What Are Intrusive Thoughts in OCD & How to Get Rid Of Them?

What are Intrusive Thoughts in OCD and Anxiety? + Treatment options

Do you ever have intrusive thoughts popping into your head, unbidden and seemingly from thin air?

You might be just going about your day when—suddenly—your mind throws a crazy image or a bizarre thought at you, and you’re left scratching your head about what just happened.

The thought could be benign, like doing something embarrassing or socially unacceptable in public, or it could be more disturbing, like a thought about harming someone that you would never really want to harm.

Whatever random thought that you’ve found squatting in your mind’s territory, don’t worry—you’re not alone.

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What Are Intrusive Thoughts: Meaning/Definition

Intrusive thoughts are thoughts that enter your consciousness, often without warning or prompting, with content that is alarming, disturbing, or just flat-out weird.

They’re thoughts we all have at some point, but for some people, these thoughts get “stuck” and cause great distress (Seif & Winston, 2018).


What Causes Intrusive Thoughts and Are They Normal?

We’re not really sure why intrusive thoughts suddenly pop into our heads, but some psychologists have theories.

Psychologist Lynn Somerstein (2016) suggests that perhaps recurring or frequent intrusive thoughts are a sign that there is something difficult or something going wrong in a person’s life.

Perhaps they are struggling with relationship problems, stress at work, or frustration with parenting and trying to keep it from bubbling over. However, instead of the problem staying politely buried, it finds other ways to work its way up to the surface.

Dr. Hannah Reese (2011) posits that perhaps these thoughts manifest because we do not want to act in that way; in other words, although we would never actually consider doing some of the things we think about, our brain just spits out one of the most inappropriate things it can imagine. Why? Good question!

Anxiety and intrusive thought experts Dr. Martin Seif and Dr. Sally Winston have a particularly interesting way of describing what they believe causes unwanted and intrusive thoughts:

“Our brains sometimes create junk thoughts, and these thoughts are just part of the flotsam and jetsam of our stream of consciousness. Junk thoughts are meaningless. If you don’t pay attention or get involved with them, they dissipate and get washed away in the flow of consciousness” (2018).

Although we aren’t sure where they come from, they keep coming back to bother you sitting there, dwelling on them. The more we try not to think of something, the more we end up thinking of it.

If I tell you NOT to think about a purple elephant—you can think about anything else in the world, but do not let the image of a purple elephant come into your mind—how long do you think you can last before an image of a purple elephant pops into your head? For most people, it’s not very long before they succumb to the image they have been instructed not to see.

When we have a healthy, neurotypical brain and a good grasp on how to monitor our own thoughts and allow them to pass right on by, intrusive thoughts are nothing more than a blip on our radar.

However, if you find yourself dealing with unwanted, violent, disturbing, or bizarre thoughts on a regular basis, you may be dealing with a serious mental health issue. The two most common diagnoses associated with intrusive thoughts are anxiety and Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD).

They can also be a symptom of depression, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), Bipolar Disorder, or Attention Deficit-Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD).

If you feel you have more intrusive thoughts than normal or that you often dwell on these thoughts, you may be suffering from one of these disorders. Read on to learn more about intrusive thoughts, how they relate to each of these disorders, and what you can do about it.


Examples of Intrusive Thoughts: About Death, In Relationships, During Climax, and Violent in Nature

Dr. Reese describes one of her own intrusive and alarming thoughts: when her son was a baby, she couldn’t stand at the top of her stairs without getting an image of dropping her son and seeing him get hurt. She had no wishes to harm her child, and felt terrified at this thought!

She also gives a few other examples of intrusive thoughts that you may have had once or twice:

“Perhaps you’ve suddenly had the image of pushing someone off a train platform, kicking a dog, yelling in church, jumping out of a moving car, or stabbing someone you love” (Reese, 2011).

She goes on to note that, as we know by now, such intrusive thoughts are perfectly normal. If you have a hidden desire to do any of these things, that’s a different story, but having crazy thoughts pop into your head now and then is not abnormal.

Dr. Elaine Ryan at the Mood Smith website offers a sort of typology of intrusive thoughts that she has noticed in her work. She lists the following categories and examples:

  • Intrusive thoughts about sexual acts
    o Example: a normally gentle and kind person getting an image of him- or herself engaging in a violent sexual act or engaging in sex with inappropriate people or things.
  • Intrusive thoughts regarding children
    o Example: a happy and proud new mother getting a sudden image of dropping her baby out of the second story window or squeezing him too tightly and causing him harm.
  • Aggressive thoughts
    o Example: a man sees his beloved wife chopping up vegetables with a knife and has an unbidden image of stabbing her with the knife.
  • Intrusive thoughts about religion/aspects of one’s religion
    o Example: a devout Muslim has a sudden and unexpected urge to stand up during the service and start yelling obscenities.
  • Sexual identity thoughts
    o Example: a strictly heterosexual woman has a random thought about sleeping with another woman.
  • Intrusive thoughts about family members
    o Example: a brother who has never felt an attraction to his sister suddenly getting an arousing mental image of her naked.
  • Intrusive thoughts about death
    o Example: a woman in perfect health who has unwelcome and unbidden thoughts about dying from a heart attack or suffering a stroke.
  • Intrusive thoughts about safety
    o Example: a man at work who suddenly has a crippling thought about his young son getting hit by a car or slipping and falling on a sharp object (Ryan, 2017).

Intrusive thoughts usually fall into one (or more) of these categories, but they may be on an entirely different topic or in a different realm—the important thing that separates an intrusive thought from a run-of-the-mill thought is that it is distressing to you and that you’d probably rather not have the thought!

The Calm Clinic uses a different method to categorize intrusive thoughts, but it overlaps with Ryan’s typology quite a bit. They note three general categories:

  1. Unwanted memories (see the section on PTSD below);
  2. Violent thoughts (common in anxiety and OCD);
  3. Sexual thoughts (common in specific types of anxiety disorders).

Putting these two categories together, we can see that the most frequently reported unwanted thoughts often revolve around aggression and violence, flashbacks and memories, and/or thoughts of an inappropriate sexual nature.


Intrusive Thoughts and Other Mental Health Issues

As we learned earlier, the occasional intrusive thought is completely normal; however, if you find yourself having recurring distressing thoughts or dwelling on your intrusive thoughts, you may be struggling with one of the disorders we mentioned earlier.

We’ll cover the relationship of intrusive thoughts to six of the disorders in which such thoughts are a common symptom:

  1. Anxiety;
  2. OCD;
  3. Depression;
  4. TSD;
  5. Bipolar Disorder;
  6. ADHD.


Intrusive Thoughts and Anxiety

Intrusive Thoughts and Other Mental Health IssuesAlthough those diagnosed with OCD generally suffer from more graphic, more violent, or more inappropriate intrusive thoughts, those with anxiety often find themselves sucked in by unwanted thoughts of a less intense (but no less unwanted) caliber.

People with Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) may be especially prone to worrying about a family member’s safety. People with social-specific form of anxiety (like a social phobia) may have difficulty moving past memories of a time when they made a mistake or said or did something foolish (Calm Clinic, n.d.).

When a person with anxiety is confronted with a sudden and unwanted thought, they often take the worst possible action: obsessing over it, trying to rid it from their minds, and inadvertently giving it all sorts of power that it didn’t have before (Seif & Winston, 2018).


Intrusive Thoughts and OCD

Intrusive thoughts are a core symptom of OCD, and something that virtually all of those diagnosed with OCD suffer from.

Dr. Robert L. Leahy (2009) describes it this way:

“You have some thoughts or sensations that you don’t like. ‘Why am I having those bizarre, sick, disgusting, unwanted thoughts?’”

These thoughts lead to what Leahy calls a negative evaluation of thoughts—you think there is something wrong with you for thinking these thoughts, and that you “shouldn’t” have them. You might decide that you have a responsibility to address these thoughts, either by controlling and shunning them or by getting reassurance from others.

This is what sets OCD sufferers apart from others in terms of intrusive thoughts: it’s their reaction to them that causes the problems. Anxiety treatment expert Dr. Debra Kissen notes that she has a list of common intrusive thoughts—things like losing control, doing something violent, acting out sexually—that around 90% of people report having at least once or twice.

The difference between most people and people with OCD is that people without OCD are only “mildly bothered” by these thoughts, while those with OCD are often extremely distressed about them (Kissen, 2017).


Intrusive Thoughts and Depression

People with anxiety and OCD aren’t the only ones to face distress over intrusive thoughts; people with depression are also prone to them.

Repetitive intrusive thoughts often lead to depression, especially when they are specifically depressive thoughts. These repetitive depressive thoughts are known as rumination. When people ruminate, they focus on a problematic thought, behavior, or other issue and worry at it like a dog with a bone. They return to it again and again, constantly trying to figure out a solution but never actually solving it (Smith, 2017).

Intrusive thoughts that someone with depression may have include:

  • Evaluating oneself in extremes (i.e., seeing everything in black and white);
  • Always focusing on the negatives and expecting the worst to happen;
  • Ruminating over a specific bad experience and generalizing to all similar experiences in the future;
  • Thinking too much (e.g., getting “too in your head” and overanalyzing);
  • Trying to read others’ minds or assuming you know what they’re thinking or what their intentions are;
  • Predicting that something bad will happen and accepting that prediction as “fate;”
  • Magnifying any perceived slight or insult;
  • Considering one’s thoughts to be true and factual;
  • Feeling responsible for things that are not in one’s control, and assuming the worst will happen (Smith, 2017).

These thoughts can take over a person’s mind and keep them from being objective and seeing the truth of their situation—that these are just thoughts, that they are not necessarily true, and that they’re not reflective of reality.


Intrusive Thoughts and PTSD

People with PTSD can also experience intrusive thoughts, although they’re generally more specific to a previous traumatic incident than broader “what if” thoughts. These thoughts are often connected to memories of the traumatic event, and may even be flashbacks to the event itself.

You can think of this PTSD symptom as being stuck in the past—individuals have trouble forgetting what happened to them and their brain constantly recalls it through intrusive thoughts, memories, flashbacks (also known as reliving the traumatic event), and nightmares (Tull, 2018). The brain can even bring up the exact bodily sensations they felt at the time of the event, making it even more difficult to keep the past in the past.

These intrusive thoughts cause the sufferer to be on “high alert,” or in what is known as the “fight or flight” state. They are on full alert and constantly dealing with a flood of the hormones your brain releases when it detects a dangerous situation.


Intrusive Thoughts and Bipolar Disorder

People diagnosed with bipolar disorder can also suffer from intrusive thoughts and obsessive thinking. Common estimates are that at least a fifth of people with bipolar disorder are plagued with obsessive, intrusive thoughts (Flanigan, 2017).

This creates a sort of “hamster wheel in the brain,” in which those suffering from bipolar disorder get caught up in a new obsession every week—or even every day—and ruminate on it until another problem comes along (Flanigan, 2017).

Psychiatrist Helen Farrell puts it this way:

“It’s almost like people… grab the shovel and start digging and can’t wait to see what they find, but they wind up getting entrenched in their thoughts, and before they know it, they’re deep in a pit of nothing. All the stuff they were originally excited about is just not there” (Flanigan, 2017).

These obsessive thoughts and worries have the unfortunate effects of interrupting sleep, leading you on a wild goose chase or—even worse—to harmful or dysfunctional behaviors, taking up all of your attention and leaving you unable to focus.


Intrusive Thoughts and ADHD

That last bit should sound familiar to anyone with ADHD, or anyone who has a loved one with ADHD.

The classic symptom of ADHD is difficulty in paying attention, even when there is no obvious source of distraction. Those diagnosed with ADHD may simply find it hard to focus, but it turns out that many also struggle with intrusive, repetitive, or disturbing thoughts.

A study on the subject found that those with ADHD experienced significantly more distressing and anxious thoughts than those without ADHD, and reported much more worrying and rumination (Abramaovitch & Schweiger, 2009). This symptom similarity causes a large overlap between ADHD and OCD, which can make an accurate diagnosis difficult to determine (Silver, n.d.).


False Memories and Other Symptoms

As we covered earlier, those with PTSD may struggle with intrusive and persistent thoughts, memories, and flashbacks. However, there are other types of memories that people—particularly those with OCD—may struggle with: false memories (Hershfield, 2017).

A false memory is when “the sufferer gets an intrusive thought that they’ve done something in the past and the sufferer cannot differentiate whether the thought is a memory or an intrusive thought” (Preston, 2016).

Dave Preston, an author and blogger who struggles with his own OCD diagnosis, writes that these distressing, false memories can come at any time; it might be a few hours after the event supposedly happened, or years after. Regardless of the time frame, the common factor in these false memories is often a “sudden, striking thought that something bad happened at a specified time and place” (Preston, 2016).

The memories may be vague or hazy at first, but as the individual grapples with it more, he or she will likely find that things start to sharpen and details begin to appear in their memory; of course, these details are false, but they don’t seem false to the person remembering them.

Clearly, false memories can have a pretty significant impact on those who suffer from them. And that’s not the only symptom that those with OCD often face.

The Mayo Clinic outlines the two major categories of symptoms that someone with OCD might suffer from:

  1. Obsession symptoms: repeated, persistent, and unwanted thoughts, urges, or images that are intrusive and cause distress or anxiety.
    1. Examples: fear of contamination or dirt; needing things orderly and symmetrical; aggressive or horrific thoughts about harming yourself or others; unwanted thoughts, including aggression, or sexual or religious subjects.
  2. Compulsion symptoms: repetitive behaviors that you feel driven to perform and are meant to prevent or reduce anxiety related to your obsessions or prevent something bad from happening; they only bring temporary relief from anxiety.
    1. Examples: washing and cleaning; checking (e.g., the stove, the lock on the door); counting; orderliness; following a strict routine; demanding reassurances.

Beyond having occasional worrisome or disturbing thoughts, those with OCD suffer from a constant bombardment of anxiety, worry, rumination, and distressing thoughts.

Those suffering from severe OCD that interferes with their ability to function in everyday life can benefit from therapy, medication, or both. For those with a more mild form or just the occasional symptoms, there are other options and self-help methods to help them cope.


Treatment Options: Therapy, Hypnosis, and Medications

Treatment Options: Therapy, Hypnosis, and Medications

Treatment for intrusive thoughts in OCD, anxiety, depression, PTSD, or any other disorder or diagnosis is generally tackled with at least one of two methods: therapy or medication.



There are many medications approved for the treatment of OCD. Your doctor or psychiatrist can point you to the right medication, but generally, your prescription will be one of the following antidepressants:

  • Clomipramine (Anafranil);
  • Fluoxetine (Prozac);
  • Fluvoxamine (Luvox);
  • Paroxetine (Paxil);
  • Sertraline (Zoloft);
  • Citalopram (Celexa);
  • Escitalopram (Lexapro);
  • Venlafaxine (Effexor).

According to the International Obsessive Compulsive Disorder Foundation (IOCDF), these eight medications have been approved to treat OCD. If you are struggling with depression or general anxiety and intrusive thoughts, these medications are also likely to work for you, as they are classified as antidepressants.

However, medication isn’t for everyone, and not everyone needs to take medication to cope (although there’s nothing wrong with benefiting from antidepressants).


Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)

For those who do not wish to take medication, those whose doctor does not recommend medication, or those with milder cases of intrusive thoughts, there are several types of talk therapy that can help.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, or CBT, is one of the most common and widely used forms of therapy, and it is appropriate for a broad range of diagnoses. The National Institute of Mental Health notes that CBT can be as effective as medication for many people, or may result in added benefits for those also taking medication.

CBT helps clients create strategies for managing their unwanted and negative thoughts and feelings, and guides them through the development of healthy ways to cope.


Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, or ACT, is a form of CBT that focuses specifically on accepting your thoughts and feelings for what they are instead of trying to change them. This acceptance, combined with mindfulness and the development of more flexible thinking, helps those who suffer from unwanted thoughts to accept that they have these intrusive thoughts but stop allowing them to consume their mind.

ACT is based on six core principles:

  • Cognitive Defusion: Learning to assign less weight to negative thoughts, images, and emotions;
  • Acceptance: Allowing thoughts to flow through you without feeling overly distressed;
  • Contact with the present moment: Focusing on your present state rather than worrying about the future or the past. Being open to the things going on around you;
  • Observing the self: Being conscious and aware of your transcendent self;
  • Values: Determining what is most important to you, what pillars you aim to live your life on;
  • Committed action: Setting goals based on your values and the things you are striving for, and then bringing these accomplishments to fruition (Intrusive Thoughts, Inc., 2017).

These six principles converge to create a healing and forward-thinking treatment for those struggling against distressing and unwanted thoughts.


Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP)

Another form of CBT that is highly effective for treating OCD is Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP). This type of therapy involves exposing the client to the source of his or her fear multiple times without allowing any compulsions.

The intent is to impress upon the client that he or she can face what they are afraid of and, eventually, the client will realize that the fear is irrational. The thoughts may not go away entirely, but ERP is extremely successful in turning those obsessive and all-consuming thoughts into mere annoyances (Intrusive Thoughts, Inc., 2017).



Although the evidence for hypnosis is not as robust as the evidence for medication and therapy, there is still some confidence placed in its application for the treatment of OCD.

Therapist Mark Tyrrell outlines the three reasons why hypnosis can be effective:

  1. OCD is hypnosis. Tyrrell notes that most of his patients with OCD report “spacing out” during their obsessive behavior and compulsions, describing an almost hypnotic state of narrowing attention and a feeling of time passing quickly.
  2. Hypnosis communicates with the “problem part” of the mind. Like the man who searches for his keys in the street when he knows he left them in the house (but there’s more light to see by under the street lamp!), our conscious mind may not be able to search in the right place for the root problem—but our subconscious can.
  3. Hypnosis is a great way to extract the fear from OCD. Hypnosis helps clients learn that when they don’t give in to their compulsions, nothing bad happens; it can be used to decondition the anxiety around not carrying out OCD rituals (2013).

If you’re interested in learning more about how hypnosis can be used to treat OCD, check out Mark’s website here, or click here to learn about an expert psychotherapist and hypnotherapist Ruth Washton and her methods.


Self-Help: Managing Intrusive Thoughts (Including CBT Worksheet)

In addition to medication, therapy, and hypnosis, there are some self-help methods to lessen your symptoms and improve your quality of life when dealing with intrusive thoughts.

Seif and Winston (2018) suggest taking these 7 steps to change your attitude and overcome intrusive thoughts:

  • Label these thoughts as “intrusive thoughts;”
  • Remind yourself that these thoughts are automatic and not up to you;
  • Accept and allow the thoughts into your mind. Do not try to push them away;
  • Float, and practice allowing time to pass;
  • Remember that less is more. Pause. Give yourself time. There is no urgency;
  • Expect the thoughts to come back again;
  • Continue whatever you were doing prior to the intrusive thought while allowing the anxiety to be present.

Further, the researchers warn that you should do your best not to:

  • Engage with the thoughts in any way;
  • Push the thoughts out of your mind;
  • Try to figure out what your thoughts “mean;”
  • Check to see if this is “working” to get rid of the thoughts (Seif & Winston, 2018).

On a related note, the Northpoint Recovery center—an organization which provides those struggling with substance abuse and/or other mood disorders—lists 5 non-medication and non-therapy tips to dealing with your intrusive thoughts:

  1. Understand why intrusive thoughts bother you, on a deep level.
  2. Attend to the intrusive thoughts; accept them and allow them in, then allow them to move on.
  3. Don’t fear the thoughts; thoughts are just that—thoughts. Don’t let them become more than that.
  4. Take intrusive thoughts less personally, and let go of your emotional reaction to them.
  5. Stop changing your behaviors to align with your obsessions or compulsions; it won’t help in the long run (2017).


Intrusive Thoughts, Images, and Impulses Worksheet

If you’re interested in using a worksheet to further your self-help and self-improvement efforts, this may be exactly what you’re looking for.

This worksheet defines intrusive thoughts, images, and impulses and provides a list of 46 of the most common ones. This list includes things like:

  • Driving into a window;
  • Running car off the road;
  • Smashing into objects;
  • Cutting off a finger;
  • Insulting authority figure;
  • Stabbing family member;
  • Taps left on causing a flood;
  • Wrecking something;
  • Exposing yourself;
  • Disgusting sex act;
  • Contamination from doors.

For each of the 46 examples, the worksheet instructs the user to guess what percentage of men and what percentage of women have reported experiencing that thought, feeling, or impulse.

On the second page of the worksheet, the actual percentages from a 1993 study are listed. Comparing your answers to the facts may help you realize how common many of these strange or disturbing thoughts are, making you feel less alone, less “weird” or “bad,” and more “normal.”

Please note that you will need to create an account with the Psychology Tools website to download this worksheet; however, it’s free! Click here to see the description of the worksheet and sign up to download it.


Using Meditation for Intrusive Thoughts

Using Meditation for Intrusive Thoughts

You can also try meditation for intrusive thoughts. It’s another evidence-backed and calming method of accepting and simultaneously letting go of your unwanted, distressing thoughts.

Mindfulness meditation is an excellent tool for helping people cope with a lot of issues and improve their quality of life. OCD is no different—mindfulness meditation has results to offer.

It can help the sufferer recognize and understand her thoughts, find out where they’re coming from, and figure out a solution to the brain’s intent focus on the less savory or pleasant images it calls forth. It’s all about recognizing your thoughts, allowing them “in,” then allowing them out again and sending them on their way.

According to the Eco-Institute, mindfulness taps into your subconscious “90%” (this number is based on the theory that, like an iceberg, 90% of “you” is hidden in your subconscious) and allows it to clear out and promote healing instead of further pain and fear (n.d.).

To give mindfulness a try as a treatment for OCD, follow George Hofmann’s (2013) instructions here:

  1. Keep your attention on your breath and be fully aware in this moment—of sights, sounds, smells, sensations, and thoughts.
  2. Acknowledge each thought as it pops up, let it go, and return to your breath. Don’t analyze it, dwell on it, or ruminate over it, just let it come into your head and slide right back out.
  3. If you’re having trouble, try labeling the thoughts.
  4. The intent of mindfulness for OCD is to stay aware of what is going on around you, as well as what is going on inside you.
  5. Practice, practice, practice!

If you like more specific instructions and a set routine to follow, try other resources. For example, you can check out the Inner Health Studio’s guide to using meditation to tame obsessive thoughts here.


Book Recommendations

To learn more about intrusive thoughts, where they come from, why they have a tendency to haunt us so, and figure out how to stop them, there are many options in books that might help:

  • Intrusive Thoughts in Clinical Disorders: Theory, Research, and Treatment by David A. Clark (Amazon)
  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy: A Psychologist’s Guide to Overcoming Depression, Anxiety, & Intrusive Thought Patterns – Effective Techniques for Rewiring Your Brain by David A. Clark (Amazon)
  • Free Your Mind: A Guide to Freedom from Anxiety, Depression, Panic Attacks, and Intrusive Thoughts by Jamie Stevens (Amazon)
  • The Imp of the Mind: Exploring the Silent Epidemic of Obsessive Bad Thoughts by Lee Baer (Amazon)
  • Overcoming Obsessive Thoughts: How to Gain Control of Your OCD by David A. Clark (Amazon)
  • Brain Lock: Free Yourself from Obsessive-Compulsive Behavior by Jeffrey M. Schwartz (Amazon)
  • Cognitive Behavioural Therapy: 7 Ways to Freedom from Anxiety, Depression, and Intrusive Thoughts by Lawrence Wallace (Amazon)
  • The Mindfulness Workbook for OCD: A Guide to Overcoming Obsessions and Compulsions Using Mindfulness and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy by Jon Hershfield, Tom Corboy, and James Claiborn (Amazon)
  • The Anxious Thoughts Workbook: Skills to Overcome the Unwanted Intrusive Thoughts that Drive Anxiety, Obsessions, and Depression by David A. Clark and Judith S. Beck (Amazon)
  • Overcoming Unwanted Intrusive Thoughts: A CBT-Based Guide to Getting Over Frightening, Obsessive, or Disturbing Thoughts by Sally M. Winston and Martin N. Seif (Amazon)


A Take-Home Message

I hope this piece has given you a good foundation for learning about intrusive thoughts and how they affect us.

If you only have room for one big takeaway from this piece, let it be this: intrusive, disturbing, violent, and shocking thoughts from time to time are perfectly healthy; it’s what you do about those thoughts that influences your character and your future.

Feel free to try any of the techniques above the next time you find yourself grappling with an unkind or intrusive thought, but know that it’s totally normal to scare yourself with your thoughts once in a while!

What about you? Do you ever struggle with intrusive thoughts? What do you do about it? Let us know in the comments.

Thanks for reading!

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About the Author

Courtney Ackerman, MA, is a graduate of the positive organizational psychology and evaluation program at Claremont Graduate University. She is currently working as a researcher for the State of California and her professional interests include survey research, wellbeing in the workplace, and compassion.


  1. Chris

    This has helped me understand what I’m going through. When I do anything remotely gay I have to tell myself that I’m full on straight and then it won’t go away for at least 20 minutes I’m just sitting there getting mad at my brain and mind. Not to sound homophobic at all just don’t know how to explain it better but really this helped me alot thank you!

  2. Sashka

    I have the same 3 intrusive thoughts but I go through major periods of feeling fine and then not bothering me but then BANG I’ve let one in and I’m off. It cripples me, cannot think about anything else or function. I get hot, panicky and manic. It often lasts for a week or until I get some form of reassurance and goes again. Sometimes they’re so bad I think alcohol is the only solution to quietening them and getting some respite. But who wants to be that person who for intermittent periods in their lives has to top up on just enough alcohol to feel sane and function! I’m miserable, it’s wrecking my life and I constantly wonder when the next episode is coming. I now just sit through it, no alocoh but I can’t function. I’m on pregabalin and venlafaxine and have been for years but they still happen.
    I feel so lonely, desperate and very pathetic

    • Nicole Celestine, Ph.D.

      Hi Sashka,

      I’m sorry to read about your challenges with intrusive thoughts, but it’s good to read that you’re working with a psychiatrist to get some support. Please don’t give up, and know that many, many people experience mental health challenges at some point in their life — you’re not alone, and there’s nothing to feel ashamed of.

      If you haven’t already, consider linking up with a therapist in your area for some additional support (Psychology Today has a great directory you can use). You may find value in connecting up with an OCD support group so you can share your experiences with others and hopefully feel a little less alone — a therapist will be able to help you with this.

      I wish you the best, and don’t give up!

      – Nicole | Community Manager

  3. Sabrina


    I’m writing this at 4am so apologies for any spelling mistakes. I have been having intrusive thoughts about being involved in an accident, specifically run over by a car many many times. I have been ignoring the thoughts but in moments like now, where I woke up in the middle of the night and the first thought was me being hit by a car and seeing what I’d see from the ground, and what I’d feel. It’s absolutely terrifying and I don’t know what to do. I know I’m just really scared that something could happen to me because I can’t bear the thought of making my loved ones grief. But I am a believer of the law of attraction so this thoughts are the scariest thing cause they feel like a prophecy. I’m not able to watch films where bad car accidents are involved and it’s just really sad. I don’t know if any more tips in addition to the ones given below can be given, but I was glad to find this article because I haven’t spoken with anyone about this, and finding out that this may be normal is a relief. Thank you

    • Nicole Celestine, Ph.D.

      Hi Sabrina,

      Well done on identifying that what you are experiencing is likely intrusive thoughts and not a reflection of your reality. And yes, if you read this post and the responses from our commenters, I think you’ll find some reassurance that you’re not alone!

      It is not unusual for the themes about accidents and grief to play into intrusive thoughts. So when you catch yourself having these thoughts, it’s good practice to resist the urge to cycle through the ‘what-ifs’ or the odds of such a thing occurring and acknowledge these intrusive thoughts for what they are — just thoughts. Remembering this can help reduce their power over our behavior. A therapist who specializes in OCD can work with you to develop these strategies.

      If you have a skim through the comments section here, you’ll see I’ve recommended various workbooks and helpful meditations to others that you can work through individually — you might find some of these will help you too.

      Best of luck, and know there are people and treatments that can help!

      – Nicole | Community Manager

  4. Bree

    So an intrusive thought is just a random thought that pops into your head right? And it’s healthy for it to happen every now and then, well I have postpartum depression/anxiety (with no thoughts of harming myself or my children ever, just lack of motivation and wanting to do things) and recently I had an intrusive thought of “what if I got a knife and stabbed my husband and children” just out of the blue and immediately was like wtf? Why would I think like that? Is my postpartum getting this bad? And I started panicking and crying and told my husband what I thought and he said I was just having anxiety to calm down but I had a full blown panic attack. Couldn’t hardly breathe, shaking and tensed up just terrible and scary because the thought scared me so much, because I know I would never ever harm my children nor myself because I don’t trust anyone could ever care for and love them how I do. But my anxiety is causing me to panic the last few days I just haven’t felt like myself, just been panicking really bad all day and I went to my regular doctor and she doesn’t understand that 1 thought caused me to dwell on it all, I’m working on seeing a Psychiatrist because I know they’re specifically for these types of things and I just need some advice. Do you think I’m struggling from actual thoughts of harming someone if it was something that popped into my head 1 time and scared me to death? and now I’m having constant panic attacks telling myself I’m dangerous to my children when I know deep down I couldn’t ever ever ever do it but I just really scared myself and it’s caused me to be in full blown panic mode and scared that what if that thought was something worse than an intrusive thought? I keep trying to let it in but it’s so hard to accept something like that, it’s driving me insane and I just want to stop feeling like this. I need real reassurance and advice.

    • Nicole Celestine, Ph.D.

      Hi Bree,

      I’m sorry that you’re struggling with intrusive thoughts. As you’ve recognized, it’s important to remember that these thoughts are not a reflection of your reality or actual intentions. Likewise, OCD and intrusive thoughts can interact with other conditions, such as postpartum depression, to change your experience/intensity of thoughts, anxiety, etc.

      As you’ve discovered, intrusive thoughts can become very intense when we find ourselves cycling over their implications over and over again. This can lead to the experience of panic and may tempt us to repeatedly seek confirmation that, for example, you will not hurt another person you care about.

      Well done on seeking the support of a therapist/psychiatrist. They will certainly be able to help you. In the meantime, you might want to take a look at this meditation, which many have found helpful for breaking the cycle of panic and concern in the present moment.

      For more reading you can do on your own, I’d encourage you to take a look at this book, which contains many useful exercises to help you overcome your intrusive thoughts.

      Good luck and please know there are people and treatments out there that can help!

      – Nicole | Community Manager

  5. Tessa

    Hi, for the last 6-8 months I have been having what seems to be intrusive thoughts and its so terrible!! At any moment when I get to many of them I can get a whole mental breakdown and I don’t know why they are there and I just really hate myself for it… I’m only 13 and everything just seems to be falling apart, these thoughts might end up to me killing myself cause I don’t think I can handle them much longer. Please give me any advice if you can, they just keep getting worse and are ruining my life and school grades, I don’t know what’s happening to me anymore.

    • Nicole Celestine, Ph.D.

      Hi Tessa,

      If you are struggling with suicidal thoughts, please call the following number in your respective country:

      USA: National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1-800-273-8255;
      UK: Samaritans hotline at 116 123;
      The Netherlands: Netherlands Suicide Hotline at 09000767;
      France: Suicide écoute at 01 45 39 40 00;
      Australia: Lifeline at 13 11 14
      Germany: Telefonseelsorge at 0800 111 0 111 for Protestants, 0800 111 0 222 for Catholics, and 0800 111 0 333 for children and youth.

      For a list of other suicide prevention websites, phone numbers, and resources, see this website.

      Likewise, I’d encourage you to reach out to a trusted adult to help connect you to a source of therapeutic support. Please know that there are people out there who care and that there are treatments that can help.

      – Nicole | Community Manager

  6. Karthi Uthay

    My intrusive thoughts are unplesant and often focuses on garbage things like girls, dirty, age, grade level education and time and date! This is informative but is there any more solutions to get rid of my thoughts they bother me like bitch!

    Everyone is suppose to stop thinking intrusive thoughts once a person becomes a teenager (age 13). I’m 15, I’m Karthi Uthay and I cannot stop this shit!

    • Nicole Celestine, Ph.D.

      Hi Karthi,

      Well done on identifying that what you are experiencing is likely intrusive thoughts. And know that there are people out there who care and treatments available to help you.

      I’ll note that it’s actually very common for people to experience intrusive thoughts at all ages, including into one’s adult years. So please don’t feel unusual for continuing to experience these thoughts. Regardless of age, one of the best ways to ease the intrusive thoughts associated with OCD is by using some kind of therapeutic approach, possibly combined with psychiatric support. A good starting point may be to speak to someone you trust (e.g., a parent) to get the support of a therapist who specializes in OCD. You can find a great directory of therapists here.

      For more reading you can do on your own, I’d encourage you to take a look at this workbook, which can help you apply Acceptance and Commitment Therapy strategies to work through your intrusive thoughts on your own.

      I hope you find some relief soon and don’t give up!

      – Nicole | Community Manager

  7. Natanya

    I’ve been struggling w intrusive thoughts the past month,I’ve had such thing happen when I was very little for abt 1-2yrs,but it stopped after therapy for a few years,then it came back and keeps cmg back every 1-2 years,and currently dealing with it for 1 month again now,been worrying that I having feelings in an inappropriate way towards my sister,and those thoughts feel like it’s just gg to come,and sometimes it feels very real,and I’d feel like as if I want to feel that way,but yet also know I don’t want to have such feelings,and that I nvr want to act on it,then I worry “what if I’m lesbian? What if I do want these thoughts of my sister to be real? And why do I sometimes feel sexually aroused by this?” And then I start thinking that I’m a disgusting,gross person,that there’s something wrong with me,and feel rly guilty for many many days,that I’ve been trying to keep a distance from my sister. And I have a wonderful boyfriend whom I love and has been here for me even now,but I feel so disgusted at myself becos of these thoughts,but I’m still afraid that I’ll end up acting on these even though I do not want to,and I feel like I know I’m straight,but I keep having all these what if’s. each time I want to just be normal around my family,these thoughts come in,that I avoid talking,as I think that somehow I’ll be acting on these thoughts. Sometimes I feel like I’m going crazy,so I told my parents,and am waiting to see a therapist in May.but I’m wondering what else I can do to help myself while waiting,along with these strategies that’s been given.

    • Nicole Celestine, Ph.D.

      Hi Natanya,

      Well done on identifying that what you are experiencing is likely intrusive thoughts and not a reflection of your reality.

      It is not unusual for sexual themes to play into intrusive thoughts. When we catch ourselves in these moments, it’s good practice to resist the urge to seek confirmation, and instead, acknowledge these intrusive thoughts for what they are — just thoughts, which we do not wish to act upon. Remembering this can help reduce their power over our behavior. A therapist who specializes in OCD can work with you to develop these strategies.

      For more reading you can do on your own, I’d encourage you to take a look at this book if you’d like to start working through some of these challenges on your own.

      I hope this helps, and I wish you all the best.

      – Nicole | Community Manager

      Best of luck!

  8. Sarah Rose

    Hi Saira,

    I am in almost the exact same situation as you. Everything in my life was relatively normal and fine, until about a week ago I watched 2 movies which seem to have set me over the edge. It’s so strange because I have always watched crime movies, horror movies, psychological thrillers, etc…and I think that’s part of the reason I am so stuck. I consumed that sort of content before, but it never phased me, it was like I was asleep to it and now suddenly I am deeply triggered and traumatized by it. My mind wants to continuously cycle through ‘why now?’ ‘this never affected you before, there must be something deeper going on here.’ ‘Maybe you are developing multiple personalities or turning into something evil’. After I watched these 2 movies, I noticed part of my brain was fixated on them, and I began getting intrusive graphic and violent flashes. I suddenly became acutely aware of things I never assigned my attention to before. For example, we all know a knife or scissors can be dangerous, and I’ve even said before to my brother ‘be careful with those scissors! Someone could get hurt’ etc. But suddenly now it’s like my brain is forcing images to the forefront that i could use that knife etc. To hurt someone. I hace been spiraling down and down and hating myself in every way. Never in my life had I ever had thoughts or visions like this. What if i lose control? What if I black out? Then I noticed other horrific movies I have watched in the past are bringing horrible scenes to my mind. I have been nauseous and shaking and having diarrhea and head fog for a week, absolutely distressed that I am turning into a murderer or a bad person. I can’t stop crying and at times when it’s really bad, I feel afraid to be around my loved ones in case a scenario or vision flashes through my Mind. This is just so awful. I know our anxiety is what is giving the thoughts power but It’s like I cannot help feeling distressed and over thinking. I feel exhausted and depressed, both of which are things I’ve never felt in my entire life. At one (truthfully, several) points, the thoughts bothered me so much that my mine started jumping to the conclusion that I need to not exist anymore in case I am a danger to society. NEVER have i ever Experienced anything like this. My mind won’t let go of the ‘why now?’ ‘What’s happening to me?’

    • Nicole Celestine

      Hi Sarah,

      I’m sorry to read that you’re struggling with intrusive thoughts. It’s good that you’ve identified horrors/psychological thrillers are a trigger for you so you can avoid them. A real trap with intrusive thoughts is to cycle over and over again on the “what-if” questions you’ve raised (e.g., what if I lose control?). But a good step to help regain a sense of calm in the moment is to remind yourself that even this sense of urgency which is keeping you awake and distressing you is illusory — the cyclical thoughts can create a false sense of urgency.

      In addition to some of the resources I’ve recommended to other commenters, I’ve recently come across this highly recommended meditation (just 15 minutes) that may help to break the what-if cycle in the moment. I’d recommend giving it a try.

      Additionally, I’d recommend getting in touch with a therapist who specializes in OCD, who can work with you to develop long-term strategies too.

      Don’t give up! And rest assured that there are people who can help you through this and that what you are experiencing will not last forever.

      – Nicole | Community Manager

    • Agnes

      Dear Sarah, i suffered exactly from the same flash pics in my mind and i also connected it with watching some sacry movies in the past. I also had these awful feelings towards sharp objects, esp. knives like you do. I also questioned the sence of my existance. Probably watching these movies was the trigger. Don’t worry and start psychological or psychiatric treatment asap. It really helps. Now i enjoy watching different movies, not only romantic comedies and feel much better. You can enjoy your life again even if it seems impossible and surrealistic now. Good luck to you

  9. Hanna

    Hello and thank you so much for this article! I’ve been struggling with OCD and intrusive thoughts basically since my early teens but at that time the thoughts were just random, unspecified thoughts of things I could do to small pets and kids and they never stayed, managed to work away some of the most distracting ”physical” OCD on my own, then now, at age 30, I took a strong dose of magic mushrooms w friends expecting a spiritual, life changing experience, and felt good for a while after, even realized I’m lesbian and came out to my family and all was fine, but then a month after, alone one night I was bombarded w the most disgusting, degrading hetero sex scenes you could ever imagine and thought ”am I actually mega super hetero and lied to myself?” And I just had the first (maybe) and WORST panic attack of my life, called an ambulance bc I thought i was literally dying, the panic attack lasted 12 hours, then went to celebrate christmas w my family and from nowhere I had thoughts about killing my mom and stepdad even though I love them to bits and had another panic attack, I told them about these thoughts and they were ofc scared, and later these thoughts moved on to my cat and then my sister and her bf and had thoughts like ”what if the shrooms took out my ’true’ psychopathic nature and that i really wanna do these things? Could I be this disgusting type of person? I hate myself wanna kill myself etc” And had more panic attacks and seeing as I felt like I had nowhere else to go, in the night I made a panic phone call to 911, told them these thoughts and was put in an emergency mental ward where i stayed for six days and were given escitalopram which i still take. There were times i didn’t recognize my face in the mirror, and went through some sort of nihilistic depression and couldnt relate to anyone or anything, felt like i was floating around in space a million years into the future, I was so scared. However i was diagnosed w OCD and had a bunch of pills prescribed, but only take escitalopram. Also seem to suffer from some level of DPDR which still hasnt really gone away, though the intrusive thoughts stay in the background as for now.
    Reading this article helped me remove the stigma and open up to ppl about these thoughts and also learned how to cope w them, and reading the comments made me feel less alone and scared, and hoping to go back to normal asap.
    Thanks again for this understanding and empathetic article!

    • Nicole Celestine

      Hi Hanna,

      Thank you for sharing your experience, and I’m glad you enjoyed the article. I’m sure others reading this will find some comfort in your comment and also know that they are not alone in their experience.

      It’s great to read that you’ve found some professional support and medication that works for you and that you have people in your life you are able to talk with when you feel alone. Speaking to others we trust is huge for helping to normalize our experiences and has the flow-on effect of making others feel comfortable opening up if they, too, are privately struggling, so good on you! 🙂

      All the best!

      – Nicole | Community Manager

  10. Sarah R.

    My intrusive thoughts are more centered on self-doubt and negativity. For example, I will think about the women my boyfriend used to date and/or sleep with and I obsessively think about it–their faces, how pretty they are, how I am not as pretty, etc.

    Most of my unwanted thoughts have to do with my relationship–it’s not just this boyfriend, it’s always been the case with me & romantic relationships. He is very affectionate and is a loyal guy–he reminds me constantly that he is in it for the long haul and it shows in his actions. I know, “you never know”, but I genuinely believe that he is being faithful. I am 28 and he is 35…we are headed toward building a family.

    I will be having a good day and then all of a sudden I will think about how I am not good enough or start thinking “what if?” “What if he’s cheating on me?” or “He seemed a little off last night maybe he doesn’t like me anymore or is getting bored”, etc.

    It’s almost an addiction, an obsession–I’ll be happy for a little while and then it is routinely disturbed by negative thoughts.

    I have had intrusive sexual thoughts before, like visualizing a family member naked or something but I think that’s more normal than we realize.

    I’d love to know if anyone else has a similar experience?

    -Sarah R.

    • Nicole Celestine

      Hi Sarah,

      Well done on identifying that what you are experiencing is likely intrusive thoughts and not a reflection of your reality.

      As you note, self-image and questions about our partner’s fidelity and commitment often play into our intrusive thoughts. This may tempt us to repeatedly seek confirmation that our partner is still attracted us, being faithful, etc. When we catch ourselves in these moments, it’s good practice to resist the urge to seek confirmation, and instead, acknowledge these intrusive thoughts for what they are — just thoughts. Remembering this can help reduce their power over our behavior. A therapist who specializes in OCD can work with you to develop these strategies.

      Regarding intrusive sexual thoughts, this article may provide any readers some reassurance that these can be quite common and that experiencing such thoughts does not reflect a desire to act upon them (and that there are very effective treatment options available!)

      – Nicole | Community Manager

  11. Gray

    This article really helped. I’ve been struggling with sexual intrusive thoughts and I couldn’t figure out what was wrong with me for thinking about this. Obviously I would suppress as much as I could and it has only gotten worse. I’m not sure how I’m supposed to just let these thoughts come and go, but I’m going to try.

  12. Saira

    This article was really helpful to know that it’s not only me who has been having horrible thoughts like this. Three weeks ago my life was perfectly fine, I focused on work, used to come home, cook dinner along with my husband, eat while watching something on the TV and sleep. We travel on the weekends, walk in park and play board games and stuff.. We don’t drink nor smoke nor try anything else. I work hard at work but sometimes complain about achieving more. But, that would be just sometimes. Although I always motivated myself to wake up early, be more organized and adhere to a much better routine, it’s still not happening completely as I want. Sometimes, I used to feel that I am not talented enough (the usual feeling of discontentment regarding work) but my husband is the most loving and supporting person who always encourages me to believe in myself. Everything was fine. We watch a mix of genres on TV: sometimes comedy like “Friends”, sometimes action (Marvel), sometimes suspense and crime like “Breaking Bad” and stuff. But, I have never been affected by any content for long, as to I see it and then forget about it. Recently, we watched a pretty famous crime series which I felt very disturbed about. We stopped watching it. But, sometime later, out of the blue I began having very horrible recurring thoughts about harming someone I love, while I would NEVER actually do anything like that at all. I always have been a kind, loving and friendly person. The thought just puts a very bad picture in front of me and I get very panicked about it, because I would never do any of that. I loathe myself for having such thoughts. But, I tried calming myself down and deviate myself with work, but it just takes a second for the thought to come back and after it does, I hate myself for having that thought. It also takes me to other disturbing thoughts. I question myself as to why am I even getting these evil thoughts.. It is making me question my integrity.
    Through the article, I got to know that it really is not in my hands, I should not try to repel it. I should not give it so much importance that it makes me feel so bad. I should try to let my thoughts flow and not ponder so much upon them. I want to do that and I want my life to get back to normal. I am scared and I am feeling helpless. I do not take any medications because I do not want to. I really prefer natural ways of overcoming this if it’s possible. But it feels a bit peaceful to know that it is an actual thing which happens to people and I am not crazy to have such thoughts coming up.

    • Agnes

      It all appears exactly the way you describe. Sometimes I felt this thought like a rapid needle for a part of a second. Or like a flash of a picture in my head. Movies often triggered these thoughts in my case. That is why for last 10 years I only watched nice romantic comedies or light comedies. I was not able to relax watching anything else, including news. Now I have been taking medicines for a year and queuing for my first therapeutic appointment, and I am very happy to be able to watch almost everything, (still I avoid brutal movies and horrors) . Good to know I am not the only case like this and remember, you are not either.

  13. Kelly Brown

    Reading this article and all of the comments off and on repeatedly for 2 days has made a huge difference for me. I suffer form harm thoughts. Harming myself, hurting others, stabbing, punching, kicking, choking, obsessive thoughts of death/dying. It leaves me completely crippled in fear. I am still so scared of going to sleep at night because my brain convinces me that I might commit the acts if i am not vigilant EVERY single second of every single day.
    I beg everyone around me for reassurance. I already take Prozac and 6 visteral a day, still, it persists. I see a new round of psychiatrists next week and I am more excited about that than I am about Christmas.
    Thank you, for publishing this very informative, relatable article. Too often I think people like us are shamed into silence, whether by ourselves, or others.
    I worry that I may never be ‘me’ again. I desperately seek to know that this can/will go away, even for me.
    Hugs to all of you.

  14. AJ


    For about the last 6 months ever since seeing a picture I all of a sudden have thoughts that I am something I find disgusting and I keep second guessing myself and deep down I know these things disgust me. I am crying everyday day and cannot eat due to thinking that I am this person. It’s taken over my life and I can’t be in the moment due to crazy thoughts. I am looking over pictures again and again to check what it is I am seeing and feeling and it makes me feel horrible. I am deeply distressed. Can you help.

    • Nicole Celestine

      Hi AJ,

      I’m very sorry to read that you’re struggling with intrusive thoughts. I want to reassure you that what you’re experiencing is something many people struggle with and have recovered from, so please don’t lose hope.

      I’d recommend visiting your doctor or a psychological professional to help pin down specifically what’s happening, as some of what you’re describing sounds like it may have to do with body-image and eating habits (which may be connected to OCD or attributable to a different diagnosis). The person you speak to will be able to properly diagnose you and connect you to an appropriate source of support. You can look for psychologists in your local area using this directory.

      Best of luck, and I hope you are able to begin healing soon.

      – Nicole | Community Manager

      • Sophie

        Thank you so much for this article! I have been struggling with intrusive thoughts for weeks now and have thought I am a terrible person for thinking this way. I take medication for my anxiety and ADHD and I hate having these thoughts because I am a kind person that never wants to hurt anyone. I have tried writing it down and ripping the paper w the thoughts on it up but it hasn’t helped. I finally decided to google it and this has helped me realize that I can’t control those thoughts which means I am not a bad person which is what I am really worried about because I never want to hurt anyone in any way. I have tried not to think about them which hasn’t helped but now i know I am not a bad person and my anxiety and ADHD are not helping the situation. Thank you thank you thank you for this really helpful article and I will try those strategies.

    • Rosie

      Thank you for this article is has relieved a lot of my anxiety that I am weird for having these thoughts. I have anxiety and OCD and have had a few periods over the past few years where it has been really hard. One of them is now. I get panic attacks some times and they are absolutely terrifying – I have an overwhelming number of intrusive thoughts about dying that usually set them off. Following these panic attacks it takes me a lot of time and work to get back to feeling ‘normal’. At the moment I am struggling with intrusive thoughts everyday – I am currently on holiday at the beach and even in such a nice setting my brain is throwing thoughts about death and life meaning at me. It’s honestly exhausting. I am on medication and seeing a therapist which does help but I am feeling like a lost cause because I have all these things to help and yet I’m still having these thoughts. I try meditating or letting the thoughts in but i ruminate on the thoughts instead. My worst intrusive thought is about why I am in this body, why was I born when I was and am I real. It sounds silly to me when I’m not obsessing over it but at the moment it’s all I can think of. I would love some suggestions on what else I could try to elevate this thought pattern. I am scared I won’t ever feel ‘normal’.

      Thank you again for this article – it has made a lot of sense as to why I get these thoughts and how the OCD makes it much harder to release them.

      • Nicole Celestine

        Hi Rosie,

        I am sorry you’re struggling with OCD and intrusive thoughts. Please know that you are not alone in what you are experiencing. The fear of feeling like you may never get to feel ‘normal’ is something that I know resonates with a lot of people. On your path to ‘normal’ (whatever that may look like for you), you may find it useful to set smaller goals that help you manage the symptoms of your condition. This may start by having a conversation with your psychologist/psychiatrist to address the most severe problem, which sounds like it may be the panic attacks — ask whether you can revisit your medication or if they can introduce you to some specific cognitive techniques to minimize their severity and frequency.

        Also, as you note, meditation doesn’t always work for people with a tendency to ruminate, so you may want to experiment with calming your mind in a different way during difficult moments, such as through progressive muscle relaxation.

        All the best, and I hope you find a brighter future ahead.

        – Nicole | Community Manager

  15. Ivette

    I have had extreme anxiety for over 6 months now due to health concerns . I made the mistake to try a edible with thc and that just broke me, that was 1 month ago and ever since I started getting panic attacks which i had never experienced! I seriously thought I was going crazy ! After that since I thought I was loosing my mind I was scared that I was going to loose control and do something to a loved one like harm them. Ever since I thought that I have been getting intrusive thoughts mostly harmful ones and cause me extreme Anxiety. I have two kids and I am scared these though mean something about me. I would never ever do nothing to them but these thoughts are stuck in my brain , I am scared to watch any movie with violence because I feel it might trigger these thoughts also to hold a knife while cooking because I will get these thoughts to start occurring. Somedays I am very good at convincing myself that they are thoughts only and feel good but somedays my anxiety gets the best of me and think what if these thoughts mean I will do something . This is just the worst!!

    • Nicole Celestine

      Hi Ivette,

      Thank you for sharing your experience, and I’m sorry that you are struggling with intrusive thoughts. I’d definitely recommend seeking some support from a psychological professional seeing as these thoughts are causing you distress. They will be able to give you more strategies to address the thoughts and also support you with addressing your anxiety.

      I recommended this article to another commenter, and I suspect it may help you, too, which is about avoiding cycles of anxiety and worry surrounding our intrusive thoughts. By practicing the strategies here, you may be able to alleviate some of the ‘panic’ associated with your intrusive thoughts and get better at recognizing your thoughts for what they are — just thoughts – that needn’t dictate your behavior.

      I hope this helps, and I wish you all the best.

      – Nicole | Community Manager

    • Niki

      Hi Ivette,

      I am going through the same thing. I took some supplements off Amazon and it gave me harm OCD and it’s been 6 months now since I stopped taking them. Everyday my mind finds something to bother me but you really have to practice how to talk to yourself with kindness and logic. I have been listening to audio books and reading everyday about this OCD and it’s been helpful. Soon as I see an image in my head about harm, I start tapping and meditating. I need to calm down before my anxiety starts up. You cant feed the ocd with panic because it will only make it worse. So, stay strong and listen to a lot of positive affirmations and meditation. It’s the best resort. My OCD is getting better but it’s taking a long time.

  16. Lola

    This article is super helpful to help me understand about intrusive thoughts. I have been dealing them this past whole year since the start of quarantine about my past and events that I’m not even sure they quite happened. I would usually said “what if this happens and I don’t remember? Did this happen? Am I this person? Oh my gosh, I thought about it, saw it, and felt it—so it must be true.” Especially the ones where I can’t tell if it’s a thought or not, and the ones where I’m not certain that it happened.

    Recently, I had gotten another one when I was like 12-14 years old about my mom’s job. The image and thought came all of sudden, I got scared and immediately started to believe it. Cause it honestly felt so real, etc. It was a image that I did something to a child that my mom was watching at the time and where I was helping, and saw the child as a sibling since I knew them for a long time. I got scared and started asking my mom which she said it was totally unlikely and that she would’ve noticed something between the child and I since she was always on the alert. I’m just scared that the child remembers, or what if he is suppressing it, or if I was still capable of doing it? Really starting to wonder if I’m some terrible, awful, disgusting, and labeling all the things. I’m just afraid to tell my therapist since I’m unsure if they will say something about it or think it actually did happen when I’m not even sure. Just doubting a good relationship between the child and I, plus my time helping and being there. Any advice would help. I know deep down i wouldn’t do that, just even thinking about disturbs me and then I wonder if my future will get ruin, if the child will remember it later on, and other things regarding my past that I do remember. This recent event: I’m not even sure if it’s true or not. I could be mixing it up and reliving my own trauma when I was younger, and putting those images into my mom’s job? I’m not sure.

    But I’m trying my best to keep living, knowing that everything is alright and I’m not alone. But any advice or guidance can help. Thank you. I don’t want to be a bad person, I don’t want to be seen like this did happen and I’m some disgusting, or whichever.

    • Nicole Celestine

      Hi Lola,

      I’m sorry to read that you are struggling with intrusive thoughts. It’s good to see that you’re already working with a therapist. As scary as it is, I’d recommend being honest with him/her about your current thoughts, as they will be better able to support you (or connect you to an appropriate source of support) if you are honest.

      Here’s some reassurance. If you take a read of this article, you’ll see that much of what you are describing (e.g., seeking reassurance from your mother, mentally revisiting events from the past to try and determine whether you are a loving or dangerous person) — these are often symptoms of Harm OCD.

      In the interim, try to remember that thoughts are just thoughts. They don’t necessarily dictate your behaviors, presently or in the past.

      I hope this helps and that you find a brighter future ahead.

      – Nicole | Community Manager

  17. Agnes

    Thank you sooo much for this article! Its a great job of you and I know i will see through it plenty of times in my way to recovery.
    I think I’ve been suffering from these terryfying thoughts since I was a child. In that time I used to have nightmares and sometimes i caught myself wondering if they could happen in real life. Atvthat stage my thoughts were connected with losing my family, especially my beloved Mom and staying alone and lonely in this world.
    The time passed and my childhood was quite happy. Yet, I remember incidents when I was afraid to spend night at my cousines’ house because I was afraid that when i come back home, my family will somehow disappear and my nightmares will come true. I also do remember my 2 or 3 panick attacks and also intrusive thoughts like doing something stupid and embarrassing in public, making my Mom shocked, disgusted and disappointed.
    Then I became a teenager and my relationship with my Mom totally changed. We lost the emotional connection for some time and we fought very often. Mom tried to control me and I felt restricted. Our discussions were diffcult if possible at all, Mom wasn’t ready for me as a teenager or young woman.
    Than I fell in love very strongly and had a long and exhausting relationship with my first boyfriend. The first 3 years were amazing, the last 5 years were like constant emotional rollercoaster, with ups and downs, breaking ups and returnings, as he had his own family/personality problems which affected our relationship.
    And it was the time when my intrusive thoughts came back at my age of about 23.
    Suddenly i started to suffer from thoughts that I could harm my Mom to death at her sleep, when she’s so assailable. I started to be obsessively scared of one knife in our kitchen. At that stage
    i didnt know that there exists something like anxiety and that its quite a common mental disorder. That time of my life was a REAL nightmare. I sometimes thought that the last and only way of getting rid of this horrible thoughts and saving my Mommy is committing a suicide.
    Then another stage of my life came and I started a new relationship. Again it was difficult in the beginning as my Mom didnt accept my partner, who, on the other hand, was rebellious and not a type of a good boy.
    But when I was involved in all these problems, i felt unexpectedly good. I left home and went on my own and after a year and a half I got pregnant. We were happy with my boyfriend although my Mom was very disappointed and we lost touch for about half a year because every time I called her I was devastated. She kept saying that I ruin my life etc.
    Although my pregnacy was at risk, I gave birth to my first amazing babyboy.
    Everything seemd OK and my life started to be stable and happy. But once when I was passing a bridge with my 2,5 year-old sweetheart, suddenly I got attacked by ontrusive thought of dropping him to the water. I panicked and started running with him to leave the bridge. I ommitted this place ever since. After this I was depressed for a week or two but the time was passing and again everything seemd to be fine.
    I gave birth to two more babyboys. My marriage lasted, we were quite stable and happy.
    In February 2013 we had a difficult situation with my husband’s brother and parents, who deceived us and lost our trust. There was the first family row after which we stopped talking to them for 2 weeks although we lived very close. The stress level was so high for me that suddenly all my intrusive thoughts came back and hit me one more time. I consider 2013 as the worst year for my anxiety where I was attacked by violent thougts of different shades and intensity related to my loved ones but leading me to depression. I remember when I went to my doctor and cried to her that probably i’m about to become crazy.
    From this point on it took me next 5 years of up and downs and getting psychically ready to visit a psychiatrist, another year of mental tortures to decide to be treated medically as I was obsessively afraid of taking drugs. Now I’m waiting for my first therapeutic appointment and after so many years trying not to lose hope that my life can by normal again.
    That is why Your evidence that people like me are aroud us and fight the same problems gives a lot of hope and power not to give up. Thank you so much.

    • Nicole Celestine

      Hi Agnes,

      I’m so glad to read that this post has provided you some comfort and reassurance. And thank you for sharing your story. As you note, you are absolutely not alone in your experience of intrusive thoughts, and it can often be in times of stress that intrusive thoughts will flare up.

      I’m pleased to hear that you have some support lined up, and I hope it provides you with the tools to manage your intrusive thoughts. In the meantime, if you read through some of my replies to the other comments in this thread, you will find some other helpful books and resources with exercises for addressing intrusive thoughts if you are interested.

      I wish you all the best, and keep fighting!

      – Nicole | Community Manager

  18. Julene

    This article was really helpful and soothing. Ive been diagnosed with OCD 12 years ago although looking back ive had anxiety since i was 6 but no one noticed and i changed my meds for the first time a year ago as the first one started wearing off. The new meds helped until i experienced a traumatic event related to a family member i trusted who did me in big time then after lockdown it got worse. Its the 3rd family member who has broken my trust. I am the youngest of 6 and no parents anymore. Im 38 now and feel like no one can be trusted and that im really alone. Felt like i slided 2 steps back from how ive improved over the last 12 years after what happened again now with my brother. The intrusive thoughts have been driving me insane. I would feel like i cant breath at some point as i start to get anxiety over these horrible thoughts and i start to get paranoid that i even start to worry what if i googled something in the past and its something that could get me arrested for some bizarre reason like someone is sitting watching me what i do and what i think just to try and get me i would never make it in jail i would rather take my own life etc etc is how the throughtd then start to escelate. My heart starts to beat really fast and i would feel like im going to pass out almost. I then start overanalysing every single detail of that intrusive thought to try and ensure my safety. It drives me insane. I would get so anxious at work if i made a mistake i would completely hit a blank afraid how the boss is going to shout and insult me again now and its just a matter of time before he fires me and ill be without work and nowhere to go etc etc. Could the recent trauma play a role in my 2 steps back im experiencing and should i see a professional again and maybe also re look at the meds im taking? Ive been living a healthy lifestyle and running seems to help me tremendously but i feel like i need more tools as you can only run so much. I would even worry about what i just typed after i post it and try and see if there is not anything in my comment that i could get in trouble for maybe…thats how bad it gets🤦‍♀️

    • Nicole Celestine

      Hi Julene,

      Thank you for sharing your experience, and I’m sorry to read that you are facing such challenges, particularly during this lockdown.

      To answer your question: Yes, trauma can absolutely stoke or trigger existing mental health challenges, such as intrusive thoughts and anxiety. If you feel your experience of anxiety and OCD symptoms has worsened, absolutely speak with your doctor or a psychology professional to get support. The latter may also be able to help you work through your trauma and give you some advice about your situation with your family, so that you can ensure you are safe and minimize the risk of experiencing further hurt.

      I wish you all the best, and I hope things turn around for you soon!

      – Nicole | Community Manager

  19. Lilly

    Omggggggg this article has helped me so much!! I feel like I’m ready to take on the world now. I’ve been having intrusive thoughts for almost a year now. My mom was murdered when I was four I’ve watched her being abused by her bf, who also murdered her. I was abused physically as a child by my aunt after my mom passed, who forced the understanding of death on me. Ever since I’ve been afraid. 25 years later after traveling across the country leading up to the COVID disaster I have been dealing with intrusive thoughts about dying, family members dying, my dog dying, suicidal acts upon myself, etc n I’m like wait this isn’t me. It has taken a toll on me I lost a dramatic amount of weight n in the past few months I’ve just been able to kind of deal with them and gain my weight & acquire an appetite. Past few weeks have gotten a little rough but now that I’ve read this and reading the Power of Now it is helping me. Thank you for this article and omg the comments make me feel like I’m not alone during this time thank you and we will all be perfectly fine.

    • Nicole Celestine

      Hi Lilly,

      Thank you for sharing your story. To have gone through everything you described and come out the other end with such resilience is amazing. And I’m so pleased to read that this article has given you some hope and motivation to continue overcoming your intrusive thoughts. The Power of Now is an amazing read, so I hope you take something of value from it.

      Best of luck — you’ve got this!

      – Nicole | Community Manager

    • Kitty M

      Hi Lilly,

      Sending you virtual hugs for all that you have been through.
      If you want support access mental health services where you are and they can support you, no one has to face these things alone.
      Good luck stay strong
      Mental health practitioner

  20. Slim

    I have been getting increasingly worse thoughts for the better part of the year. I’ve had OCD my entire life but this last theme has been the hardest by far. What’s most difficult is how convincing the thoughts seem to be. I hear the voice in my head saying that “I want to do (this)” Or “I will do (that)” It’s different from anything I’ve experienced before. My concern ends up making me wonder if I even have OCD at all. Or if im just lying to myself. Can OCD manifest in this way?

    • Nicole Celestine

      Hi Slim,

      I’m sorry to read that you’ve been struggling with intrusive thoughts. It’s very common for those experiencing cognitive disturbances to doubt the severity of what they’re experiencing, question whether they’re “lying to themselves” as you say, etc. This is especially true in the absence of a formal diagnosis. People don’t always talk openly about their mental health challenges due to stigma, so it can be hard to pin down what’s ‘real’ and ‘serious’ without a source of comparison.

      What’s important is that you acknowledge that something is going on, and if it’s affecting your ability to function day-to-day, moods, etc., it’s worth taking the time to get it checked out and look after yourself.

      I’d suggest having a chat to professional if you haven’t already (e.g., start with your doctor who can refer you to a psychological specialist), and let them know that you feel the situation is worsening. That way they can connect you to the right source and level of support.

      I hope this helps (or is validating at least!) and all the best.

      – Nicole | Community Manager

  21. Roy

    I dont particularly have horrible thoughts like most of the article mentions, but for a year now I’ve suddenly turned into a constatly worried person i dont know how it happened, i do know i tend to be a perfectionist in anything i do no matter how serious i want it to be perfect but intrusive thoughts are killing my head all the time.
    Example: i have to check the email i sent like 100 times to make sure it was sent even tho i did send it but my mind keeps fighting the idea that it might not have worked and i would fail and start thinking about the consequences so hardly that my mind turns like fog and i cant see whats correct and what is not(if the email was sent or not).
    i might sound stupid but it is a real issue and the same is happening with every basic thing in my life whenever i start thinking too much.
    This turns my stress levels so high at work or when i want to close my house, the thoughts of the consequences if i do something wrong. I really need your advice cause ita killing me, or if you can provide me with the exact issue im facing so i can search more about it.
    I want to be confident of my actions without having to think about them and if i did them or not all over again all the time under the pressure of the consequences that attack through my mind.

    Thank you

    • Nicole Celestine

      Hi Roy,

      I’m sorry to read that you are struggling with intrusive thoughts. While I’ll note that our opinion is no substitute for a proper assessment by a psychological professional, what you’re describing certainly has some of the patterns associated with OCD/intrusive thoughts — particularly repeated ‘checking’ behaviors. Not stupid at all, but a real challenge faced by many with OCD.

      I’d suggest having a chat with a professional who can confirm and connect you with the right source of support. And in the meantime, I’d take a look at this book if you’d like to start working through some of these challenges on your own.

      I hope this helps, and I wish you all the best.

      – Nicole | Community Manager

      • Roy

        Thank you!

  22. Omar

    I’ve been having thoughts of my fiancé kissing someone I absolutely cannot stand since I found out about their little history a few months ago. Is this classified under PTSD? Is it something that won’t go away simply because I’ll never be okay with it? In that case it’s best to leave this relationship and spare her the unhappiness.

    • Nicole Celestine

      Hi Omar,

      Thank you for sharing. Based on what you have said, it sounds as though there may have been infidelity in the relationship. I’m unsure whether you’d classify your recurrent thoughts as PTSD, but it’s perfectly understandable that these thoughts would be on your mind; healing will take time, and if you’d like to continue the relationship, rebuilding the trust in the relationship will also take time.

      I think a first step is probably to have a discussion with your fiancé to decide whether you are both committed to working on the relationship, and if so, find some resources to help you through (a good one is After the Affair by Janis Spring).

      I hope this helps.

      – Nicole | Community Manager

  23. Kelly

    My son has been having intrusive thoughts. He’s only 9 and is suffering. It’s a thought of his baby sister. What do I do? Where do I start?

    • Nicole Celestine

      Hi Kelly,

      I’m sorry to read that your son is struggling with intrusive thoughts. I can’t know your personal situation, nor do I know the specific nature of the intrusive thoughts, but I think a first important step will be to have a conversation with your son to ensure he is not being harmed (a possible trigger for intrusive thoughts). I would suggest taking a look at the information here for having a conversation with your son, and should you discover anything untoward is/has taken place, take the necessary steps to get help and keep your son safe and out of harm.

      Secondly, if your son is struggling, I’d suggest making an appointment with a psychologist to talk about what is happening. All I can do is speculate, and that is not a substitute for the attention of a physician who is able to interview your son and make a diagnosis/provide support. In the meantime, you can reassure your son by reminding him that his thoughts are nothing to be ashamed of. Many people at many stages of life experience intrusive thoughts, but it’s how/whether we let them dictate our behavior that counts. Again, a psychologist with a background in OCD/intrusive thoughts can help provide strategies and a safe space for your son to air his thoughts.

      I hope this helps.

      – Nicole | Community Manager

  24. Josie

    This is a fantastic article, thank you. It’s not often that I find an article so thorough, and full of easy to follow advice, as well as citing references and further reading. I’m feeling more reassured and less anxious already, and that’s before trying the suggested techniques. I’m going to check out the rest of the site now!

  25. Miky

    I have intrusive thoughts very often and they can vary! It’s very scary, and I find myself dwelling which makes it worse ‘like am I crazy?? And would I do it’ Always needing reassurance. I don’t know what to do. And I don’t want to go on medication That’s why I haven’t told my doc about it because I’m scared they will just prescribe medication!!! Would therapy help? It’s causing me stress as I am an over thinker, and I’ve had it since I was a very young child. It could be worse right now because of isolation.. This article was great, and made me feel some what normal and not alone. Does anyone have any advice on natural ways of dealing with this? My intrusive thoughts can be hectic from self harm, to harming someone (I know I don’t want to, of course but I feel like maybe I’m crazy if I could be thinking that?? What if it happened.. what If I did why would these thoughts come into mind??? Would I do it??? Bla bla bla then I’m over Analysing it for hours and it can make me feel very sick and scared) a lot of other random things pop up to it’s horrible… again thank you so much for this article!!! It does make me understand I am not alone.. Thank you so much!!!!!!!

    • brooke h

      OMG, I feel the same way it started out of no where. where I feel so scared to be alone with my child. im speaking to a therapist now hopefully it helps.

      • Mary Martin

        From time to time I get these intrusive thoughts where I am afraid I will harm someone although I know I never will the thoughts are still there and it makes me feel depressed, I want to just get on with my life I really have no idea where these feelings come from, I am generally a very quiet person and feel sometimes people take advantage of me.

        • Nicole Celestine

          Hi Mary,

          I’m sorry to read that you are struggling with intrusive thoughts. It’s important to be kind to yourself and remember that these thoughts are occurring through no fault of your own. Likewise, there is no truth to them (i.e., just because you think these thoughts, it does not mean you will act on them).

          Given that these thoughts are affecting your life, I’d suggest having a chat with a professional (e.g., your GP) who can connect you with the right source of support. The right therapist will also be able to work with you regarding your experiences in your relationships (e.g., regarding boundaries, assertiveness, confidence) to help ensure you are not being taken advantage of and have positive, mutually beneficial connections with others in your life.

          I hope this helps, and I wish you all the best.

          – Nicole | Community Manager

      • Kim

        Hi there, I was looking for some help or advice on intrusive thoughts and so glad I found this site. I am going through the same thing now, scared to be alone with my child incase I freak out. I am living in fear because of this, I’m too over protective and see danger everywhere. I will try anything to make this stop. I will try these techniques but Any other here will be greatly appreciated, thh

        • Nicole Celestine

          Hi Kim,

          I’m sorry to read that you’re struggling with intrusive thoughts. I suspect you might find some comfort in this article, which highlights how intrusive thoughts do not equate to wanted actions. It speaks about someone who tends to panic/worry about the consequences if they were to act on their intrusive thoughts, and the clarity she gained following a discussion with her doctor/psychiatrist.

          By practicing the strategies here, you may be able to alleviate some of the ‘panic’ associated with your intrusive thoughts and get better at recognizing your thoughts for what they are — just thoughts. And as always, if you haven’t already, I’d recommend having a chat with your doctor to get some additional support if you feel your intrusive thoughts are affecting your life.

          I hope this helps, and I wish you all the best.

          – Nicole | Community Manager

      • Nellie

        Omg,my thoughts are the same,now my children are grown,my thoughts are sexually eplicit,and usually it feels beyond help.It feels like I did these things,and usually they are from years ago,I’m stumped and I’ve been at this all my life,I’m 49, so hormone imbalance is there as well,but I don’t want anymore meds,any suggestions?

        • Nicole Celestine

          Hi Nellie,

          I’m sorry to read that you’re having trouble with intrusive thoughts. I continue to read more on this subject as new comments come through on this post. I’d suggest having a read through these to see whether any of the links or book recommendations resonate with you. Additionally, I recently found this article highlighting the benefits of Exposure and Response Prevention therapy as a possible treatment for these sorts of intrusive thoughts. I’d suggest taking a read and perhaps floating the idea past your doctor, who can refer you to a therapist trained in this practice.

          Also, I’ll note that there are various different forms of therapeutic treatment you can try alone or in combination with medication. Doctors have a responsibility to give you a variety of options, therapy included! 🙂

          I hope this helps and best of luck.

          – Nicole | Community Manager

  26. Krithika

    Actually I am dealing with sexual intrusive thoughts from past few months. And I was really scared of it but this post made me think this is normal.
    Thanks for that.
    I want you people suggest me some book for this thoughts

    • Nicole Celestine

      Hi Krithika,
      I’m sorry to hear that you have been struggling with your intrusive thoughts but am glad to hear this article has helped. I would recommend checking out this book for some resources and strategies. Much of the advice that applies to intrusive thoughts in general will apply to sexual intrusive thoughts. Please also don’t be afraid to reach out to a professional therapist if you feel that you could use some extra support or some to talk to.
      I hope this helps.
      – Nicole | Community Manager

      • Imari

        In my first pregnancy, i had lasting intrusive thoughts about the child being albino, what if i have cancer, what if i’m lesbian. These is when i discovered that i have OCD. Recently,I have intrusive thought what if i would pack up and leave my husband. It feels embarrassing even as i type this out. It feels people would start doubting my love for him. It feels scary that i might get feedback like, “if you think it, then it means it’s true”. These Horrifying thoughts makes me feel like i am about to do it and actually is happening inside of me. What saddens me worse is that in this period of thought, it feels like am losing connection with him. I know i never had intention to leave or for divorce, but suddenly my mind started finding reasons why it would happen, because why would this thought pop. …I value my family life so much. This is almost disabling me mentally & emotionally. I feel like I’m losing my mind each time they pop. I’m scared of my mind, of being scared. This article is empowring, but it’s feel scared of relaxing. I feels strongly compelled to continue analyzing these thoughts.

        • Nicole Celestine

          Hi Imari,

          I’m very sorry to read about your struggle with intrusive thoughts. It’s good that you now have a label for your condition (OCD). I would try to remind yourself that you are not your condition. Nor are your intrusive thoughts a reflection of how you feel toward your husband and family, who you clearly love — they’re a symptom of your condition. By reminding yourself of this as much as possible, my hope is that you will feel less shame.

          It’s also important to remind yourself that your thoughts are not necessarily true, so when you feel the intrusive thoughts coming on, as hard as it is, try to resist the temptation to overanalyze them. Rather, let them come, pass without acting on them or dedicating mental energy to them, and accept that they will likely return.

          I’d recommend checking out some of the books I’ve recommended to the other commenters here, and if possible, connect with a professional therapist in your area to get some support.

          All the best, and I hope you begin to see some improvement soon.

          – Nicole | Community Manager

        • court

          This is me! I feel so horrible. I have experienced intrusive thoughts 3 different times in my life and they always come on when I’m extremely stressed or anxious and have let it go for too long.
          My husband is my safe place so for the intrusive thoughts this time to be around me leaving. I feel so so alone. And like a horrible person because he is an incredible husband!

  27. Shane

    Hi there,
    I’ve been struggling with intrusive thoughts for a long time now, I was Young when it started and didn’t no what the hell was going on. It could me so long to dulge into articles about it cause quite frankly I was scared of what I’d find.
    But this post has giving me so much reassurance and help understanding how to deal with it and what it really means which is absolutely nothing. What would you recommend for been the most effective way to deal with negative intrusive thoughts is ?

    • Nicole Celestine

      Hi Shane,
      I’m glad to read that you’ve found some comfort in this article. I wish I could recommend you one ‘most effective’ way to handle intrusive thoughts. But in reality, different techniques and approaches will work differently for different people. You may find that you need to try a range of different techniques to build up your toolkit of responses to these thoughts.
      What’s important is that you get as many tools in that toolkit as possible. That means trying lots of different techniques.
      I’d recommend checking out this book for some exercises you can use to get started. What I’ll also recommend is that you work hard to maintain a healthy lifestyle with sufficient sleep, a good diet, and exercise. Ensuring balance through these habits always tends to help.
      Good luck!
      – Nicole | Community Manager

  28. Mary Vogenberger

    Thank you for this article. This might sound crazy, but I usually don’t have particular intrusive thoughts, just the thought that I’m thinking and it’s distracts my focus in what I’m doing. I will be living normally when all of a sudden I realize I’m thinking that I’m thinking, which is in itself horribly distracting and creates anxiety and depression. I have no idea why I have recently started doing this. Rarely I think of bad past experiences some in childhood that I have not thought about for over 50 years. I am under a lot of stress as I live in an Independent Living Facility due to my husbands dementia, which is stressful in itself. I also have a friend that thinks this same way also. …just thinking that I’m thinking. I just want to be happy, and go on and lead a normal non distracting/thinking life. About 15 years ago when my thyroid was out of wack I had problems with depression and was given Paxil in which I had suicidal thoughts. I immediately quit Paxil, and at that time found a holistic doctor that took me off the Synthroid/T4med thyroid med I was on, put me on a compounded porcine thyroid med which includes all the thyroid hormones, and have been fine ever since except for now. I did a DNA Pharmacogenomic test which did state SSRI’s showed Gene-Drug Interaction and thus was warned not to take them. I am thinking about starting a SNRI drug Rffexor XR in which my DNA testing showed was OK for me & recommended to take.

  29. Erose Al Muttaki

    This article was really useful,because I’ve been suffering from it for several months,but didn’t know what was going on in my mind.Everytime I tried to remove those thoughts out of my mind,it would create a root of and get into my mind more. But if those thoughts come into my mind again,will I just let them through,or try to get rid of it?

    • Nicole Celestine

      Hi Erose,
      In their seven recommended steps to help address intrusive thoughts, Seif and Winston (2018) suggest that you do not try to push the thoughts away. They recommend, however, that you do not engage with the thoughts, act on them, or try to uncover their meaning. Rather, just let them come and eventually pass, and fully anticipate that they will return later down the line.
      So, it’s about not fighting or resisting the thoughts, but not engaging them either. Definitely check out some of the book recommendations we list for more practical exercises and techniques you can use.
      Hope this helps!
      – Nicole | Community Manager

  30. Greg

    Hi! I really enjoyed this article. I’ve been struggle with intrusive thoughts for about a week now. This really helped put it to perspective. I try the method of letting the thought pass and try not to dwell on it. It works sometimes but what should I do if the thoughts keep coming?

    • Nicole Celestine

      Hi Greg,
      Glad you enjoyed the post. As you’ve found, some intrusive thoughts will be more persistent than others; you may need to employ different strategies for them to pass. I would recommend this book for a range of practical thought exercises (it’s available as a Kindle book so you can get started right away).
      Hope this helps.
      – Nicole | Community Manager

  31. Wendy

    Thank you for this information & reassurance. I have had issues with intrusive thoughts for long time & usually work through them but have residual guilt & fear. Since Covid, I too am struggling more. I hate the raw feeling that I have now after these plague me. Anyway, thanks for the recommended books, I ordered a couple from Amazon

    • Nicole Celestine

      Hi Wendy,
      Glad this information was helpful, and please know that you’re not alone re: the impact of COVID on worsening intrusive thoughts.
      I hope you find some useful guidance in the books.
      – Nicole | Community Manager

  32. Love

    Thank you for so much for this, I thought I was going crazy but it feels so nice to see that I’m not the only one suffering from these thoughts

  33. Jamie

    I just want to share for anyone reading the comments…
    I had terrible intrusive thoughts over the winter. All day long, it seemed. As a mom this really bothered me, because they make you feel like you are an unsafe person.
    After a little research I started taking GABA (1000 mg a day). And my invasive thoughts are GONE completely. They pretty much immediately ceased.
    I have stayed on 500 mg Gaba for maintenance.
    I hope this helps someone.

  34. Kiyo Tan

    Thank you for this! I am well aware of the fact that I have OCD and because of the said disorder, my life has been affected so much to the point that I’ll hyperventilate if I try to fight against it or do so as much. Lately, a horror movie has triggered these intrusive thoughts inside my head, including choking a loved one to death or stabbing myself with a kitchen night I’ve felt so disgusting. I’ve felt like I’m the worst person on Earth for having such gruesome thoughts.
    BUT, thanks to this, now I know that I’m not the only one suffering because of these thoughts. To those who experience the same things as I, remember this. The repulsiveness that you’ve felt the moment that you’ve thought of those kinds of things, that is a good sign. That, itself, proves that you aren’t sick in the mind like what your thoughts have made you believe.

    • Nicole Celestine

      Hi Kiyo,
      So glad you found some comfort in the article. What you note is true — across the board for many principles in psychology. It’s often the case that we shouldn’t judge ourselves for our immediate thoughts, but rather, our secondary reactions to those thoughts. Thinking about what we’re thinking in this way is also important and valuable for building metacognitive awareness.
      – Nicole | Community Manager

  35. Joe

    Hi I really appreciate this post. Ever since Lockdown I have had really bad anxiety and intrusive thoughts about things I really don’t want to see, I was mentally disturbed and everything I did I still seen these thoughts in my head. I thought this only happened to me and didn’t realise I could have one of or even two of these health issues. Just reading this post has cheered me up. Thanks you so much !!

    • Nicole Celestine

      Hi Joe,
      Stressful situations like lockdown can no doubt trigger or worsen intrusive thoughts and anxiety. I’m glad you’ve found some comfort in this article, and of course, you’re not alone in what you’re experiencing! I hope some of the resources throughout this post have been helpful for you.
      – Nicole | Community Manager

  36. RG

    Dear Courtney – thank you for writing this very well-researched article. I’m a male in my mid-30s. I have been experiencing intrusive thoughts since many years but it has accelerated more in the last 4-5 years and is now at an all-time high. I kept telling myself that there was nothing wrong with me, and never bothered to research. I also didn’t know what to call what I was experiencing – I didn’t know this was called “intrusive thoughts” in the field of mental health. I had my own name for this (“bad thoughts syndrome”) and only a chance play of search terms landed me on this article. Reading this has opened my eyes, and led me to realize that I suffer from mild clinical depression, OCD, ADHD and light forms of bipolar disorder in varying degrees. This is the cause of my recurring intrusive thoughts. I’m glad to know who my demons are so I can now work through a way to help myself. I’m not able to read long books associated with mental health (ADHD) but felt some solice in some tips provided at the end of the article. Are there more such short summaries or tips? Also thank you to everyone else who has shared their thoughts here.

    • Nicole Celestine

      Hi RG,
      I am glad you found some solace in this article and am sorry to read that you have struggled with intrusive thoughts for so long. I have two recommendations. Firstly, if you find that you are okay with listening to books, the book I recommended to another commenter ‘Overcoming Unwanted Intrusive Thoughts’ is available as an audiobook. Another recommendation is to check out our post containing 25 CBT techniques, which may help you in moments when you are experiencing these thoughts.
      I hope this helps!
      – Nicole | Community Manager

      • RG

        Thanks for the info Nicole. Appreciate it.

        • jamie

          Hey RG,
          Please see my comment on how taking gaba helped my intrusive thoughts. They were terrible and persistent, even with cognitive behavioral therapy. It may help you.

  37. Lorelei

    I’ve had intrusive thoughts since 3rd grade and am still terrified of them to this day. My mind always tells me dark thoughts that give me anxiety and even though I know I’d never do them they’re still there. When I was in 3rd to 5th grade it was pretty rough, I’d be mean to kids and I also liked to steal things from them (mostly Pokémon cards and mini stuffed animals but I still regret it) and my intrusive thoughts are telling me that I’ll grow up to continue to steal things even though I haven’t stolen since 5th grade. They also tell me things like “what if you pick up this knife and stab someone” or whatever, and can get pretty scary! Thank you for making this article because me and a lot of others really needed coping mechanisms for these thoughts.

    • Nicole Celestine

      Hi Lorelei,
      I’m sorry to hear you’ve struggled with intrusive thoughts for such a long time. What you’re describing sounds like it must be very frightening, indeed. If you’d like some more resources to help, I’d encourage you to check out the book Overcoming Unwanted Intrusive Thoughts by Sally Winston and Martin Seif. The authors have excellent reputations for doing good work in this space, so I’m sure there’d be information in the book that could help you.
      – Nicole | Community Manager

  38. Brianna

    I just wanted to say thank you for this article. And any other resources or advice you may have I would appreciate it. I’m located in northern california.

    • Nicole Celestine

      Hi Brianna,
      Glad you found this post helpful. If you are looking for more resources, I’d suggest checking out our free mindfulness tool, as mindfulness is a widely recommended practice for helping with intrusive thoughts. You can access the tool here.
      – Nicole | Community Manager

  39. Collette

    Lockdown has caused my anxiety to become a bigger part of my life and my mind tends to go overboard and obsess over something whether it happened or didn’t happen. I feel like sometimes I feel the hurt or pain even though it never happened. I never realised how powerful your brain can be. But this article makes me feel normal and like I can help ease it. I was ok before lockdown but I think being stuck just made me try occupy my time and overthinking is something my mind loves to do. So thank you!!!

    • Nicole Celestine

      Hi Collette,
      We’re glad you found some comfort in the article. Indeed, lockdown has been a challenging time for many around the world, so know that you are not alone. Mindfulness practice can be a huge help for getting obsessive thoughts and anxiety under control, so I encourage you to check out our free resource on the topic if you are interested.
      All the best.
      – Nicole | Community Manager

  40. Nick

    Wow, you have seriously opened my eyes on my mental health. I have checked sooo many of the boxes on everything mentioned and I had felt that I was going crazy and becoming mentally disturbed. Sometimes I would convince myself of things that never happened and it’s scary. I have always feared my mind and even though these are hard to hear and admit, I am finally doing it. I need to work through my fear and use these to develop a healthy mental future for myself and family. Thank you so much.

    • Nicole Celestine

      Hi Nick,
      We’re glad to read that our article has resonated with you so deeply. We sincerely hope you succeed at developing a healthier relationship with your mind.
      All the best!
      – Nicole | Community Manager

  41. Lyndsay

    I have had many episodes through my life of unwanted thoughts . I have learned over the years that they return at times in my life when I am struggling. Meditation has always helped as have mental images of releasing them such as undoing a zip over my head and imagining them gushing out … weird i know but works for me! Being out of my normal routine initially made me try and fill every minute which wore me out and my thoughts came back just as I gave myself permission to take time out. I now feel that I am getting back to a better balance again, and for me walking and yoga as well as watercolour painting and learning to play the ukulele amongst other activities have been my saving grace. I have even been swimming in the local river! Be kind to yourself x

  42. John

    Please any help on how I can stop heart palpitations?

    • Aidan

      John, I used to get them all the time. Stop (or reduce) caffeine. I also get them if I take any ibuprofen. Let me know if you’re feeling better.

    • Nicole Celestine

      Hi John,
      If you are experiencing regular heart palpitations, I’d suggest going to get a check-up with your general practitioner. Chances are, they’ll refer you to a heart specialist for testing.
      Keep well!
      – Nicole | Community Manager

  43. Lucy King

    Hi ,
    The past few days i have been really worrying about the thought that everyone i know is just full of blood and organs and bones and that’s it. Its hard to explain but whenever i look at my family i just think of whats under their skin and how the whole world is just full of this. This thought isn’t like any other intrusive thoughts i’ve had as i cant distract myself because i’m reminded of it everytime i see a person.
    I’m panicking and feel like i don’t have help because everyone in this world is human but that’s the thing i’m afraid of so how would that help.
    Please give me tips

    • Guwin

      Do not worry, I have had intrusive thoughts for over 25 years, from when I was 20. Anyway for the first 15 years I had no idea what they were and really used to get worried to the point of a breakdown when I had an episode, which usually took 6 months for me to settle down and function 100 percent again. Then I read an excellent book about intrusive thoughts and it changed my life. It basically told me all the myths about thoughts that I believed were true, how they are not facts have no meaning unless you give them it and do not represent you or your character. It’s a great book by Sally Winston and can be bought on Amazon. No I still get the thoughts and feelings that come with them but both do not bother me any where near as much as they used to, because now I know they are meaningless thoughts that just pop into your head and then go just accept them as thoughts with no meaning and carry on, no matter what the thought just say, whatever and carry on with what you are doing. This has worked wonders for me. Anyway, I used to and still do get bizzare thoughts like a picture of a brain when I’m talking to someone or similar weird thoughts, but I let them pass on by saying whatever and they usually don’t come back again for a long time, but if they do then so what it’s just a thought that means nothing let it go and move on.

      • Lucy King

        Hi Guwin,
        Out of curiosity, what were the thoughts you were having? I feel like it won’t get better, i can barely even look at my family or even sometimes myself. They have all noticed I’ve been acting different. I know that I just need to accept it as a thought but at the same time it is real life and I’m only realizing it now

        • Niki

          It will get better. I thought the same thing but as bad as it was in June, my OCD has calmed down 70%. I am hopeful, I’ll be good in another few months as long as I keep talking kindly to myself, meditating and self hypnosis.

  44. John

    Thank you for this it really helps and have started recovering.I have been really bothered by these thoughts for the past few days.it really helps.Thanks once more

  45. Hassan B

    Thank you Courtney for such a great article, I will give the tools a shot so that I can beat the OCD thoughts.

  46. Bethany

    Ever since I became pregnant with my second child I have not been myself. I had a rough pregnancy and lost so much of myself after he was born. When I read this ALOT of these things hit right on the nail. It’s been almost 3 months now and I am still at battle. Doing better in a lot of ways but things are still coming up. And those intrusive thoughts seem to almost always take up my whole day. It’s exhausting and debilitating. Because I’ve had some major trauma and major change around pregnancy and time of my son I’ve been battling (the most) with sleep. The fear of sleep, the fear of a nap. It is the strangest thing and never in my life before have I ever given it one thought. Amongst many other things, I will obsess over myself being tired, if I’ll get rest/nap, if I’ll sleep at night, get enough sleep to tackle the next day. And the fear isn’t just sleep but falling asleep. When trauma all started is when my insomnia started, I would try and sleep or get to sleep and wake up or be jolted awake with a racing heart (pounding) and scared. And then I would be scared to try and fall back to sleep because of that potential scare/jolt. It got so bad I had to try a medication to help me sleep, and my husband and I and the kids had to stay with the in-laws for awhile because I couldn’t cope the next day. So this became even deeper. It would get to the point that I would rest my eyes during the day with the baby and lay there feeling myself drift but instead of any jolt my mind would skip over the (falling to sleep) stage and be on over drive just left there thinking and thinking. This sometimes was an all night event, even with the meds. This became a bad pattern of always being fearful of sleep. Things started to turn around as I’ve had much support from family, God, natural herbs and that sleep aid (not sure how much it helps) but things started improving. I still dealt with anxiety off and on throughout the day, intrusive thoughts about other things and obsessing over how I felt physically, how I was mentally and how to take care of my kids etc. it’s been an on going battle. A very scary, exhausting on going battle. But one thing I felt was getting better was my sleep etc. and then one night it happened again, our bedtime routine was out of wack because we had company over and I was (not fully aware) but stressing out about things before hand. And it took me about 2 hours to finally sleep. All because I had that heart racing upon sleep and the thought of fighting sleep, behind groggy from the meds and not liking that feeling and the fear of not being able to ever go to sleep. So many irrational fears left me in internal agony. This stuff is no joke, especially when it affects your sleep, on top of having a newborn who affects your sleep already. Finally I slept about 4-5 hours of broken sleep. But I believe I slept, so it isn’t something I can’t do. But I’m not going backwards, I’m only going forwards and this was just a hiccup. This is amongst other things I’ve been trying to cope/deal with and overcome. This will not be my life forever, just a short season I have to learn and get through with the help of God, (guided drs), natural remedies and family/support. This article was good to me because it helped me see that I can have a definition for what’s going on, and other have experienced similar situations and or obsessive behaviors. We are not alone guys! I’m praying for every single one of us that we can and will get through this!!! I am nervous a bit about medications though and how they can potentially make things worse, and the only way to find out is to test them :/… I’m not sure if what I’ve taken has made anything worse, I just know I’m in the midst of all this looking for a way out, a “cure” a way to get back to quality of life.

    • Brianna

      Thank you for sharing bethany. It too got worse for me after I had my 1 st daughter. I’m grateful to see another woman like me trusting God and working through this. We aren’t alone. Id love to connect with you sometime.

      • Miky

        I have intrusive thoughts very often and they can vary! It’s very scary, and I find myself dwelling which makes it worse ‘like am I crazy??’ Always needing reassurance. I don’t know what to do. And I don’t want to go on medication!!! It’s causing me stress as I am an over thinker. This article was great, and made me feel some what normal and not alone. Does anyone have any advice on natural ways of dealing with this? My intrusive thoughts can be hectic from self harm, to harming someone (I know I don’t want to, of course but I feel like maybe I’m crazy if I could be thinking that?? What if it happened..) a lot of other random things… again thank you so much for this article!!!

        • Nicole Celestine

          Hi Miky,

          I’m glad you found some comfort in this article. If you want to know what it is definitively occurring, please make an appointment with a psychologist to talk about what is happening. All I can do is speculate, and that is not a substitute for the attention of a physician who is able to interview you and make a diagnosis.

          There are ways of addressing intrusive thoughts without necessarily needing medication, and a psychologist can point you toward these options and give you strategies to help. In the meantime, I’d recommend checking out some of the books I’ve recommended to others in these comments, and also, I’d reassure you that experiencing intrusive thoughts does not make you ‘crazy,’ as you are not your thoughts. You have control over your behaviors and can take steps to reduce the impact of intrusive thoughts in your life.

          I hope this helps, and I wish you all the best.

          – Nicole | Community Manager

    • Nicole Celestine

      Hi Bethany,
      Thank you for sharing your story. What you’ve described (anxiety around falling asleep) is called somniphobia, and as you note, it can be very debilitating for sufferers and their families. I was relieved to read that you have found some relief. There are also specialized CBT therapists who can support you with somniphobia. You can read a bit about that here.
      Best of luck, and I hope you continue to see improvements in your sleep.
      – Nicole | Community Manager

  47. colin sherwood

    i have intrusive thoughts ,i think they scared me as a child, my mother had depression most of her life, life is not easy for me from holding down a job,i allways wanted to find a partner, and i get sad when other are constantly blessed around me, i struggled with sexuality identity and it led me to meeting all sorts of the wrong people over the years, i never meet happy joyfull people,mostly just more of the same, it makes me think i have physical problems, i get nigh sweats and can feel cold on a sunny day, it causes isolation and rumination and feeling lonely…i certainly didnt need a covid-19 epedemic to reming me of social isolation, it causes fantasy and allot of dreaming,i recently lost both parents it was nothing short of hell.. some i guess find a way of expressing it throug their talents….guards stop me on the street allot, .theirs anger that i didnt get to have children of my own..so much has happened , over the years , even relgion became complsive and let me believe tthat god had abandoned me..i go to the toilet allot …i dont have friends ,im lucky i have my brother..most of the people i meet are just people in the local town leixlip where i live in county kildare.. i find it hard to trust people now because i have met so many of the wrong people and it took me years to get away from facebook and chasing people on dating sites and going to bars to try and find love ..(theres a book on that one!) i know for sure i cant walk in anyone elses shoes .. i lookto others for reassurance that they cant give..i hope after corona virus and social distancing that human beings will treat one another a bit better , to a certain extent everybody has now experienced some of the issues i have battled with for years.. i still believe we all deserve a bit of happinees in this world.

    • Trevor

      Hey colin thank you for sharing, Sending you all the love. All these things in life dont define you, the mind will tell you they do but they are just the things that happened along your path. Stay strong, stay present and be the least judgmental version towards yourself. We are all capable and deserve the most unfathomable sense of love so dont let your emotions run you down. just watch them and send love to it all. Wishing you the best, also il be your friend!

      • A Person

        Hi,as ironic as this may sound,i’ve found about about intrusive thoughts just only,after watching a tiktok on instagram (haha its banned here).
        My thoughts come in out of nowhere,and they usually are like “If you dont switch this switch on and off 3 times you’ll die” or “if you dont eat that grain of rice(specifically one in a bowl)you’ll be haunted by a ghost” or “if you dont touch that wall something bad will happen” and etc.I always had thought that it was just a “me-thing” and i always blamed and questioned myself why i threathen myself with such horrible things.I never noticed how much impact this had put onto my life until just now.Its so scary that it feels like im harming myself and giving myself inconvieniences.And sometimes they just come just like that,not really any sentences in my head,i just automatically do an action over and over,(ie curling in my toes) and then there are thoughts like “do it exactly 4 for times or something bad happens” just pop up.
        I now know this is a real thing,i havent done much research but i am going to !! Its honestly really scary..i hope these thoughts dont make myself do anything really bad one day.Its really hard not to obey them as i think something bad is gonna happen if i dont.
        I also read that this is a type of OCD.I know that this comment section can be a proper diagnose but maybe a headstart would be great.Are these intrusive thoughts?Do i have ocd?

        • Nicole Celestine

          Hi A,

          Thank you for sharing your experience, and I’m sorry to read that you are struggling with intrusive thoughts. Yes, OCD and intrusive thoughts are linked. I think the important thing is to be kind to yourself and not blame yourself for what you are experiencing. It may be helpful to remind yourself that intrusive thoughts are symptomatic of a diagnosable condition — they are not your fault. And you are also not alone in experiencing them. As you will read throughout this comment section, so many people suffer with these thoughts.

          Also, as you note, this post is no substitute for a proper psychological assessment, so I recommend that you reach out to a GP or psychological professional to get some support. That way, you can take the first step toward tackling your intrusive thoughts once and for all.

          I hope this helps, and I wish you all the best. 🙂

          – Nicole | Community Manager

    • Brianna

      Praying for you Collin. I have found some amazing people in the church. And other Christian ministries who have become so close to me and are there for me. I’m praying you find that too.?

    • Nicole Celestine

      Hi Colin,
      I’m very sorry for your recent loss, and as the other commenters have noted, please don’t give up hope. As you note, there is always a danger in looking for fulfillment outside of ourselves, but on the flip side, none of us can walk through life alone. So, I encourage you to find ways to build your self-esteem and self-confidence wherever you can (new hobbies, exercise, learning something new), while also finding people you can connect with (even if it is just through online groups or Zoom for the time being!)
      Indeed, we all do deserve happiness, and I sincerely hope you find yours on the horizon.
      – Nicole | Community Manager

  48. Kristen k

    Giving into/ attending your intrusive thoughts isnt a great idea.. some people have very scary physcotic intrusive thoughts that you definitely should not give into. And theres thoughts that if you continue thinking about it you can get a panick attack. Like mine, I’m very afraid of death it makes me panick and get anxiety,
    if I think about it too much. I always get death intrusive thoughts and I have gave into them a few times, I ended up getting so much anxiety I couldnt stop shaking. So the whole attend to your intrusive thoughts thing isnt a good idea. And for me they dont just feel like thoughts they feel like an evil entity in my mind just messing with me for fun.

    • Nicole Celestine

      Hi Kristen,

      Absolutely, you should not act on or indulge your intrusive thoughts. It is also important to avoid intellectually engaging with them. Rather, when they come, you should acknowledge the thoughts for what they are, intrusive thoughts, and attempt to let them go, thinking of them as something that just is but is not to be acted upon or mulled over. The danger of sitting with your intrusive thoughts for too long, as you note, can be panic attacks and other difficult physical responses.

      – Nicole | Community Manager

  49. Fear Of Flying Phobia

    Fantastic article, I have bookmarked this excellent website and may learn more later. keep up the great work!

    • Alhassan Bayomy

      Very useful article in healing OCD and negative thinking. Thank you Courtney.

  50. evelynor93

    I have suffered with intrusive thoughts for around 5 years now. It’s about harming myself. I witnessed a traumatic suicide when I was at a vulnerable period in my life and that stuck. I have chronic anxiety but normally cope quite well. I’ve only been improving since it began 5 years ago. However my intrusive thoughts come to attack me when I’m under stress – mostly in times of change. I struggle with the fear of ending my own life in a moment of feeling low. I get so so scared and this results in my feeling down and ruminating and analysing whether I am deeply depressed and actually want to die or not. This is exhausting. I am doing CBT and my therapist and psychiatrist have told me it’s OCD and anxiety. Most of the time I can function but there are times like now when it takes over and I struggle to see the light. I am searching for ways of battling this and hope there are solutions as it is really affecting my quality of life. Your article was helpful, thank you

    • Brianna

      You’re not alone. We can get through this.

  51. Michael Heard

    My intrusive thought lately is an image of a brain and then dwelling on the optic nerve connection to the brain. It’s odd, I know. Thanks for sharing this article, God bless, take care.

    • Ben

      Mines similar to Michaels. Every time I close my eyes my thoughts feels so scattered and there’s an image of my brain bearing down on my breathing and it stops me from meditating because I can’t get rid of the thought and image. Seems to be triggered by meditation. Any help would be hugely appreciated.

    • Guwin

      I have had these type of thought any many more bizzare thoughts, they used to scare me until I read about what thoughts actually are, then these thoughts lost their power over me. The reason they keep coming back is because you react to them as if they are important. You are telling your brain these are important thoughts that need to be watched and taken seriously so your brain complies and treats them like they are the only thing in the universe worth thinking about. Stop caring about the thoughts and in week or so they will begin to fade away. Train your brain to treat these thoughts with a whatever attitude, just ignore it it’s not important.

  52. RC

    I get intrusive thoughts of a sexual nature. Ever since i had psychosis i get images of naked body parts, it can be of my Mum, my Sister, its absoutely horrible!! I hate it! I don’t know why it happens and it can even happen with men too but not as much. I believe that i don’t want to have children because its a horrible world! I’ve been single for almost 10 years and it has happened because i feel like im depriving my body from what possibly the human body needs, like a relationship with another woman, but its not as easy of finding a woman to be with because i enjoy being in my own company anyway.. its just difficult because if i could stop them i would love it but my brain drifts off easily into this thought process. I suffer really badly from anxiety in all forms. Im diagnosed as paranoid schizophrenic but i wouldn’t say im as serious as some people with this illness. I just wished that i never had to live with this, and i hope that im not geared up to live with it in the future. I want to overcome these thoughts and im trying out meditation. I watched Dr. Joe Dispenza on Gaia on Amazon Video, its called Rewired 2019 and its really good, i would recommend anybody to watch it! If anybody has suffered with naked images of body parts comment on this and i will look back and see what your experience was and what your foing to help yourself overcome these thoughts.
    Kind regards

    • Rachel

      Thank you so much for commenting this. I was looking through the comments worrying if I was the only one having intrusive thoughts of a sexual nature. I had sexual trauma as a child, so my intrusive thoughts are about people who I should never have any thoughts about in a sexual manner and it is driving me up a wall to the point where I sometimes worry about why I’m having these thoughts and if they reflect on how I actually feel towards these people.

  53. Neenz

    I’m so incredibly glad I found this. My intrusive thoughts are about hurting my family. I felt like a horrific monster and I should be locked away from everyone.
    Now I realise that this isn’t uncommon in people with severe anxiety & it’s really not something I should be terrified of.

  54. Amelia Palechuk

    I have thoughts such as strangling my sister, accidentally falling on one of those hook things at the store and taking out my eyeball, stabbing people ( I’m not a murderer I just have these thoughts randomly)

  55. hamza ali

    i also have ocd and i have negative and violent thoughts every day it usually happens at night. it’s disturbing my life I am going to go to a psychiatrist tommrrow to get my treatment started please pray for me everyone. i pray that no one has to go through it god bless you.

    • Brianna


  56. Courtney Holder

    I’m dealing more with intrusive memories than intrusive thoughts. They are about real events, not processes, not the future, and not self-evaluations. I am aware that there is such a thing as “Real Event OCD,” but I am not sure that fits me either. I believe that the cause is different than those listed. I also believe that in my case, it is caused in part by traumatic brain injury as a toddler. I seem to have a belief that others don’t have that it is immoral to help anyone without first getting their permission. It is a deeply-seated belief on par with being religious. I’ve told my therapist that I believe forcing unwanted help on others is as immoral as r*ping a baby. Anyway, where I run into trouble is that nearly every single memory of forced/unwanted help plays at random in my head, and I’ve tried nearly everything to get rid of them. Starting an antidepressant seems to reduce them at first, and then once my body is used to them, they resume. I’ve tried a high caffeine regimen that seemed to help, but I quit cold turkey after having symptoms that bordered on psychosis, and it took years to get the intrusive memories back to a reasonable range. I once tried finasteride (hair-loss) and found a reduction in intrusive memories, but I try to leave that one alone since there are reports of finasteride users having more intrusive memories after stopping. I recently started using nicotine and that reduced intrusive memories for the first 3 weeks. But you can guess the rest. Not only did they come back, but I am also hooked on nicotine. I don’t know if a mood stabilizer would be of any use.
    And the intrusive memories and help aversion are interfering with my life. I find that for whatever reason, African-Americans are more likely to treat me like I’m stupid or that I need help when I don’t want it, don’t need it, and the type of help they are trying to force on me is not even appropriate for the situation. It angers me, and I feel it is a form of racism on their part. As a result, it contributes to the racial tension in my own life. The other week, an African-American stranger told me that the back tire on my bike was low. I already knew that, and I had the right to ride with it that way. And when I told the person that his unwarranted “help” was inappropriate and that folks of my ethnicity don’t care about things like that, he and others around became bossy and threatening. I did nothing wrong to make them think my life was their business, think I was too stupid to already know, or somehow think I didn’t have the right to make such a decision to ride with it like that. And I don’t know why minority members seem more likely to force unwanted help on me. If I could only brainwash myself that this is appropriate and learn to enjoy what I believe with every fiber of my being is immoral and abusive, then maybe I would be more likely to avoid conflict with people outside my race. And I don’t think ethnicity itself has anything to do with it, since it seems to be common more with those who belong to the lowest perceived socioeconomic group. I can’t even deliberately leave my shoes untied until I find an appropriate place to tie them without poorer people and those in ethnic minority groups pretending I need help or pretending I am too stupid to know about something I am deliberately putting off.
    If anyone has any ideas more on how to reduce the intrusive memories or to get strangers to ignore me without forcing help on me in unwarranted situations or otherwise pretending I am stupid or them trying to assert dominance over my life which is nobody’s business but my own, please let me know. And go ahead, don’t hold back any punches, call me a racist, accuse me of having a chip on my shoulder, or whatever else. I’ve heard it all before and would appreciate new information on things to try. Is it such a crime to be a fiercely independent, self-led loner?

  57. Kavya Hegade

    I get sudden strong thought which tells the future that some particular disease or bad things is going to happen to my loved one..These are the things about which I had worried a lot and wished not to happen..It makes me fear all the day, I can’t do anything..All day I worry repitatively..Are these thoughts true.. Please help me..

  58. Kavya Hegade

    I get sudden strong thought which tells the future that some particular disease or bad things is going to happen to my loved one..These are the things about which I had worried a lot and wished not to happen..It makes me fear all the day, I can’t do anything..All day I worry repitatively..Are these thoughts true.. Please help me.. Please

  59. Hawa

    The thought that pops up in my mind is a guy (my ex-boyfriend). I don’t want remember him. It really makes me stressed just him name popping in my head. It’s really frustrating, I don’t want remember him or anything related to him. Just don’t how to get rid of it.

    • charmaine

      hi i am from malta i have ocd and your post is like my toughts sorry to hear whT you are experience becouse i live it every day

      • Nadine

        Hi Charmaine, I am also suffering from OCD. Have you started any therapy? At the moment I am looking for an experienced ERP therapist in Malta. Are you aware of any good one? Wishing you all the best

  60. David

    My day is spent in turmoil dealing with intrusive thoughts. Many are repetitive and on topics in never used to give a care for. ACT methods tend to be the best method of managing these, but it’s challenging. It really gets me down, but you keep going.

  61. Owoyemi Olayinka

    My intrusive thought is imagining a crawling worm in my brain and it’s very disturbing. Thanks anyway

  62. Kc

    Thank you so much for writing this! From a person suffering I can tell you this article lifted a huge weight. So much good information! Can’t say thank you enough

  63. Unknown

    Great advice.

  64. Viviana Perez Rodriguez

    I’m fighting myself every day and inform about the books can help the citation. Is Tiring can’t do it.

    • Shaubhagya

      Dont worry i m fighting with my intrusive thoughts each sec my eyes gets wet when i see others happy n see my self depressed with my intrusive thoughts which are not real

  65. Dane Houtzamer

    I have been diagnosed with anxiety and ocd. I have the intrusive thoughts. I am on medication for it but thoughts persist and stay the same everyday which can be tiring. But will speak to my doctor soon.

  66. Caden Dahl

    I’ve come to the realization that I have a lot of junk thoughts that occur a lot during the day. Perhaps I do have ocd or something of that nature but I’ve never really had it checked out before. Now as you said, these thoughts are a sign that I could possibly have anxiety or ocd. It would probably be good to possibly see a doctor about it.

  67. Dr Carl Osei

    Good information. My daughter was on Amitriptyline 25gm for depression treatment. On day 5 we tried increasing dose to 50mg which immediately induced train of unwanted thoughts with compulsive reactions-obsessive compulsive disorder(OCD). Dropped dose to 25mg but OCD persisted. We withdrew Amitriptyline on day 10 and started Prozac 10mg. OCD with unwanted thoughts improved immediately and stopped 3 days later. Concluding, OCD can be drug induced.

  68. Tara

    This article helped me so much. The author was right on. Described what I deal with on a daily basis.
    Thank you so much – this changed the way I think about my OCD.

  69. johnnie Williams

    I am trying to remember the name for these abnormal thoughts. I have a friend with this and he told me “dys—something”.

  70. Kundan Kumar

    Very nice article.
    Thanks a lot.

  71. Mary

    I’m so glad I found this page. I’m going to be starting therapy for my PTSD and OCD. Thank you for writing this and making a lot of sense.

    • Craig Smith

      You’re welcome Mary, glad to hear the article is of value!

  72. Niall Doyle

    Ive suffered with intrusive thought since i was a child i ened up becomeing an alcholic and drug addict.. i never told anyone what i was thinking until i was 35 im now 5 years clean and sober.. i started takeing seroquel and mirap after about 6 months they stopped my intrusive thoughts. The thoughts come but they dont take control anymore.. i can cut a loaf of bread now without thinking of stabing someone which is some relief.. seroquel has helped me more then anything..

  73. Pablo

    This is very well written, well structured and informative, I found it VERY helpful. Thank you so much!.

    • Craig Smith

      Hi Pablo, thanks for your feedback, it’s greatly appreciated. I’m glad to hear the article was of value!

  74. Rajat Gupta

    Great article. Thanks for writing it out.

  75. deb

    Thank you.

  76. N Root

    This is very helpful and well-written, thank you!

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  78. Christopher

    excellent breakdown!

  79. Embankment Stairway

    An intrusive thought is an unwelcome involuntary thought, image, or unpleasant idea that may become an obsession, is upsetting or distressing, and can feel difficult to manage or eliminate.

  80. Bri

    Well articulated!

  81. Asma Majeed

    Very very informative


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