ashley

    Thank you for posting these worksheets, very helpful in couples therapy!

  31. Reinhard Stern

    I found your work very helpful in Wirkung with my Clients.
    Greetings from Norway

    • Courtney Ackerman

      That’s wonderful to hear, Reinhard! Thanks for letting us know you were able to successfully apply these techniques.


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