19 Self-Acceptance Quotes For Relating To Yourself In A Healthier Way

Self-acceptance quotesSelf-acceptance is perhaps the best gift you can give yourself.

Self-acceptance is without condition; it means that you accept yourself as is, flaws and all.

It also allows you to freely experience and express a full range of emotions.

Unconditional self-acceptance is a valuable quality, as it is linked to a variety of positive outcomes such as enhanced psychological wellbeing (MacInnes, 2006) and life harmony (Garcia, Nima, & Kjell, 2014).

The aim of this article is to provide inspirational self-acceptance quotes across salient categories including radical self-acceptance, self-love and growth, and self-esteem.

So, let’s get started; when it comes to boosting self-acceptance, self-love, and self-compassion, there is no better time than the present.

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Top 10 Quotes About Self-Acceptance

Affirmation or Acceptance of Self

Generally, self-acceptance is conceptualized as an affirmation or acceptance of self in spite of weaknesses or deficiencies.

Michael Bernard, 2013, p. xiv

[With unconditional self-acceptance]… you always – yes, always – accept and respect yourself, your personhood, your being, whether or not you perform well and whether or not other people approve of you and your behaviors.

Albert Ellis, 2012

Expressions of the self

To accept ourselves is to accept the fact that what we think, feel, and do are all expressions of the self at the time they occur.

Nathaniel Branden, 2011, p. 59

Positive Self-evaluation

Continually feeding our need for positive self-evaluation is a bit like stuffing ourselves with candy. We get a brief sugar high, then a crash.

Kristin Neff, 2015, p. 5

Signs of Rejection

The desire for others’ approval and reassurance creates sensitivity to real or imagined signs of rejection.

Jennifer Crocker & Lora Park, 2004, p. 401

Deathbed

We don’t have to wait until we are on our deathbed to realize what a waste of our precious lives it is to carry the belief that something is wrong with us.

Tara Brach, 2004, p. 3

Heroic Act

… self-acceptance is truly a heroic act.

Nathaniel Branden, 2011, p. 69

Accept Fear

When you learn to accept fear, you cease making a catastrophe of it. Then it ceases to be your master.

Nathaniel Branden, 2011, p. 49

True Belonging

Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.

Brené Brown, 2015, p. 146

Magnificent Self

I bask in the glory of my most magnificent self.

Debbie Ford, 2001, p. 217

These quotes convey the unconditional nature of self-acceptance, namely that we accept and respect ourselves regardless of our weaknesses.

It means that we don’t need to look for approval from others and that we don’t hold on to self-sabotaging beliefs. Of course, self-acceptance isn’t always easy and may even be considered courageous.

But its benefits make it worth the effort. Self-accepting individuals appreciate their imperfect selves and can fully embrace life without being controlled by fear.

 

10 Radical Self-Acceptance Quotes

Experience Ourselves

 

Radical Acceptance is the willingness to experience ourselves and our life as it is. A moment of Radical Acceptance is a moment of genuine freedom.

Tara Brach, 2004, p. 4

Cozier Blanket

 

I assure you there is a richer, thicker, cozier blanket [than self-acceptance] to carry through the world. There is a realm infinitely more mind-blowing. It’s called radical self-love.

Sonya Renee Taylor, 2018, p. 3

Fallible Human Being

When I accept myself as a fallible human being capable of being liked and disliked, I will be concerned but not anxious if there is a possibility that new people may dislike me.

Windy Dryden, 2003, p. 152

Unconditional Acceptance

Briefly, unconditional acceptance means liking yourself, others, and the world when you are not getting what you want and in spite of your getting what you don’t want.

Albert Ellis, 2005, p. 160

Unworthy

We do whatever we can to avoid the raw pain of feeling unworthy… we hold back and play it safe rather than risking failure.

Tara Brach, 2004, p. 15

Trance of Unworthiness

Entangled in the trance of unworthiness, we grow accustomed to caging ourselves in with self-judgment and anxiety, with restlessness and dissatisfaction.

Tara Brach, 2004, p. 25

Terrifying Thing

The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.

Carl Jung, n.d.

Self-forgiveness

Self-forgiveness is a process that enables us to release guilt, while self-acceptance is a process that enables us to process our shame.

Colin Tipping, 2011, P. 82

Daily Life

The more I bathe in the experience of loving and being loved, the more accessible it becomes in daily life.

Tara Brach, 2020, p. 79

Radical Compassion

The medicine for shame is radical compassion, the loving presence that helps us trust our belonging and essential goodness.

Tara Brach, 2020, p. 78

Radical self-love has been described as “deeper, wider, and more expansive than anything we would call self-confidence or self-esteem… Including the word radical offers us a self-love that is the root or origin of our relationship to ourselves” (Taylor, 2018, p. 6).

Radical self-acceptance is the truest form of self-love because it is not contingent upon our behaviors or feelings at a given time. It is always present, regardless of the various stressors life throws our way.

It enables us to take important risks because we know our self-love will still be there if we fail.

This degree of self-worth enables us to better deal with dissatisfaction and shame. It allows us to forgive ourselves and enjoy a daily existence in which we trust in our essential goodness.

 

Inspiring Self-Love & Growth Quotes

Obtain Peace

We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.

Dalai Lama XIV, n.d.

Love for Ourselves

Love for others without the foundation of love for ourselves becomes a loss of boundaries, codependency, and a painful and fruitless search for intimacy. But when we contact, through meditation, our true nature, we can allow others to also find theirs.

Sharon Salzberg, 1995, p. 24

Accept Myself

May I accept myself as I am today. May I learn to love and accept myself unconditionally. I’m here, I’m home.

Laurasia Mattingly, 2020, p. 2

Compassion

If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.

Buddha, n.d.

Curious Paradox

… the curious paradox is that when I accept myself as I am, then I change.

Carl Rogers, 1995, p. 17

Self-efficacious

Let us therefore teach our children and our therapy clients to have unconditional self-acceptance – that is, to fully accept themselves as valuable and enjoyable humans whether or not they are self-efficacious and whether or not others approve of or love them.

Albert Ellis, 1996, p. 150

Accept Who We Are

… if we want our children to love and accept who they are, our job is to love and accept who we are.

Brené Brown, 2015, p. 219

Self-Judgment

When we give ourselves compassion, the tight knot of negative self-judgment starts to dissolve, replaced by a feeling of peaceful, connected acceptance – a sparkling diamond that emerges from the coal.

Kristin Neff, 2015, p. 13

If you find yourself in a constant battle with the world, perhaps plagued by dissatisfying relationships and lack of intimacy, you are probably not loving yourself unconditionally. You also may judge yourself over past mistakes without self-compassion.

Self-love promotes positive growth by focusing on the here and now; it enables us to strive toward greater contentment and wellbeing. By loving ourselves in this way, we also model unconditional self-love for our children, allowing them to fully accept themselves as they are.

It is in this way that children can approach life as self-compassionate individuals who are at peace with themselves and the world around them.

 

8 Short Self-Esteem Quotes

Self-esteem

Self-esteem is perhaps the greatest emotional sickness known to humans.

Albert Ellis, 1996, p. 150

Self-worth

Basing self-esteem on external contingencies of self-worth, such as appearance or others’ approval, requires continual validation from others.

Jennifer Crocker & Katherine Knight, 2005, p. 202

Pursuing Self-esteem

Pursuing self-esteem can be motivating, but other sources of motivation, such as goals that are good for the self and others, can provide the same motivation without the costs.

Jennifer Crocker & Lora Park, 2004, p. 407

Analogous

Rather, we think of boosts to self-esteem as analogous to sugar: tasty but not nutritious.

Jennifer Crocker & Katherine Knight, 2005, p. 201

Emotional Benefits

The short-term emotional benefits of pursuing self-esteem are often outweighed by long-term costs.

Jennifer Crocker & Lora Park, 2004, p. 392

Autonomy

The pursuit of self-esteem sacrifices autonomy.

Jennifer Crocker & Lora Park, 2004, p. 399

High Self-esteem

People with high self-esteem have a stronger tendency than those with low self-esteem to judge and treat their own groups more favorably than out-groups.

Roy Baumeister et al., 2003, p. 36

Unconditional self-acceptance

Unconditional, non-egoistic self-acceptance is actually more in line with self-compassion than [self-esteem], suggesting that self-compassion may be a better candidate for predicting healthy relationship interactions.

Kristin Neff & Natasha Beretvas, 2013, p. 79

Self-esteem is hardly a new concept. Introduced by William James in 1890 (Mruk, 2010), the term has been a topic of debate among researchers for many decades.

As noted by Baumeister, Campbell, Krueger, and Vohs (2003, p. 2), “self-esteem is literally defined by how much value people place on themselves.”

The ongoing problem with self-esteem as a state or trait is that it is generally viewed as competence dependent. As such, when a person succeeds at a task, their self-esteem increases. However, when the same person doesn’t perform as well, their self-esteem is likely to plummet. This mindset is like an emotional rollercoaster since we simply cannot succeed at everything we do.

It is for these reasons that Albert Ellis is famously known to have had a disapproving view of self-esteem. Certainly, performing well and enjoying a spike in self-esteem is motivating. But, like a sugar high, this contingent motivation is not sustainable.

Consequently, a focus on self-esteem versus self-acceptance has long-term costs. For example, self-esteem jeopardizes autonomy by requiring a person to act according to performance-driven pressure rather than internal motivation (Crocker & Park, 2004).

Self-esteem is also costly in terms of learning and competence, self-regulation, relationships, and even physical health (Crocker & Park, 2004). Moreover, those with high self-esteem may be more judgmental of others. Overall, those with unconditional self-acceptance, rather than self-esteem, tend to enjoy greater self-compassion and consistent feelings of self-worth.

 

4 Quote Books About the Power of Self-Love

There are several books available that provide a treasure trove of inspiring self-love quotes from a range of researchers, philosophers, and writers. Here are four such examples along with 10 excellent quotes included.

 

1. Self-Love: 100+ Quotes, Reflections, and Activities to Help You Uncover and Strengthen Your Self-Love – Devi B. Dillard-Wright

Self-Love

This quote book is designed to aid readers in moving “from self-loathing to self-compassion” by providing 120 positive reflections. It also contains short exercises intended to help build self-love and self-compassion.

The book’s chapters are divided according to self-love topics, such as ‘Pick your Battles,’ ‘Be your own Cheerleader,’ ‘Release your Guilt,’ and ‘Find your Purpose.’

Additionally, readers are asked to take ‘The Self-Love Pledge,’ which involves repeating a self-love phrase each day as a way of reminding them of their dedication toward being more self-loving and respectful.

And, of course, the book is loaded with self-love and self-compassion reflections such as:

You are beautiful because of your unrelenting insistence on being utterly, uncompromisingly, completely you.

Jeanette LeBlanc, p. 33

Loving yourself isn’t vanity. It’s sanity.

André Gide, p. 21

Tell the world you are a one-of-a-kind creation who came here to experience wonder and spread joy. Expect to be accommodated.

Victoria Moran, p. 30

Find the book on Amazon.

 

2. Buddha: His Words – Daniel Coenn

Buddha

This book contains 161 of Buddha’s most-known quotes and sayings. It is a terrific resource for anyone looking for Buddha’s words of wisdom regarding self-acceptance and self-love. Here are two notable examples of self-acceptance quotes within this collection:

You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve love and affection.

If you truly loved yourself, you could never hurt another.

Find the book on Amazon.

 

3. Love Yourself Every Day: 365 Daily Self-Love Quotes and Affirmations to Boost Self-Esteem and Confidence, and Inspire Unconditional Self-Compassion Even When You Feel Unworthy – Jordan S. Alexander

Love Yourself Every Day

This book provides daily self-love quotes designed to break down self-deprecating feelings while enhancing self-worth and self-love.

By embracing the book’s 365 affirmations, readers will be on their way toward putting their own needs first, meeting personal goals, no longer being concerned about others’ opinions of them, ceasing self-criticism, and developing a positive body image, among other things.

Here are two examples of self-love quotes included in this book:

It’s all about falling in love with yourself and sharing that love with someone who appreciates you, rather than looking for love to compensate for a self-love deficit.

Eartha Kitt, p. 18

I was once afraid of people saying ‘Who does she think she is?’ Now I have the courage to stand and say, ‘This is who I am.’

Oprah Winfrey, p. 21

Find the book on Amazon.

 

4. Good Vibes, Good Life: How Self-Love Is the Key to Unlocking Your Greatness – Vex King

Good Vibes, Good Life

The goal of this book is to help readers embrace their own greatness by finding a higher purpose, overcoming fear, manifesting goals, cultivating positive lifestyle habits, creating beliefs that promote opportunities, and practicing better self-care.

Because it is written by a person who overcame adversity, the book is particularly inspiring for those experiencing life challenges. Along with helping readers follow a trajectory of self-love and positive vibes, the book contains many motivating quotes such as:

Self-love is the balance between accepting yourself as you are while knowing you deserve better, then working towards it.

It is important to recognize that it’s not unjust to let go of those who show no concern for you.

When you start loving yourself, life starts loving you, too. By keeping your vibration high, you’ll attract more opportunities and blessings into your life.

Find the book on Amazon.

 

The Science of Self-Acceptance Masterclass

Promoting self-acceptance is a top priority here at PositivePsychology.com. Based on the understanding that low self-acceptance (even in combination with high self-esteem) is the basis for many psychological and emotional issues, we offer an innovative program called the Science of Self-Acceptance Masterclass©.

The objective of this class is to provide practitioners with a research-based approach that will help clients redirect their unhealthy attempts to increase self-esteem toward the much more beneficial construct of self-acceptance.

Taught by a highly experienced psychologist and researcher, Dr. Hugo Alberts, this course uses the ‘sailboat metaphor’ as an easily comprehensible way for individuals to feel connected as passengers weathering the same storm.

The course contains eight modules of live recordings; a comprehensive science-based handbook; and many audio files, worksheets, exercises, illustrations, and PowerPoint slides. Additionally, the course enables clients to receive expert advice along with a special component in which they learn how to teach the class to others.

Overall, the Science of Self-Acceptance Masterclass© enables individuals to change their mental narratives from ones that are constantly seeking approval, to those that are deep, long-lasting, and grounded in a sense of worthiness.

 

A Take-Home Message

This article has provided many important insights into the amazing power of self-love.

Using poignant quotes from notable experts and philosophers, it is clear that there are many ways to express the importance of self-acceptance.

While complete self-acceptance – that is, without the need for reassurance from others – isn’t easy, it enables us to become the best versions of ourselves.

Unlike self-esteem, which is often fleeting and performance dependent, self-acceptance means that we respect ourselves entirely, we forgive ourselves of past mistakes, and we embrace our value as human beings.

And with such self-love and acceptance comes the glorious freedom to be our most authentic selves and to create our own beautiful love stories.

We hope you enjoyed reading this article. Don’t forget to download our three Self-Compassion Exercises for free.

If you wish to learn more, there is always the Science of Self-Acceptance Masterclass©.

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About the Author

Heather Lonczak holds a Ph.D. in Educational Psychology with a focus on Positive Youth Development. She has published numerous articles aimed at reducing health disparities and promoting positive psychosocial youth outcomes (e.g., academic achievement, cultural identity, mindfulness and belief in the future). Heather is also a children’s book author whose publications primarily center around the enhancement of child resilience, as well as empathy and compassion for wildlife.

Comments

  1. Pedro

    We are born with positive characteristics. We are alive, exciting, stimulating, encouraging, satisfying, pleasing, courteous, gentle, loving, positive, relaxed and calm. We are generally good, encouraging and positive.
    Our natural positive foundation helps us to develop a positive self concept. A positive self concept is critical to maintaining the continuous positive activity generated by energy that is necessary to life. The continuous positive activity that a positive self concept reinforces helps to cause positive effects, benefits, behaviors or products in spite of negative input, situations or events. The continuous positive activity that causes positive effects is based on a positive self concept.
    Accepting and developing a negative self concept because of others, our experiences or our environment for any reason will cause our energy to be used in a negative way that will cause, create and produce negative effects or products continuously. A negative self concept that rejects our natural positive qualities and strengths is a negative factor. It causes everything to have a negative quality.
    It is critical to accept our natural positive strengths, qualities, traits and characteristics to develop the positive self concept they generate that will cause everything to come out positive. It is necessary to maintain the positive activity that energy generates continuously to cause the positive effects, benefits, behaviors and products that keep life good.

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  2. Rajendra Shrivastava

    All quotes are excellent.Wonderfully expressed.
    ” SELF-ACCEPTANCE”…….WHAT WE NEED TODAY.IT MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD AND STRONG.
    LOVED THIS ARTICLE ON SELF-ACCEPTANCE.

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  3. Fortunebliz

    This is great!
    Self acceptance is important.
    Thanks for sharing…

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  4. shivangi sharma

    This is amazing and very enlightening. this world needs to realize their worth in order to grow.

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  5. shivangi sharma

    so powerful words
    useful information
    keep up the good work

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  6. shivangi sharma

    self love is the best form of love.
    no one can beat it

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  7. Lauren foreman

    Be you otherwise the sum of your parts will not ever fit

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  8. Clara

    enriching words of wisdom which touch the heart!

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  9. John Self

    Wonderful soul food!!

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  10. Mujeeb Alam

    A biggestsource of knowledge for learners so it is beautiful and amazing

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  11. austin

    Amazing work all throughout the site! Thank you so much!

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  12. Agnelo Ferernandes

    I get goosebumps while reading the quotes.
    the simplicity is awesome.
    Thank you !!!

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  13. Frances Blasquez Perren

    You’re perfect and pretty good.
    Let the beauty you love, be the beauty you do.
    I only give out what I wish to receive in return.
    When you learn: teach. When you get – give…Maya Angelou.
    When you open your heart, you get better.

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  14. Dr. A. Anika

    The moment you accept yourself the way you are ,the moment you have the key to self freedom. Self acceptance is that realization to freedom that moves you to greater heights of self drives,achievements and self actualization. This is the heart of positive psychology. When you accept yourself, then your heart is equally open to give out and accept others. How beautiful it is to have peace with oneself.

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  15. Mau

    Thank you! for the very meaningful quotes

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  16. Patricia A Jones Pope

    Awesome quotes and reminders of how we should live life both meaningful and purposeful.

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  17. Dr. Ransome Labe

    These sayings are really fascinating. There can renew anybody’s energy if he or she understands and believes it.

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  18. Michelle Robinson

    I love all of these quotes, they are very uplifting and real.

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  19. B.Santhi

    Beautiful quotes
    Positivity flowing

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  20. Deelany Mwaka

    This is awesome.Thank you for creating these presentations.

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  21. Patricia

    Love these thank you

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  22. Airynaa Tannberg

    Thanks for putting together the wonderful quotes.

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  23. Ashleigh Simmons

    Mixed emotions on the quotes; some resonate and some agitate! I realise that this could me needing to go deeper where I felt defensively. For example:“Your mind can never allow self-acceptance, since it is by nature self-contradictory and divisive. In fact, thinking is wholly based on a duality that
    prevents you from ever relaxing into yourself.”
    ― Shai Tubali, Unlocking the 7 Secret Powers of the Heart
    I don’t think there is any such rule of mind that cannot be reshaped and redesigned.
    Or..“No amount of self-improvement can make up for any lack of self-acceptance.”
    ― Robert Holden
    Then you’re doing the wrong kind of self improvement!
    I love ;“You work so hard to fix yourself, but maybe what you need isn’t another tactic, another book, another expert, another five-step plan. Maybe, you don’t need to be fixed. Maybe, what’s really holding you back is the idea that you need to be fixed. Maybe you just need to let yourself play instead of always making yourself do homework.”
    ― Vironika Tugaleva
    And…“What if each time you experienced an emotion, you acknowledged it, accepted it, and became curious about its message for you (instead of trying to make it go away or make it last longer)? Imagine how this could change your life. Imagine how heard, loved, and honoured you would feel if you really listened to yourself.”
    ― Vironika Tugaleva

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  24. José

    These are excellent! Thank you!

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  25. Amy

    Thank you so much. What a beautiful and inspiring collection.

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  26. Mary

    Wow. Really beautiful quotes. Thank you for creating & presenting these! Excellent!

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  27. Bev

    II am not a psycologist. I am looking into this as aself-care for me. Hope itis okay.

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  28. Ab Wink

    Dear Seph,the meaning and the intentions behind words and how the words are validated by the speaker.what kind of words are there? Convincing,warning,friendly,restricting.etcetera.The answer to the speaker shows howmuch intention there is to colaborate .Values ,l use Venn-diagrams over and next to eachother with the questions valued and answers too.This gives a bit insight of what peoples intentions are.
    With friendly greetings,Ab Wink.

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  29. Seph Fontane Pennock

    Just added images quotes to this post so you can use them for presentations or to share on social media. Enjoy 🙂

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  30. Divya

    Thank you Seph!

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  31. Janepher Owino

    This has given me the more reason to work on myself-care, love it and live it.

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  32. Time Gordon

    Here I can always find a thought to share with my students, something to make them more wholesome. I don’t think I’ll ever run out of positive, self-building thoughts. Thanks

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  33. Patrecia

    Hi Seph,
    Your articles are truly inspiring, is positive and has great insight. They are endearing because it seems so relevant and I can immediately connect with it. Thank you for sharing. My best wishes for continuing such meaningful work.

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  34. Linda Hills

    Such an important topic, affecting so many people – myself included. Thanks for this excellent resource.

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  35. Cigdem

    “You’re always with yourself, so you might as well enjoy the company.”
    I laughed out loud at this. And it made me so happy! 🙂

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  36. DEDAN G. NJARI

    I LOVE THIS INSIGHTFUL ARTICLE AS IT SEEMS THAT YOU WROTE IT SPECIALLY FOR ME,KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK.

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  37. Arshi Aziz

    Self acceptance i feel is the foundation of accepting others. Until we accept ourselves, we cannot truly accept others. The messages everyone shared, and the original article were all inspirational. Like most people, I struggle with self acceptance, and that is a continuing journey, even though I am now nearly 60 (age doesn’t necessarily make it any easier).
    Thank you for sharing – all of you.

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  38. Jodie Holwill

    Hi Seph
    We spend so much time trying to meet others expectations and goals we lose sight of our own, if we ever had them. Mindfulness tells us to live in the present moment but without others directing us we can feel like we don’t know what to do in ‘that moment’. I think we need the confidence and trust in our own intuition to guide our way. Iwould have loved that in my youth, but at least Im closer to it later in my life.

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  39. Livia

    Thank you, your article has come at just the right time. I have recently come to understand that self-acceptance is at the core of my emotional suffering and the general feeling of not being good enough.
    I have dropped many ideas and passions and not followed my path because I felt that I would fail or I would not be accepted.
    The need to be affirmed, and loved can be filled by connecting with our inner self and affirming oneself everyday.

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  40. Kelly

    I love reading your articles, this one resonates strongly, having been ‘working on myself’ it is a hard place to accept who we are, just as we are, I am ok just that way I am, it gets exhausting when you continually feel like you need to be more/better, that you are not enough, so thank you for sharing this one.. timing is sometimes everything 🙂

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  41. Lafette M Clark

    Life is lived by experiences good and bad I am learning to enjoy Joy in my most lost and confused life. Simple things matter the most in my life of self change.

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  42. Susie

    All my life I have been trying to fix myself because I have always seen myself through others eyes and judged myself accordingly to what I think they think!
    I have finally realized it’s all about the journey to one’s own heart & learning to love myself no matter what, which may be a lot tougher feat to accomplish than the judging, but oh so sweet is the nectar in the center of the heart, when one begins this journey of acceptance and love!!

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    • Seph Fontane Pennock

      ? Wonderful Susie

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  43. Valentina Markovska

    Thank you for these wonderful reminders. It is easy to forget the essence of what makes us individual, wonderful beings..all experience shapes us, not to reflect good or bad..to be in gentle acceptance of all that has touched us. For me I am reminded that I understand this as a young person and have had to reconnect as an older adult.

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    • Seph Fontane Pennock

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts and wisdom Valentina 🙂

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  44. Fiona

    Thanks Steph I was thinking last night I have the option of being my best friend or my meanest ‘friend’ – I’ll commit myself here and now to being my bestie! Fiona

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    • Seph Fontane Pennock

      Haha, sounds like a plan Fiona! Maybe it’s worth keeping it up?

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  45. Mark Bloomberg

    For a better part of my life I became what I was told rebelling in misery. Today, I enjoy being who I am with no apologies, only gratitude. Thanks, for sharing inspirations.

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    • Seph Fontane Pennock

      That’s it Mark.

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  46. Rehmat Ebrahim

    Self acceptance can only be learned after you become aware of yourself and what you are. People who are constantly surrounded by others, or choose to be surrounded by others, tend to isolate themselves from their own selves. We need to learn to enjoy our own company to be happy in doing and being who we are. Only when you begin to appreciate yourself and remain modest and humble, will you accept yourself and be ready to adopt further investigation into your own inner being.

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  47. Mark a.

    I love me first and by doing so I take good care of myself,and become the most able to encourage and inspire those around me. Nature walks and no Facebook one upmanship,so fake.

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    • Seph Fontane Pennock

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  48. Mr Peter Speedwell

    I remember going on holiday once, to a beautiful place in Italy and I was feeling miserable. To make matters worse, I could not accept the fact that I was unhappy. I remember writing in my diary. This would have been a good holiday if I hadn’t had to take me on it.

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    • Seph Fontane Pennock

      Emotions are data. We can let them be, inspect them, even learn from them. Mostly it’s not a good idea to fight or suppress them. Thank you for sharing your wisdom Peter.

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  49. lerato Masondo

    Absolutely, I agree, I have been always told I am different and not always following the flock, my mother taught me to be myself and live and succeed through life at my own pace and measures, therefore it doesn’t matter what my peers are up to or chasing after my husband and I do things at our own pace, and reallyvit feels good and we are not pressured.

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    • Seph Fontane Pennock

      ? Ierato

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  50. Tonya

    I love reading your posts and your newsletter – each read is an inspiration. thank you

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    • Seph Fontane Pennock

      Thank you so much for saying that Tonya. I love writing them 🙂

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  51. Linda

    I have C-PTSD. I have been ‘working on myself’ all my life. Or so it seems. I finally realized, I’m perfectly ok just as I am. Good days, bad days, sad days, fun days. It’s called LIFE ! And I am living it. I accept and honor my journey, try not to hurt anyone along the way and just keep seeing the beauty in the world. And I am part of that beauty.

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    • Seph Fontane Pennock

      I love that Linda, to ‘honor your journey’. We grow up and tend to fall for the illusion of being able to acquire happiness as a stable state, as a permanent destination. It’s the greatest misunderstanding in positive psychology. Parents ‘just want their kids to be happy’. It’s super unrealistic and psychologically misinformed. A more realistic thing to hope for and inspire would be the resilience to deal with life’s inevitable setbacks and to, like you said, keep on seeing and appreciating the beauty all around us.

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  52. Cheryl

    I think the first half of my life I have wasted measuring myself with others and trying to prove that I am enough. But now that I am older I realize I no longer care what others thing. Some love me some don’t and I am okay with that. I know that I am enough.
    Thanks for this article I think it will help me help others to also accept them self’s.

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    • Seph Fontane Pennock

      One of the benefits of aging perhaps Cheryl! Thanks for dropping a message 🙂

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  53. Missy Washington

    Thanks for inspiring us. So many times we are so caught up in people-pleasing that we forget the importance of Loving self.

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    • Seph Fontane Pennock

      My pleasure Missy! I get inspired reading these quotes myself too.

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  54. Vidya Kandoi

    hello sir
    I am working on myself
    Thanks a lot for this mail
    I am using affirmations, which are helping me to grow as a person

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    • Seph Fontane Pennock

      Thanks for leaving a comment Vidya. Personally, I think affirmations are tricky. I know the research is also divided on this. I think as long as affirmations are not grounded in reality, or at least something realistic, they can be a double-edged sword and lead to disappointment too. I’m not judging though! It’s great if it works for you.

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  55. Elizabeth

    very good article and encouraging.

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  56. Seph Fontane Pennock

    Love to hear from you!

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    • Reson

      Thanks for a very insightfull article. The concept is very clear, simple and to the point yet most times this is exactly what seems so complicated!
      Thanks

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