Answers to Common Questions About Affirmations
If you haven’t practiced positive affirmations before, you might have a lot of questions at this point. Here, we’ll address some of the most common questions asked about the topic.
Are Self-Affirmations Best Said Every Day?
There are no hard and fast rules about timing or frequency when it comes to practicing self-affirmations.
According to psychotherapist Ronald Alexander of the Open Mind Training Institute, affirmations can be repeated up to three to five times daily to reinforce the positive belief. He suggests that writing your affirmations down in a journal and practicing them in the mirror is a good method for making them more powerful and effective (Alexander, 2011).
Can They Help with Anxiety and Depression?
Positive affirmations are not designed to be cures for anxiety or depression, nor are they a substitute for clinical treatment of those conditions. But that’s not to say that they won’t help.
The idea of affirmations as a means of introducing new and adaptive cognitive processes is very much the underlying premise of cognitive restructuring. This is supported by a study of cancer patients that suggests that spontaneous self-affirmation had a significantly positive correlation to feelings of hopefulness (Taber et al., 2016).
Will They Boost Self-Esteem?
Affirmations can sometimes be very useful for boosting your self-esteem—but there’s a caveat.
The most important thing, according to self-affirmation theory, is that your affirmations reflect your core personal values (Cohen & Sherman, 2014). There is little point in repeating something arbitrary to yourself if it doesn’t gel with your own sense of what you believe to be good, moral, and worthwhile.
To have any kind of impact on your self-esteem, your self-affirmations should be positively focused and targeted at actions you can take to reinforce your sense of self-identity. Use your real strengths, or strengths that you consider important, to guide your affirmations.
Can You Improve Sleep With Affirmations?
A large number of anxiety-sufferers experience disturbed sleep (Staner, 2003). In the sense that affirmations can sometimes help to relieve anxiety, they may have some beneficial effects in promoting better sleep.
In addition, incorporating your affirmations into meditation can be relaxing and soothing. Meditation has been found to have numerous benefits in terms of sleep quality, so positive affirmation meditation could very well be a good way to improve your sleep (Nagendra et al., 2012).
If you are interested in trying this, you’ll find some audio and video below that may be helpful.
Are They Just Positive Mantras?
If you start digging into the academic literature, you’ll find that the terms “affirmation” and “mantra” are regularly used interchangeably. The same goes for more colloquial uses of the terms. There is a difference, though.
Technically, mantras are sacred words, sounds, or verses that carry more spiritual meaning than affirmations (Encyclopedia Britannica, 2019). Frequently said aloud or mentally, they are believed to have deep significance and they feature a lot in meditation. More specifically, according to Encyclopedia Britannica (2019):
“Most mantras are without any apparent verbal meaning, but they are thought to have a profound underlying significance and are in effect distillations of spiritual wisdom.”
Positive affirmations, in contrast, are described by the Psychology Dictionary as brief phrases, repeated frequently, which are designed to encourage positive, happy feelings, thoughts, and attitudes. They hold no spiritual or religious meaning in the traditional sense and can be used for many purposes.
Positive Affirmation Examples
Based on this definition, here are some examples of positive affirmations:
- I believe in myself, and trust my own wisdom;
- I am a successful person;
- I am confident and capable at what I do.
Listed below are more positive affirmation examples, focused on specific areas.
9 Positive Affirmations for Women
Looking for some ideas to create your own affirmations? Here are some nice examples:
- I choose to be happy;
- My life is taking place right here, right now;
- I’m gifted with and surrounded by amazing friends and family;
- I opt to rise above negative feelings and ditch negative thoughts;
- I am resilient, strong, and brave, and I can’t be destroyed;
- Nobody but me decides how I feel;
- When I lie down to sleep, everything is as it should be, and I rest content;
- I am in charge of my thoughts, and I don’t judge myself;
- I accept and love myself, thoroughly and completely.
These are adapted from a bigger list of 119 affirmations, written by certified self-development coach Barrie Davenport.
9 Positive Affirmations for Men
Here are some affirmations for men, including affirmations of self-acceptance and positive body image. These affirmations are based on a larger list of 30 affirmations and were adapted using the cognitive behavioral therapy idea of “negative core beliefs.”
- I am responsible for looking after me;
- By being myself, I bring happiness to other people;
- My goals and desires are as worthwhile as everybody else’s;
- Through courage and hard work, I can achieve anything that I set my mind to;
- I’m fine with who I am, and I love who I am becoming;
- Through my contributions, I make positive changes to the world;
- My body is amazing just the way it is, and I accept myself this way;
- I choose only to surround myself with supportive and good people;
- Whenever I fall down, I get back up again.
15 Positive Affirmations for Teens
Social pressures and academic stresses can take their toll on teens, but they can turn around negative self-talk and do something positive about they think and feel. Here are some affirmations that are well-suited for teenagers:
- I am a quick, capable learner;
- I believe in myself as a person and I believe in all my capabilities;
- I am unique and beautiful;
- Others respect me for following my own beliefs;
- If a few people don’t accept me, I’m fine with that;
- I forgive others for sometimes doing the wrong thing, and I forgive myself when I do the same;
- I am kind and good to the person I see in the mirror;
- I deserve to see myself as amazing;
- Whatever difficulties come my way, I have the power to overcome them;
- I was born strong, and I grow stronger every day;
- Today, I am going to trust myself and my instincts;
- I am good enough, and I am fine with just being me.;
- I treat others with respect, and they treat me the same;
- I choose to rise above the hurtful things that might come my way;
- I am working every day on the best me that I can be.
These positive affirmations for teens are inspired by this article from the Positive Affirmations Center, and this video by Jason Stephenson. (The video is highlighted again later in the article.)
11 Positive Affirmations for Kids
By learning to practice positive affirmations at a young age, kids can become much more prepared to use them when facing difficulties later in life (Bloch, 2015). These are very simple affirmations because the easier they are for young kids to remember, the more likely children will be able to practice them without an adult’s help.
- I am loved;
- I am creative;
- I am kind;
- I am brave;
- I am a responsible person;
- I will always do my best;
- I am unique;
- When I set out to do something, I am capable of doing it;
- I’ll always help others;
- I’m going to learn lots today because I am capable;
- I am important and a valuable person.
Similar affirmations for kids can be found at The Teacher Toolkit.
Everyday Positive Affirmations for Students
Students may find that affirmations are helpful for coping with the stress of academic life as well as their extracurricular and social lives. Here are some examples you or a student can use for motivation or inspiration.
- When I get a bad grade, I am motivated to do better;
- I am determined and I aim for the stars;
- I set high standards for my academic achievement. By putting in time and effort, I can accomplish what I set out to achieve;
- I appreciate my school, teachers, and classmates because they all play a role in helping me grow to be a better person;
- Even on days when I don’t make much progress, I am constantly learning. On other days, I make amazing progress toward my goals.
9 Positive Affirmations to Help Relieve Anxiety
Most people who have suffered from anxiety will likely know how important it can be to cut off negative thought patterns before they begin to spiral. These affirmations can be used at any time, and even those who don’t typically feel anxious may find them useful during stressful moments.
During times of anxiety or depression, this list of 72 positive affirmations can be used for reassuring yourself. A few examples inspired by this resource include:
- I am liberating myself from fear, judgment, and doubt;
- I choose only to think good thoughts;
- My anxiety does not control my life. I do.
Some other affirmations related to nonjudgment and mindfulness for anxiety:
- I breathe, I am collected, and I am calm;
- I am safe, and everything is good in my world;
- Inside me, I feel calm, and nobody can disturb this peacefulness.
More affirmations were found at Anxiety Gone. Here are some based on these principles:
- I recognize that my negative thoughts are irrational, and I am now going to stop these fears;
- This is just one moment in time;
- I’m not going to be scared by a feeling.
While practicing these affirmations, try to take deep, slow, soothing breaths. As you become more attuned to the flow of your breath in and out, try not to let your feelings distract you. Focus on the affirmation that you’ve put time into creating for yourself, and each time you practice, it will feel more natural.
5 Daily Affirmations for Depression
As with anxiety, depression is often linked closely to—if not underpinned significantly by—thought processes such as overgeneralization and cognitive distortions (Beck, 1964).
Selective abstraction is a common distortion that is associated with depression and describes the tendency to overexaggerate negative things while underemphasizing the positive. Affirmations can help us to try and correct this balance by acknowledging and focusing on more positive aspects of both ourselves and our lives.
Here are 5 daily affirmations you can adapt, as we have. You can also view them at their original source.
- I am not afraid to keep going, and I believe in myself;
- I have come this far, and I am proud of myself;
- This is just one moment in my life, and it does not define who I am;
- This is one isolated moment, not my entire life. Things will get better;
- These are just thoughts. Only I determine the way I choose to feel.
5 Positive Affirmations to Help Build Self-Esteem
Here are five positive affirmations that are designed to help you increase your self-esteem:
- I release negative feelings and thoughts about myself;
- I always see the best in others;
- I believe in who I am;
- I am on a journey, ever growing and developing;
- I am consistent in the things that I say and do.
These affirmations were adapted from quotes written by coach and trainer Caroline Rushforth.
Words of Affirmation to Use During Pregnancy
If you are expecting, here are some suggestions from midwife, reflexologist, and practicing nurse Marie Drake Boyle. These can even be useful during labor, she says.
- My baby is secure, loved, and safe;
- My baby is going to be healthy and at the best time for us;
- I trust my instincts and my body to tell me what I need when I am giving birth;
- Strong, healthy, good contractions will guide my baby into this world;
- I am relaxed, and my baby is going to be born easily.
Using Positive Affirmations at Work
Just like you can practice mindfulness in a quiet moment at work, there’s no reason not to take some time out to practice your affirmations at your desk.
Some examples might include:
- I do not need to rely on others judgment for acceptance;
- I do my very best, and that’s great;
- I am resilient and can handle problems with expertise.
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You forgot to include your citation of 1. (Epton & Harris, 2008) in your references.
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Good spotting! I can see this one was missing from our reference list. Here are the details:
Epton, T., & Harris, P. R. (2008). Self-affirmation promotes health behavior change. Health Psychology, 27(6), 746-752.
We have also added it to our post reference.
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I’m sorry that you are struggling with anxiety and panic attacks. If you are concerned about your medication (side-effects, etc.), I recommend speaking to your doctor, who may refer you to a psychiatrist to evaluate your dosage and medication. You may also want to consider combining psychiatric support with some form therapy so that you can address the root of your anxiety/panic attacks.
Again, your doctor should be able to connect you to this support.
I hope this helps and best of luck.
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Hi. How do you feel about subliminal suggestions that are barely audible on the conscious level but are supposedly heard subconsciously? Can they be effective?