10 Reasons Why People Don’t Meditate

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Are you interested in meditation but haven’t started a daily practice yet? Or maybe you think there is no point to it, or are not convinced of why you should do it?

People from all walks of life are practicing meditation and mindfulness – executives, health professionals, teachers, celebrities, soldiers, and athletes.

In the past few years, we have seen these subjects inundating popular media, so millions of people are trying meditation.

Still, there are many people that either don’t try it or don’t continue once they try it. As a long-term meditation practitioner, geek, and coach, I’ve observed the most common reasons that people have for not practicing.

Let’s have a look.


(1) “What’s the point? It’s just a New Age fad.”

Meditation is not just a fad – it’s something that people from different countries have been doing for centuries.

For centuries, people have been practicing it in search of peace, happiness, transformation, or simply to have more control over their lives.

The point of meditation is to gain control over our most precious tool: our mind, our attention. The state of our mind is the most determining factor of our success and our happiness. A person can have “everything” and yet feel miserable, hungry, anxious, inadequate.

Conversely, one can have very little and yet feel at peace and content in their mind. In athletic performance, business, career, and relationships, we see this again and again: no amount of skill or resources will help us if our mindset and internal environment are out of balance.

Meditation helps us master our own mind, by working on one of its key aspects: our attention. We can say that attention is like the flashlight of consciousness.

Whatever we put our attention on will exist for us, and will grow. Whatever we withdraw our attention from starts to wane, and soon it’s as if it didn’t exist anymore.

By mastering our ability to put our attention on the things we want (and keeping it there), and removing our attention from anything that is negative or not serving us, we gain the ability to create what we want in our lives and in ourselves.

So, the point of meditation? Training our attention. As a byproduct of the practice, we also get several health benefits, stress release, and if we are doing it successfully, will also experience a sense of peace and contentment.

You can see that meditation is a powerful tool that has been used for centuries, and is not just a passing fad.


(2) “It’s just a fancy name for relaxation, napping, or self-hypnosis.”

Relaxation is one of the basic effects of meditation; also, to a certain degree, it is one of its conditions. It also relaxes tensions in the body and calms the breath.

Meditation uses relaxation coupled with regulation of attention (focusing on one point), and introspection (looking inside rather than outside) to guide us to deeper states of consciousness.

Some people mistake guided meditations with a body scan for meditation. This is mostly relaxation (with some mindfulness), which can certainly help to relieve stress, but true meditation goes a bit deeper and helps to prevent stress in the first place.

Relaxation is like an appetizer; meditation is the main course.

Meditation is also not hypnosis. Self-hypnosis is normally induced by verbal self-suggestion (spoken or in the mind), where we direct ourselves to think, see, and feel certain things. It makes use of imagination and of the creative power of the mind. We use affirmations, imagination, and visualization to create a certain state of mind.

It works from within our conditioning, and its purpose is to alter our mental states. Many of the “guided meditation” videos and audios out there are mostly a type of self-hypnosis or relaxation.

In meditation, we typically don’t use imagination or evoke emotions (except for some types of meditation, like Loving-Kindness). We normally focus our attention either on a particular object (focused attention meditation) or on observing the reality of the present moment, without any attempt to add to it or alter it (open monitoring meditation).

The purpose is to quieten the mind, make it one-pointed, and perceive reality for what it is. It brings insight, realization, a silence of the mind, and allows us to break free from our conditioning.


(3) “Meditation is too hard. I can’t calm my mind.”

This depends entirely on our attitude. If we have strong expectations or are attached to goals and “timeframes,” then meditation will be hard for us.

Meditation is not a thing – it’s a process. This process brings several benefits but is also its own benefit. The key is to learn to enjoy the process. Let go of self-criticism, of comparison, and of expectations, as soon as they arise. Then meditation won’t be hard – nor easy – but simply an enjoyable and wholesome process.

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One reason why people feel meditation is hard is that they believe they should be fighting with thoughts, or actively trying to empty the mind.

“The only thing we do in meditation is to consciously withdraw our attention from engaging with thoughts, by focusing it on something else.”

There is no fight, no repressing, and no forcefulness about meditation. Fighting with thoughts will simply strengthen them, and lead us to an agitated state. The only thing we do in meditation is to consciously withdraw our attention from engaging with thoughts, by focusing it on something else. With this, the mind slowly calms down.

Meditation is simply the process of continuously regulating attention. The emptying of the mind may happen as a result of that, but we should not be holding on to that expectation.

We are not actively trying to “empty the mind,” but simply placing our attention on a single point, moment after moment. As a result, our consciousness gets stabilized and we arrive at a state beyond the mind.

Imagine we are trying to get some work done, and suddenly some loud music starts playing next to us. The more we try to “stop hearing it,” the louder we make it be inside ourselves. Instead, if we make an effort to focus our mind on something else, we will gradually forget about the music.

Don’t think about emptying the mind, or making it quiet. Simply follow the meditation instructions, and let everything else be.

Other’s believe that they need to have a quiet mind in order to meditate: “my mind is too restless, there is no way I can meditate.” Ringing any bells?

Yet, this is like saying that being fit is a requirement for going to the gym.

Having a “calm mind” is definitely not a requirement for meditation. In fact, having a restless mind is even more reason to meditate!

When you meditate for a while, you may see that generally speaking, nobody has a “calm mind.” Everybody needs some meditation.

Finally, you don’t need to sit in a lotus position to meditate. The essential element of the posture is keeping the spine absolutely straight, from your hips to your neck and head. As for the legs, you can sit cross-legged on a cushion if you like; otherwise, a chair will do.

Physical flexibility is not a requirement for meditation.

In the beginning, your only focus should be to create the habit of meditation. Resist the temptation to constantly evaluate yourself, and how you are doing. The very fact that you are sitting to meditate, daily, is replenishing your health, affirming your willpower, and slowly developing your internal mastery.


(4) “It takes years to truly benefit from it.”

Research shows that meditation brings great physical and mental health benefits after as little as 8 weeks of daily practice.

Of course, a Buddhist monk with 20 thousand hours of meditation will have reaped more benefits than a person who started doing 10 minutes a day one month ago. Meditation has many levels of benefits.

If you want to attain enlightenment or be in a fearless state beyond all suffering, then yes, it will take a while. But if all you want is better health and a bit more peace and balance in your life, then good news: many people start experiencing these after a few weeks.

Another way of looking is that meditation’s benefits are immediate. The practice itself is the benefit. You will usually feel better after all your meditation sessions – more relaxed, more focused, more rested. And it’s free; all it costs is your attention.


(5) “I don’t have time to meditate.”

Sorry, but I don’t believe you.

Try this exercise: during one week, take note of all the unproductive time that you spend in front of a screen (TV, smartphone, or tablet). Now set aside 20% of that time for meditation, and you’ll be alright.

There are busy executives who have not missed a meditation in years. If meditation becomes a priority in your life, you will find time for it. You can start with as little as 1~3 minutes a day, and increase slowly.

Some people even find that after they start meditating, they have more time in their lives. Suddenly they gain clarity on what is really important and stop spending time on things that don’t truly serve them.


(6) “Meditation is boring.”

Depending on your attitude towards the practice, you may feel like this. If you try meditation expecting to feel something fun or entertaining, you will find it boring.

In the modern world, where it is so easy to get instantaneous fun, still, we find millions of people carving time out of their busy days, every day, to practice. Throughout history, thousands of people actually abandoned everything in their lives to meditate – they must have found something deeply satisfying about meditation, isn’t it? Some of them were even members of royal families or rich merchants, and thus “had everything” they could have in terms of enjoyment.

Personally, the peace and enjoyment I get almost on a daily basis, sitting on my cushion, is unlike anything I’ve experienced in my life. It’s a rare pleasure, and one that is free depends on nobody else, and never feels repetitive.

That last sentence may have picked your attention. Dopamine, the “pleasure chemical” of the brain, is released in activities such as sex, eating, sports, taking drugs, earning money, listening to music, etc.

With time, and repeated exposure to the same pleasures, there is a tolerance for dopamine built into the neurons, so the reward for the repeated pleasure gradually diminishes.

Get your favorite ice cream and eat it three times a day, every day, and you’ll know what I’m talking about.

After a couple of weeks, the pleasure you get from it is a fraction of what you’d get if you ate it once a month. (Psychologists refer to this concept as hedonic adaptation.)

At this point, you either continue eating every day out of sheer habit – even though it’s not good for you and brings little rewards – or you switch to another source of pleasure.

Research has shown, however, that the dopamine produced by meditation does not suffer from the “down-regulation” of pleasure experienced in sex, food, money, etc. (source). Unlike the other “sources of happiness”, meditation is not only free but gets better the more you do it.

Don’t go towards meditation with a hungry mind, or with strong expectations. They will keep your experience on the surface. It takes time to develop optimal attitudes towards the practice; but, as much as possible, try to leave aside all expectations and “just do it”.

It’s a little bit like going to the gym. If you look at it, running on the spot and pulling iron is not really exciting. If you only do it for the sake of the results (nicer body), it will be a constant battle between the desire for the result, and the unwillingness to through that boring and tough training. However, if you learn to enjoy the process itself—and desire to get better at it—then you can keep at it long-term, and have better results also.


(7) “I need to be spiritual or do weird things.”

Meditation is a very old practice, and it was indeed created/discovered within religious contexts, with the purpose of achieving spiritual goals. However, for most techniques – especially as practiced in the West – there is nothing essentially religious about them.

If you want to do it as a simple body-mind exercise, you can. Many people practice meditation exclusively for health and well-being benefits.

You can practice meditation without needing to believe in anything. A Christian or Muslim can practice it, without any conflict with their own faith. The same goes for atheists and agnostics. Practicing meditation will not make you religious, just as doing stretches will not make you a Yogi.

There are thousands, if not millions, of Christians that meditate. (Read more about Christian Meditation)

For the same reasons, you don’t need to follow any rituals or wear special clothing, to meditate. Some people choose to do so because they find it helps them prepare the mind for meditation – but they are not essential to the practice. Use these elements if you like, and find helpful.

I have practiced meditation with these elements (incense, clothes, some ritual) when I was following Zen Buddhism. I found that when they helped to create a different atmosphere for the mind, improved focus followed. Yet, on the past 10 years I have no special element around the practice – I just sit on a cushion, in the corner of my room, usually in my pyjamas.

And my meditation is even deeper than before.

Also, it doesn’t need to include repeating a mantra. There are several meditation techniques, and many of them don’t including mantra repetition.


(8) “Meditation is escapism.”

Anyone that has done meditation for a decent length of time knows that it’s the other way around. Meditation makes many things that you are trying to run away from—in your life an in yourself—painfully clear.

The Oxford definition of escapism is [QUOTE]: The tendency to seek distraction and relief from unpleasant realities, especially by seeking entertainment or engaging in fantasy.

For escapism, you need something that gives you either distraction (like TV, social media, games) or unconsciousness (like alcohol and drugs).

Meditation removes all distractions, and gives you heightened awareness, so it’s not really an escape plan. If you start meditation with a “run away” attitude, you will probably be disappointed very soon. Everything you try to escape from is right there, in your mind, waiting for you.

All the not-so-pretty stuff we’re hiding or ignoring surfaces up.

On the other hand, it is true that some people do try to use meditation to avoid looking at their problems. Once they get skilled enough in the practice, they are able to bring their attention to a peaceful place, inside their consciousness, which is beyond all problems. (Shame on them, right?).

However, the blame is on their attitude, not on meditation. Meditation simply gives them a tool to control mind and attention; what they do with it is their choice. It’s just like saying that money is bad because it makes one selfish and evil—it doesn’t. It simply amplifies the personality traits that were already there, positive or negative.

Meditation helps you to know yourself, to see things more clearly and to control your mind. If you use this “power” to turn the blind eye on things that need real action outside yourself, don’t blame the practice.

More often then not, it will enable you to be more self-aware and more in control of your internal resources. For me, meditation has been a major enabler in my daily life, marriage, career, and martial arts practice.

Conclusion: meditation will not make you run away from your problems… It will take you to a place that is deeper than them.

From there you will emerge with the needed clarity and resources to meet them skillfully if you so wish.


(9) “Meditation is selfish.”

If you look at meditation as merely a way to experience happiness, inside yourself alone and isolated,  then one may argue that it is selfish. Still, are we not having other selfish pleasures in our lives? Are we not having “time for ourselves” in other ways? If so, meditation – even with this limited pursuit – is just another way of doing what we are already doing, just more efficiently.

But, truly, meditation is no more selfish than eating, sleeping, or taking a shower. It is an essential daily activity that human beings need to be able to live fully and function meaningfully. Yes, it is done alone, and yes, it does not “produce” anything tangible.

But what you get through the practice will positively affect those that interact with you and the output of your efforts, in personal and work life.


(10) “It will make me emotionless.”

The practice will make you less of a slave of your emotions. You will gain a greater perspective on them. You will know, experientially, that at any time you have the ability to follow the wave of emotion, or just let it be and hold your space. This is one of the aspects of this inner freedom that meditation brings you.

It’s true, you will be less reactive – but in a good way. You won’t lose the capacity to feel. Actually, feelings are more clear than before. You simply start to operate from a deeper place inside yourself, a place that is larger than your emotions and concerns.

I hope this post helped clear out some of the misconceptions that you might have had about the practice. The next step, now, is to start.

Giovanni Dienstmann is now dedicated to sharing his experience and insight with anybody that is inspired to grow, be it through his personal blog or in person. He is also a Meditation coach in Coach.me, which is a huge platform for developing habits.

About the Author

Giovanni Dienstmann is an international author, meditation teacher, coach and speaker. He is the creator of Live and Dare—the fifth most popular meditation blog on the planet—and author of the best-selling book Practical Meditation, which is available in seven different languages and has popularly been called “The Meditation Bible”.


  1. Najma

    I had the good fortune of reading your article. I found it very relevant and inspiring.
    I entirely agree with your explanations against the mentioned reasons.
    Not only it helps people who are opposed to meditation but also it helps the ones who are interested in meditation but it becomes difficult for them when it comes to practice.
    since we learn consciousness and self-awareness during the process, I suppose daily meditation is an enlightening experience which brings us happiness and satisfaction.
    People think their perception is limited but to the best of my knowledge, through the practice of meditation our ability to perceive expands and grows infinitely.
    Thank you so much for your helping article.

  2. Diana

    I don’t do it because I get just as deep or even a deeper sense of peacefulness and deep thought gardening. I get so lost I often get scared if someone comes up on me quietly. You can get into a deep state without sitting still. It is whatever works for you.

  3. Dark Knight

    Thank you for the article. I liked it. I think people are too busy in their life and have no time to see things like meditation. People are elected this practice to ignore. This wisdom and knowledge are there for thousands of years, people don’t see because they don’t want or they see it silly. I used to tell people about meditation, but one or two listen to it, others heard. that is the mindset of people.

  4. Radiant Holistics

    Hey, nice blog. I agree with you in some points. Thanks a lot for sharing

  5. Chris

    Great article! Thanks…I’m sharing it with my meditation students now.

  6. Dasari Jagadish Kumar

    Did you hear or read about Shivabalayogi?

  7. Ingeborg Braas

    Hey, This a wonderful article. I recently have done an exercise where you have to put your both feet on the ground and start and floating with your mind towards the sky and the beautiful blue colors! Ask yourself what do you see. Is it a nice place? Is it warm at this place you choose? When you are a few seconds there in this nice place you are going to ask yourself where is your house in 5 years time? Does it look good? You go back from this nice place towards earth again Your standing in front of your door now and this nice person who is YOU in 5 years from now opens the door.You are eye to eye with your future YOU! Did you do well? Did you create your Dreamlife? Did you find your purpose? Are you happy with the life you lead? It really gave me clarity and recently I have started to adjust my life and I am so much more happy than ever before! Meditations really help and so does mindfulness! Thank you for your beautiful article and website! It is a pleasure to read!

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