The #1 thing that holds people back from having a smoothe-as-honey lifestyle, where you can just get up, feel great, and connect with other people in meaningful ways, is…
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Not being grateful.
You can have all the money and achievements in the world. But, if you are grateful for nothing, it’s like no matter what you make or do, life simply will not get any better. It’s like everything falls into the black hole of things we take for granted.
This is one of the reasons why we end up striving for more in our lives. More friends, more money, more status. Because how can you ever have enough if you don’t appreciate what you have?
And you know what?
I think that’s a deep shame. Especially because most of us (in the Western world) should be grateful for our lives in a way that’s almost apologetic.
And yes, we get used to things so easily. We take our luxuries for granted. We take the streets we walk on for granted. And at times, we even take our spouse’s love for granted.
Psychologists call this concept ‘hedonic adaptation’ and it’s a bitch if ever there was one.
And you know what’s the saddest part? (and after this I’ll stop preaching)
In getting used to the wonderful things in our lives, we are falsely assuming they will last.
Newsflash: they won’t.
Nothing will.
So Seph, what’s the solution?
I’m glad you asked.
The most powerful way I’ve found to overcome the danger of getting used to things is to be actively grateful for them.
So I hereby invite you to lift the veil that is clouding the wonders life has in store for you, every day again, by expressing your gratitude.
By saying to someone: “Thank you so much for doing [x], it means the world to me”.
What our readers think
Its easy for a man with no money to say money doesnt matter. Just like the parable of the nan with no feet said to the man with no shoes. That mind set will continue until you have nothing. Just like the first comment, high paying job, 3 homes, etc… cry me a river with your discontent.
I keep asking myself why I am not content with what I have. Even though I have a high paying job, good health, three homes and excellent health. So I stubbled into this article. It has opened my eyes and it has made me realize how ungrateful I have been. Thank you for the valuable insight and opening my eyes.
Thank you so much for this article! It is so so true that we will never feel satisfied if we keep on complaining about the things we dont have instead of appreciating what you have. I am grateful for: my family. my dog and his loyalty, clean and hot water, a roof over my head, access to education, good health so far, medical healthcare, a cozy bed, being able to see the sun daily, having fresh air to breathe and that all I can think of now
do you have anymore articles like this ?
Ty
This article was really inspiring. Thank you for providing valuable content. Highly appreciated 🙂
I just wanna know when this article was published. I want to cite it as part of my study.
Hi Nilo, it was published Apr 12, 2017. Hope this helps you! 🙂
Your article is very useful for my reserach paper! Thank you very much! The information is true too.